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My son has always had problems sleeping through the night...which then disrupted my sleep because he would wake me up. We bought a weighted blanket about 6 months ago (I bought it on Etsy by a woman that makes them). It has been a miracle cure. I actually steal it from him when I take a nap -...

I understand what you're saying @lightraze. My point wasn't to suggest that trauma can be cured by examining and counteracting our cognitive distortions. If my post came across as being "Pollyanna-ish" or simplistic, I apologize. Damaged - by it's definition - is a value judgment. Damaged...

Welcome to the forum @gabro96. It is very frightening to have your home invaded and your security taken (been there, done that, skipped the trial), especially when it appears that the perpetrators were people you knew. With the severity of your distress, I think it would be really wise to see...

Dear Laurie, I am so glad you are feeling more connected today. Please remember that there is a huge difference between this: and this: You are not damaged. And I think feeling and expressing your shock and anger is a truly good thing. In DBT, we are taught that shame is (generally)...

I have found that when I am remaining in or trying to fix unhealthy relationships, it's usually related to my past and my desire to fix my family. I have also found that as I am healing, I don't have a lot of space in my life for the drama that comes with these types of relationships. From...

I agree with @joeylittle, it is possible to validate her experience. To me, that validation look like "I can see where it makes sense that you felt this way or reacted this way" (and it certainly does not mean you agree with it). That said, I can see how this proposed talk appears to be...

@Humphrey, I'm not sure why you picked me to quote, since you didn't respond to my thoughts (or at least not that I can tell). I couldn't slog through your entire posts (and I have to admit, I pretty much gave up after the "wifey" part)...but I do agree with this:

I had a psychiatrist who sat behind her laptop the entire first session - directly looked at me maybe twice - all the while asking very probing questions. While that wasn't the only reason I didn't go back (she also issued an ultimatum regarding sharing information with my primary care...

Looked up ASMR - totally creeped me out. It's really interesting what works for some and not others!

Therapy has always been very uncomfortable for me. I asked my previous therapist if other clients had this much difficulty with it. He wasn't a trauma specialist and told me (and I'm paraphrasing here) that most of his clients enjoyed therapy but with the kinds of issues I had, he could...

Beautiful.

I think a lot of it is to be able to catch those feelings when they're still small (I say this as someone who only recognizes that this is important, not someone who is able to do this on a regular basis). When they're small feelings, then you have a lot more choices (and this is my DBT shit...

As I said in an earlier post, I have not had ECT - but I want you to know that there is someone out here (me! :)) who has read your concerns and supports your decision to do whatever you need to do. Good luck tomorrow.

I really like this. I have three adolescent / teenage boys - things are constantly banging - toilet seats, cupboard doors, balls bouncing - even when they're not moody or angry...and I'm constantly jumping out of my skin (I wish literally, because that would scare the beejeeses out of them :))...

Ah...I think I understand where you're coming from now...you are saying that your concern is more with your core beliefs (which you think predate any of your traumas) than with the traumas themselves. I suspect, and I suspect you suspect, that these are, in fact, so intertwined it's hard to...

Hmmmm...so you think you developed the belief that you have "no right to exist" or "It's all my fault" out of the air? Or that you were born with those beliefs? While I do believe that there is a biological component to the development of PTSD (I think folks who are on the more "highly...

That was my first thought as well - followed by "they seriously named a food product this?" - their marketing group is either very young or has a very dark sense of humor!

Since I'm currently trying to work on my cognitive distortions (in my "real life"), I won't try to mind read here...however, the general sense I got from your original post(s) was that your significant other is pretty defensive about his PTSD - and he is especially concerned that others might...

Sorry - I guess I misread your original post. I thought you were asking "suffers". Unfortunately, I can't double check because...you deleted your post! :).

I have had people scared for me. The saddest, most shameful thing for me is when my children were either scared for or of me.

OK - this may sound a little snarky - but I think that's the whole point of having a community like this. So (at least for me), the short answer is "yes". But, I think this site offers more than "comfort". For me, this site provides an opportunity to offer and receive experience, strength and...

Like you, I feel like I've reached a "stuck" point in therapy...I think there's a lot of misattunement with my therapist regarding goals and how to safely reach them. I've done a lot of research on somatic work and have incorporated some of it into my "self-help" but I haven't been able to find...

So this is probably not going to make sense - it is confusing to me. I have had this diagnosis for decades...figured it was just a label... Criterion A is "the person was exposed to: death, threatened death, actual or threatened serious injury, or actual or threatened sexual violence". I meet...

I want to thank folks for their feedback. I have had an out of town guest and been off-line for the last week, so I'm "catching up" now.

I have not had ECT...although I did research and seriously consider it. The people I have met who have had it (and they have only been adults) have been very distressed about the memory loss. I have not met anyone (and granted my "n" is very small) who has enthusiastically endorsed it. Having...