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@Philippa it really sounds like you were able to set some boundaries and are now sticking to them...which is awesome. I mean, I feel you on having spent time with him and heading into hope and dream-land, but like my friends told me about my ex... I wasn't in love with who is *is* I was in love...

What @RussH said got me to thinking about something... in all my relationships, the guy also had some sort of major issue / mental health problem. Even though I didn't seek it out, just happened that's what I was drawn to I guess, it has *always* been a matter for me of... I need to be there...

Reading through this reminds me of my own love life. On one hand I want the relationship, I want to be married, I always wanted to have another child, at the least, someone to share my life with and well..not die alone. On the other hand, I feel like no one would ever really be able to stand...

@Laura 2 i can only say from my personal experience, that not dealing with my past is what contributed to my meltdown. Like, for 25 years, give or take a few, I pushed it down. My coping mechanism is to avoid, avoid, avoid and it served me well all those years... Well, with a moment here and...

I'm with @The Albatross ... I would go anyway. You have a place to stay for 3 weeks, a job lined up, a plane ticket, and a desire to get the heck out of dodge and from what you're saying, sounds like it would be better for your mental health / state of mind to go, than to stay where you are, in...

I don't know who Stefan Molyneux is, and I'm pretty sure if it now that I don't want to know. Blah! When I'm having an especially feel good day, I will get dressed and put on makeup and do my hair when I'm not even leaving the house. I started doing that when I was trying to do the FlyLady...

Yeah, I think that's a good thing to do...get the full, or maybe I should say, get a fuller picture of what's going on. That I think is the pro of making sure to get diagnosed from a professional, because they know the questions to ask to get to the heart of all the things that may be going on...

Awe don't worry @Cadiche ...if it's that grammar and punctuation message, I have the feeling we have all gotten it at some time or another. I don't like em either, but I remember that its not personal, it happens to us all :) @Laura 2, one of the things my therapist had told me was that we all...

Are you in therapy by any chance? I ask because, that would be a really good way to find out what you are dealing with, so that you can find out what tools you need to tackle it. Because yeah, it's super confusing and frustrating. And left up to our own devices, can end up labeling ourselves...

So greedy Kas!! hehe! That did make me laugh. :D But yes, definitely possible to only have one mental illness on your plate. Just like its possible to have a combination of related, or unrelated mental illness. By that I mean, there could be a pre-existing illness prior to the trauma...which...

There was a time, for a few months at the worst of my depression, where I would fall asleep crying, wake up to find that I've been crying in my sleep, and throughout the day burst into tears for no apparent reason. That doesn't happen so much anymore nowadays, only every so often. It's...

Hrmm... I can relate @JEKBreatheandBelieve ... it feels like a foggy feeling. Like theres a frosted window between me and the world. That can definitely hit me and last for weeks, months even. I have depression too, so it's hard to tell where one begins, the other ends, what's heightening...

My daughter is not yet an adult, only 17 right now.... but she has known me to be the way I am her entire life, only difference is the past few years it escalated. She doesn't see me as damaged, but I think the biggest reason for that is this is all she knows of me, so it's normal. Now that...

With me, my disassociation is a complete disconnect. It can last anywhere from a few minutes to a few hours, but I have no memory of what happened during that time. It happens often when I'm driving (so I'll end up getting lost...a lot! and I'm almost always late getting places, because I'll...

Yeah, I don't know how one can make it happen. I mean, my close friend here is very sensitive to it when she pays me a compliment and I respond negatively, even in jest (well, I always make a joke out of it) she will tell me very seriously that she means it. With people I don't know very well...

I read through this thread with a lot of interest... I am bi-sexual, but it's not really anything I thought about or struggled with. I know that's not too common, but for me, it was a matter of, it is what it is. Mind you, had nothing to do with being in a very open family or anything like...

My sister... even though I barely get to see her because she lives clear on the other side of the country, whenever we talk, it's almost like my battery gets recharged. And we don't talk about anything heavy really, she updates me on her job, how the kids and her hubby are doing, every so often...

That is great that you are determined to face your phobias! I have no intention of facing mine :ninja: Put me in the room with a clown and all bets are off. :bag: I can kind of laugh at myself for the things that I'm scared of, but they aren't things that I *have* to do or have a negative...

That is awesome :) Good going that you were able to go to the concert and enjoy yourself! I hate driving long distances at night btw...so another kudos for the drive home as well :)

I can relate in the way that, I give as much as I do to others because of the need within me to be accepted, to prove my worth, to make them see that there is some value in keeping me around. In return, I keep my own problems to myself and never ask anyone for anything, because I don't want to...

I think I went off on a bit of a tangent without actually reaching the point I meant to get to up there :sorry: But the only person in my family that knows I have PTSD is my sister. But the reaction of the one friend who said there's no way I could have PTSD, and my ex who used it against me...

Thanks so much...it actually took me a couple years. I was aware, but in that moment, gave in totally to it. I kept wavering back and forth between "I deserve more than this...this isnt me" to "I may as well use what I've learned Im good for to my advantage"... It really wasn't until the...

I wish I had some advice...my way of minimizing has been through avoiding. Only once did I try to confront my mother, she denied everything and I hadnt even barely gotten a word out. She knew where the convo was going, and stopped me point blank...like literally, all I said was "there were a...

Very true @marylouise, it's noncommittal too... go if you want, don't go if you don't want...no one is let down or out of sorts if you don't show up, but happy for the company if you do. There's really no pressure in the meetup groups, that I've been able to ascertain anyway. I don't know...

I like the concept of Meet Up... Its a site where you can find groups with similar interests to yours, and just be able to meet up in a social setting to be able to do that thing you're interested in with other people in a no pressure setting. There's something for everyone, like cooking meet...