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Thanks, that's very helpful. Another question: what do you mean by "a phase of processing that needs to be done when the big stuff starts coming out"? I wish I had a better roadmap for the progression of events and knew a bit more what to expect. As far as I was concerned, a year ago I was a...

Wondering whether anyone else has insight onto whether what I'm experiencing is a "normal" part of healing in therapy. I suspect that it is, but would like any reassurance or tips. The question comes at the end. :-) I've been in therapy for 4 months for extensive primary and secondary complex...

thank you.

thank you..yes..that's helpful. i'm doing all my panic tools. the overall problem is that my endurance has run out for the daily fight. i feel beaten by this.

i'm struggling hard and feeling extremely hopeless. had good check ins with my two therapists and shrink this week and even though i was honest they say i'm doing much better. but i dont beleueve them. i am again panicking after doing so much of yesterday. I have now inexplicably lost hope. I...

what does normalizing the word mean? Yes, I feel very proud of being able to manage her visit and truly connect with her. A month ago I probably would have been too deep in panic attacks around the prospect to actually see her, and instead I did a wonderfully calm interactions over three...

so if i rolled back, then it is a setback. i feel so discouraged and scared.

is this typical? i had anxiety preceding this weekend meeting my partner's mother during her weekend visit. turns out the weekend was wonderful, she was so loving and gentle and kind and actually healing. my first good experience with a loving family. i was acyually relaxed and happy and felt...

more good advice. It's strange - my partner is 12 years younger and has been through his own hell as a child and come out the other side through lots of years of therapy and hard work, same with his mother, who rebuilt her life after abuse when she was my age, and went through much of what I'm...

GREAT! REASON = starting a new life with someone I adore with fresh enthusiasm, confidence and courage.

We have a plan for the weekend - I am only having dinner with them on the first night, and then a visit to a museum in the morning and dinner in the evening on the second day. So it's manageable. I just tend to get very very anxious with this sort of thing, the anticipation as you say. He says...

My partner and his mom are very close. She has been immensely welcoming to me in their family even though I haven't met them. She talks to me on the phone sometimes and always says how much she loves how wonderful I am for her son, and that he's never been this happy... I'm just coming out of a...

Just looking for some support - I am not at my best and I'm meeting the mom of my beloved partner (of 10 months) this weekend for the first time. The anxiety is really getting to me and triggering rejection and self esteem issues. She sounds lovely and compassionate but I have trouble even...

and by the way, the SEVEN BOXES and laundry is not little bitty. not in my world. That's huge. truly. take it seriously, as much to heart as you can. hug yourself. draw a star on your bathroom mirror with a sharpie. write it down on a 3x5 card and write HOORAY at the top. anything that makes it...

i came on chat one morning last week with awful panic attack and someone wiser than I said if something little itty bitty works, do it again. then do it again. then do it again. then in a while add something else itty bitty and keep doing that. my darkness feels pretty complete, but applying his...

I so identify with the frozen part! I think maybe we are supposed to sit there for a little while (how long we sit is the question) getting used to having our armour off, getting used to being vulnerable. Part of me thinks that if I push myself too hard to "manifest my new life" i will simply...

I have found removing a lot of reminders to be SO HELPFUL. Yes, a little triggering, so I built a little process around it that involves me visualizing the process several times BEFORE i do it, with deep breathing and visualizing a sense of openness and possibility and a fresh start. Sometimes I...

THis is really small and insigificant but just happy today because I had several really rough, frustrating therapy sessions in a row and fought really hard not to drop out and cancel my appointments (the one scheduled for this morning). I used my tools and went through the anxiety to go today...

Celebrate the tiny victories, no matter how small. I'm in a similar stage and it's difficult to deal with the work stuff - I have done what I can do allow myself this time to rest and remove or limit what I'm surrounded by that reminds me of what I'm NOT doing. The worry about recovery is part...

wow - I just read the Dąbrowski entry in wikipedia. everything in it rings true. thank you. Now to just keep going on a day to day to reach the higher ground.

Wow, there are so many helpful things there I don't know where to begin. "It is very disconcerting losing (temporarily) our high-functioning state, but it's so much better to be breaking out of our stoic shells, and being safe enough to do the difficult working of acknowledging and embracing our...

Maybe I'll start a daily book where I count my tiny victories, and list them on a page each day, so I can look back when I'm feeling like I'm not making progress. Maybe the progress is just going to continue to be incremental,and one day I'll put in the book "went to yoga" or "met a friend for...

I am wondering if anyone has any thoughts on the stage where you're finally making noticable improvements but it's hard to hold onto that knowledge and believe that things will get better. I'm no longer having 4 hour morning panic attacks but get them under control in about 45 minutes, I'm...

I was severely triggered last night by an interaction with someone who used to be an old friend. I had three good days this week where I felt hopeful, and encouraged, and like I might get better. I was eating and keeping busy around the house. Today, I feel hugely set back and I'm extremely...

good to know i'm not alone. going through same thing.