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I think that's pretty standard behaviour isn't it? And, to be fair, it might not be that person that lied. Someone may have added notes to the file to say they had left a message, when they hadn't. Or, based on our experience of the quality of their admin, they may have left messages on a...

Oh sweetie, I'm sorry it's all so difficult, and really sorry to hear about your accident. I hope you heal quickly, and the insurance sorts you a car solution soon. This confused me a bit: But: So how is that you setting the terms? Surely that is him doing his usual short notice 'this is...

Thanks for sharing this, it is a really good analogy. It is true, and I know there are loads of things out there to try and illustrate it, but physical injuries and some illnesses are easier to accommodate/explain as the symptoms and restrictions tend to be a lot more obvious. But I think one...

Thanks folks. I know it's his 'little friend' rather than him. We had a chat this morning (@shimmerz this happened last night) and he apologised some more, and we talked about what might have been behind it. This episodes are never easy, but I think this was more upsetting for me as I felt...

...are great. Oh, no, wait. I think I've got that wrong. Rant/vent alert. Feel free to move along, this is just my catharsis. One minute we're having a cuddle, and he's saying how lucky he is to have me, and I'm so patient and supportive. The next I'm a bitch who doesn't listen and who twists...

Social media allows us all to be whomever we wish, without body language or eye contact. I know hubby likes 'chatting' to people who knew him before, and who don't know about his PTSD.

Once again demonstrating your strength and bravery. Keep it up! :hug:

Good luck with the move, and keep up the :singing:. :hug:

I get very confused about how these different groups work. I know hubby had to be assessed by ATOS, but that was for work and was paid for by his employer, rather than being a government assessment. It seems like whoever does it for the government has some other agenda as you hear about people...

My initial reaction is to say fine, but you also get to go on holiday with your children and your parents, and she can stay at home. Obviously it isn't going to be possible for everything to always be equal between your kids. Your son will do things with his Mum that your daughter will miss...

Hi @CaptainBalrog You really need to get her to go and talk to her GP, and push for them to refer her for a psychiatric assessment, so she can get on the waiting list for therapy (unless you can afford to go private). The sooner you can get her into the NHS mental health system the better, as...

Hi Mike Sorry I didn't see this thread earlier. I'm a supporter, and I met my husband when he was still a police officer, and had just been diagnosed with PTSD. I completely agree that you should make her aware that you can react unexpectedly in what seem like normal, safe situations. But...

Well you can stop that nonsense! Does he feel guilty for making you feel bad? Although maybe he thought it wasn't such a big deal as, despite your reactions previously, you acted like it wasn't. Honestly, the best trick I have is walking away. If he does/says something that he knows will...

Yesterday hubby had a day out with his 6 year old daughter so I had the whole house to myself for hours! In amongst some chores I sat and watched Doctor Who and a programme about witch hunters in the 1500s without any interruptions, I played Sims Medieval for a while, and baked some cookies...

When he's in a good place try to set some mutually agreed ground rules for next time he isolates, i.e. he needs to text once a day just to check-in and you will only contact him if there's an emergency. Or whatever works for you two. What did you do before you met him? Keep up with your...

Sorry to hear about your job situation @medley29, I hope you find something soon. Before we lived together I used to always bring things for me to do; books, tablet, DVDs, etc so I could keep myself amused if he wanted me to stick around, but still needed his own space. The thing I still...

Hi @gizmo I get the feeling there are other threads about this that I haven't read, so really sorry if this has already been covered. If you know you did the right thing, then hold on to that. You acted out of love and concern, and that is the best anyone can hope for. Are there are other...

:hug: @Wastinglight Not much more I can add; you know the excuses, you know the issues. You also know that you do actually deserve better than the way he is treating you right now. And he is not going to improve whilst he can still use you as an excuse for all of his problems. Always...

Oh @Wastinglight, I'm so sorry to hear this and am sending you many :hug: Are you able to get away for the night, to stay with a friend or family member? You both need some space to breathe and you need chance to feel what you need to feel in a safe environment. Your priority right now is...

First of all :hug:. Secondly, I'm in a very different time zone to you guys - it's 10.43am here, so hope I'm not too out of kilter. I'm another one who went through this: And this: Except he would say "I'll just go back and live with my parents, if that's what you want." I swear though...

I am a supporter, rather than a sufferer, but would love to meet up (if I wouldn't be intruding). As with most people it would depend when and where. I'm in Buckinghamshire, and I know it takes me 4 hours to drive to Plymouth.

As a supporter I would say please don't. Maybe ping him a brief message saying you're triggered right now and will be in touch again when you can. If you do this, I don't think it will help you feel better, but no matter how gently you think you put it he will feel guilty. So both of you...

My Dad's best friend is asexual and is his one of the most awesome people I know :cool: He had a girlfriend in his late teens (in the sixties) because that's what you did. It lasted about a year and apparently he tried to only see her when alcohol was involved so he could avoid having sex as...

I would say that if he wants to see her he needs to give you x days notice, and he needs to give his daughter his sole attention. So a day when he is already looking after another kid is not on.

Why not make it a weekend away, instead of a night out, and then fit the touristy days and the laid back evenings in? We went on holiday a few weeks ago, and I had a list of castles that we were going to (we both like castles), but for various reasons (too many people, too high up, too wobbly...