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Otherwise everyone starts taking things personally and ohh what a mess that can be. Currently I'm working on triggers and who sets them off. There are a couple of men I avoid. One is a groper..he's a little iffy....he's a sax player @ a restaurant I enjoy going to. He's (I guess) harmless...

I agree Junebug. It's both. Our friends have to have understanding as much as we do. :)

Yes. I should sue the mental health facility for preforming electric shock therapy on an 8yr old child. Me! Then give the proceeds to the police dept to help fund education about the dangers of aiding and abetting a crime.

My grandfather successfully used the police dept to get away with his crimes he also used the medical community to continue his abuse. He was seething with rage @ my "disobedience." My unwillingness to remain silent pissed the old bastard off. After they slit my wrist he took me to a state...

You have to admit Mother Nature came up with a near perfect defense against dangerous idiots and the trauma they cause. Repressed memories are an excellent solution!! LOL

@Notsowild When I first found this forum it set (my) triggers off too. Still does. It's very helpful in how we manage them. We don't know what each others triggers are. We can't shut this forum down. We can't shut the internet down. And we can't shut down life. Don't give up!

Hmm..I've tried to give you the benefit of the doubt. However you keep rambling. LOL Each of your post are becoming more vicious. Your "Uhm" has a sharky superior tone. Smugish tone. On the other hand...It's common for abuse victims to lash out. This particular thread is discussing how abusers...

Happiness: The feeling you get with the knowledge not a soul on this earth can steal your joy. Happiness. :D

My family has mocked our justice system for @ least 3 generations. Yeah...I'm curious as to how that happens.

One good coping skill... It means I skipped the anger process. Understanding I was surrounded by idiots and out numbered was a turning point. Anger is completely useless.

Interesting. So you believe the man who can manipulate good people is intelligent? Given his end result what does that really make him?

Try growing up with serial rapists. Just sayin....

Everyone has a purpose in life. My pain can help others. First stop.... police dept and the medical community.

I've overcome many horrific obstacles during the course of my life. There is/was no pre trauma to go back to. There's only me. There's nothing to compare me to. I'm happy! Its the simple things. I'm no longer in that environment. That alone will keep me happy FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE. The smile...

In my case that's one of my questions...how can someone so intelligent not understand the little girl they were treating is being abused by idiots? They're ALL idiots. In my grandfathers case I believe he conned good people. In my male sibling I believe it was a case where everyone thought he...

He's another example of an individual who preyed on the goodness of others. He understood emotional intelligence and used it against society. Some call that intelligence. I don't. Look where he ended up.

Excellent word! Same with my abusers. They enjoyed abusing me. They went to great lengths to cover their tracks too. They do that for a reason. They don't want to get caught. Hence they care. And they also know the difference between right and wrong.

I believe he knows the difference. He knows how to hide his behavior. Unfortunately as a general rule those closest to him suffer. I pondered the same thing. They know the difference. I watched my mother behave perfectly in public and a lunatic in private.

Repressed memories are :eek: at first. Then something wonderful happened. I found my inner child. Endearing she is. We now work together. :)

Apparently you do. LOL You're never going to heal..aye? Tell you what Solara...you just sit there kicking the bucket about spreading your theory you'll never be free from PTSD. Me..on the other hand. I'm going to take the time to understand my abusers and acknowledge idiots don't have the...

Thank you everyone for your replies. We all can see throughout history many intelligent individuals who have contributed to society in one capacity or another and were complete scoundrels in their personal lives. To me they are the most foolish of all. Look at Ted Bundy...it's been claimed he...

Thank you @ Me Myself and I!! I completely understand. The amazing thing was it was there all along. Had to clear a mountain off me....but it was there baby! ;) Best wishes to you!

It has nothing to do with luck. Zero. It's about self preservation. For the record I believe you're confusing narcissism with self preservation.

I understand. The power to abuse is and always will be sheer ignorance and/or stupidity. I have found it most helpful to understand what drives abusive people. As a child I didn't have to give their lack of intelligence much thought. It was blatant. Impossible to miss. The coping skills I...

You are correct. We have horrific memories for life! However I'm going to deal with mine with humor. We also have a greater understanding of dysfunction. A greater appreciation for life and the ability to help others going through the madness. At the end of the day it's not about us. It's about...