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Thank you so much for sharing this. I just wanted to let you know I have read your response in case you do want to remove it. I want to tell you that I don't feel disgust towards you although I feel so sad that you had to experience that. I feel relieved though that I am not the only person...

Thank you all so so much. @somerandomguy @piratelady @Kubash16 can I please check do you mean that you have described things in similar way to how I have described to your therapist? That kind of descriptive detail? It is so hard. I am terrified of saying the words and terrified of saying...

Hi This may be a really triggering question and triggering thing and I'm sorry if it is wrong to ask this but I really need some help with this. Can anyone who is doing ok and feels grounded and stable enough to do this tell me how much detail they have told their therapist? With examples of...

Thank you so much for saying all that. I might do a post on the trauma and stressor part then, thank you. I just worry about triggering people. I feel like I need to describe what happened so that I know people do tell their T's this stuff and to know I am not completely weird for this stuff...

NHS services can be difficult to navigate. I think it is worth saying that therapists in the UK often (not always) operate under very different boundaries to therapists in other parts of the world and often have much stricter protocols around disclosure, time boundaries etc. It is just a...

That's the question really. I don't want to post graphic content here that might be triggering for others but I also really don't know whether what happened to me was bad enough or whether it is something my T will be able to tolerate hearing (because maybe it was too too bad). I have never told...

I have just come across this thread and I also think you are incredibly brave. It sounds as though you trust your T and as though you have made progress by naming what happened to you. I did a similar thing before Christmas and I relate to all the feelings you had and describe. It is a very very...

I had an ultrasound (pelvic and transvaginal) the other week and it was very difficult. It was a male sonographer. I was very tense and cried but tbh I'm not sure he even realised I was crying. I then left the hospital as fast as I could. I'm fairly sure I must have been a bit dissociated...

I just wanted to come back to this to say thank you for all the responses and to say that I took all this on board and when I saw her this week I told her that I needed to tell her something specific and that I needed to tell her because she is being kind and I need to know whether she would...

Sorry to be blunt but do you say the actual words of what happened. Like name it as what it was or describe behaviours/experiences? I don't want you to say that here (obviously) but I just wanted to ask. I just don't know how to actually say the words or what to say if that makes sense.

Agree about the break afterwards and taking time to rest. I was absolutely wiped out after emdr sessions and in the evenings I would be able to do very little. I might go back to emdr in the future (might ask my current T what she thinks) as I didn't get anywhere really, had a rupture and that...

I am in the UK and tried doing a session once a week (so a 60 minute session weekly) for resource building - which was fine, helpful -but then tried to do the same for processing and it wasn't enough to contain things for me. I process quickly apparently but they say 90 minutes is the standard...

I just wondered whether anyone felt able to share how they communicated it, what words they used, how long it took, how your therapist responded etc? How did you feel after that first disclosure? Did anything come up that you didn't expect? It feels really difficult for me (I have posted about...

I haven't read through all of this but I wanted to let you know that you are not alone with your feelings and neither are you alone as you work through them. I am sure you've heard the term 'urge surfing'. I try to use that when dealing with difficult feelings. They ebb and flow and settle and...

Thank you. Yeah I want to be able to say (even write) and say this (thing) happened to me and this is why I couldn't tell anyone and this is why I still feel so X and y in my body and why things don't make sense and I feel disconnected etc etc. Maybe I can write it down. I feel like I want to...

It is soooo difficult isn't it. Sorry I am coming back here. I just feel this overwhelming sense that I desperately need to tell her properly but I don't know if I can say the words and if I do I am terrified that her reaction will leave me feeling stupid/humiliated/powerless whatever whatever...

Thank you for the responses to this. I really appreciate people taking the time to respond. I am hoping to see her tomorrow so I think I will write some things down for her. And talk to her about what I can do when I want to talk about something but I can't or feel stuck or frozen. I am so so...

I should say that at the moment I can't say the words of what I experienced. I can't say it was x kind of abuse or even say the word abuse out loud. I have started working with a new therapist and this is the first proper time I'm trying to do trauma work. The second session I saw her she knew...

I'd second the above two, Bessel van der Kolk and Judith Herman are both very balanced and grounded in research and well established and respected writers. Also quite liked Safe Keys to Trauma Recovery by Babbette Rothschild. Best of luck.

Just that, really. I had an assessment for therapy recently and the therapist asked a question with specific words in it describing the kind of trauma I have experienced and I felt like I couldn't cope with her saying it. I felt really overwhelmed and almost frozen. I did manage to write it...

Those are all fair points. Thank you. I am often harsh on myself. I don't know how not to be. I think I get it in on myself before anyone else can because I anticipate it so much.

Thank you. I love my husband. I know I need to try to talk to him more. It is just difficult. It is my struggle and I don't want it to contaminate him.

Thank you so much, and sorry it has taken me so long to come back to this thread. I have been having a difficult time. Shame is so much of a problem for me. But it feels so justified to be ashamed or to feel ashamed. I had emdr today. My t asked a couple of questions about things from the...

It feels more like just my issue than mine and his. I am the one with the trauma history, with the issues, and it is not his fault. I chose to be in this relationship. When we got married he didn't know the full story because at that point I couldn't talk about it at all (I still largely can't)...

I do think he wants to be. Just tonight I have been in a mess and I ended up sitting inside my wardrobe to calm down (yes, I'm stupid) and literally wanting to rip my skin off and he knew something was wrong but it just comes out as irritability because I try so hard to hold things back until I...