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Thank you. That's what I've always wanted in a partner. I've chosen the wrong people for a multitude of reasons that I am now (mostly) aware of after a year and a half of intensive therapy. Thank you for your kind words. And, it is indeed best to go through this divorce knowing I can do it...

Oh my gosh, this made me cry. Thank you, kind stranger.

Thank you so much, everyone. I am touched that you've all written so much for me to consider. I truly do understand how therapeutic relationships are supposed to work, I have done loads of research on this subject, and I am very aware that what happened between us was facilitated by therapy...

Thank you for taking the time to read my story and reply! I agree! However, how can you account for the fact that after therapy ended he was still kind and accepting and everything I had always wanted in a partner? I wasn't pretending or forcing things, he was truly what I had always wanted! And...

You're are so right. Thank you for all your help! In fact, I was waiting for the feelings to fade once he was no longer my therapist and this kind and accepting father figure was no longer. But they didn't fade. They grew. Maybe enough time hadn't passed, and maybe that's why they have the 5...

Thank you. He did think about it quite a bit. He would ask me all the time if he's hurting me in any way. He said to me many times "the literature says that I'm damaging you. And I can't do that to you. You need to let me know if I've hurt you or if I'm damaging you." He essentially risked...

You're right. As my mom said, i didn't need a lover, I needed a therapist. She was right. I needed a true therapeutic relationship and he should have helped me with my pattern of trying to get older men to love me. But he fell in love with me...

Yes I think you're right. I think that's what I am always doing with my male relationships. Why is this wrong? This is what attracts me to certain people. I loved him for the right reasons - he treated me well, he was kind, he was loving and supportive and validating and sweet to me. And I was...

I acknowledged that he exploited me. But then when we fell in love it was clear that we were truly in love. And not just using each other/capitalizing on each other's issues.

Wow, this is all so helpful. Thank you so much. Well I suppose I've learned that I don't need anyone to take care of me, I don't need a man to validate me. I have me. I'm divorcing my abusive husband for my kids' health and safety and for myself. And I am going back to school to get a masters. I...

Thank you for taking the time to read my story and comment. Can you explain? I'm very interested to know how I was exploited.

Thank you. It's important to note that after every time he'd talk to his business partner he'd come back to me with more concern that he's harming me, that what he's doing is unethical and illegal. He was very concnerd. And he asked me all the time if he were hurting me. His business partner...

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Hi All, I am hoping to get feedback from you about sex with my therapist. He is 68 and I am 35. I have seen him weekly for a year and a half in order to help me with my abusive husband. We have done amazing work together and he has helped me greatly. I am not in the process of separating from...