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There is a big difference between having a disagreement with hubby and it turning into a PTSD row. With the disagreements there is usually a related, known issue that we discuss and deal with. With the PTSD row something will stress him, and he will deliberately pick a fight about anything...

Congratulations! As for the age thing, my Dad became a very proud Granddad (he refuses to use the 'step' bit) at the age of 27, and at 55 he acquired the additional title of Great-Granddad.

Hi @Toria Oh bless you, there is nothing to worry about. I think it varies from area to area, but the main idea is to give you, as a carer, more support. I had an initial meeting/assessment where they asked about me; was I working, what support do I have, what is my relationship with my...

Good evening UK supporters The following is a link to a Department of Health survey about improving support for unpaid carers. It includes those of us who care for people with mental health issues, not just physical disabilities. So if you have some time to spare (it suggested 45 minutes, but...

If he's drinking stuff what about soup? My Mum is very poorly (very different I know) but she stopped eating, but by putting soup in a china cup and saucer (she is snob) I managed to get her to drink some. Does he like any particularly smelly foods? Some times the smell of food she loves will...

It's weird how you become accustomed to things isn't it. I hate it when he's obviously having bad dreams, but I'm used to the shouting and swearing in his sleep. I cuddle him until he settles and then I go back to sleep. A couple of nights ago I was woken up by him laughing. Not nice, happy...

As a supporter, it has really helped me to be able to read the individual experiences throughout the forums; both from sufferers and supporters. I think by squooshing everything into one depersonalised, generic essay you would lost the most important element of emotion and personal experience...

Hi @Mytime, I have always been a writer - my Mum didn't understand the concept of listening so as a teenager I would write her letters. At the beginning of our relationship I used to write hubby notes and it drove him nuts! He's actually helped and encouraged me to become better at...

@Gadgie I know exactly what you're saying. A heart to heart wouldn't work though as I would be a big blubbing mess (again, not his fault) and he couldn't handle that. A quiet, relaxed evening together would do us wonders. But it's just not possible at the moment, which is part of the problem as...

I'm currently in a bad place emotionally. I don't have the time and energy to give hubby the support he is used to. Me being constantly stressed and emotional, as well as being home late every night, is causing him to get stressed. When he is stressed he needs more support, which puts more...

Hi @MsVirgo and welcome to your new home :hug: My hubby punches himself in the head too. It's so upsetting to see, but it's better than when he used to smash his head against the wall. I've learned to use put a cushion in the way (used my hand once and it hurt!). I would agree that you need...

Cherry Coke and chocolate :laugh: I go to bed earlier than he does, and he will always come and 'tuck me in'. That is very reassuring, for both of us, especially when things are difficult. I have those sticky word things you can put on the wall saying 'Always kiss me goodnight', and that is...

My husband was a PC in the Met for 10 years, then the MDP for 7, until he was forced to medically retired due to his PTSD. He doesn't come on here himself, but he still benefits from the support and information that I gain through the forum as his supporter.

This forum has taught me so much. One of the first lessons was about boundaries. My main boundary; I will not allow myself to be treated badly. Initially that was a tool for when hubby was being an ar$e, but I now apply it to all relationships. You are being treated badly, so what are you...

Thanks peeps, he went out on his own for the first time this afternoon. He's still wary of going into town, but we'll get there. ;)

I'd be really pleased if hubby got to see a psychiatrist that often! He was put on medication three years ago (practically to the day) whilst in a psychiatric unit, and hasn't seen a psychiatrist in over two years. His GP did refer him back last year, as he felt that his meds needed...

Hubby has been doing so well lately, but the attacks in Brussels this morning have really hit him hard. Thankfully he didn't hear about it until lunchtime, and I was able to leave work early. I got home to a broken chair and broken clothes airer, but thankfully nothing more than a few bruises...

Whilst it isn't good, and alternatives should be worked on, it is a backhanded compliment.

If you need direct contact with him every day, he may find that too much some times, and so to him you are high maintenance. As for why he lied? Maybe he didn't want to hurt your feelings. Or as @Casey_03 said, he's a jerk. Lying is not a symptom of PTSD, it's something everyone does. Some...

Take the time to read through the forums and you'll find lots of advice, and people who are or have been in a similar situation to you. One thing I will say is that if you truly feel: then a PTSD relationship may not be the place for you. My relationship isn't all one-sided, but it is quite a...

I actually said this out loud to hubby on Monday! Initially he was quite defensive about it, but last night the dinner was cooking when I walked in from work and we spent a couple of really nice hours together. Even if tonight is back to 'normal' it's nice to know he listened and took it on...

Long showers and loud music are great for having a good cry when you don't want anyone to know that you are struggling. Any overheard noises can be put down to singing, and red eyes can be blamed on shampoo. ;)

You selfish f*#king w#nk3r. You know money is tight, primarily because you secretly ran up £21k on credit cards (although I haven't a clue what on), which I had to take out a loan to pay off. I have stopped getting my nails done, cancelled my gym subscription, stopped buying books and music...

For hubby it's all about memory. He'll swear black and blue that he's told me something, when I know he hasn't. He may well have told one of the various other people he speaks to everyday. Or he will have told me something and refuses to believe it was him that told me. He then accuses me...

The person my husband portrays on Facebook is somewhat different to the person who calls his parents and his daughter daily. Both of those can be similar to, or totally different from, the man I live with. I love them all. As others have said above, don't pay attention to what he is posting...