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Yes. Humor!!! LOL :)

For the record. You have one thing right. "One can not do it alone." It takes complete understanding.

The fact she allowed herself in a relationship with you is proof she is TRYING.

OK. I agree! ^^^^^^^^^^^^ Fair enough...wouldn't you say? It is just as hard for her to feel safe as it is for you to feel unsafe. With all due respect giving birth is a beautiful moment. Trauma is not.

And there you have it. You cannot understand her world. :(

:joyful: I prefer to use humor. I read your above statement and laughed! Be careful honey...I bite! Humor releases negative energy. Yes,each of us are allowed to feel how we feel.

How do you feel and what do you do when you feel unsafe? It's not any different for trauma survivors. Other than we have many more vaild reasons to protect ourselves. :)

I have been pondering this since reading this thread. Is it fear? Or is it as trauma survivors we understand too much? Or both?

You can't build it. She has to feel safe. That is within her. Her walls will not come down until she feels safe.

Beautiful! I understand what you are saying. As a rule generalizing usually is a problem. I am not completely dismissing her work. The problem with clichés is in the unfortunate fact the general public believes them. Ms.Brown has an opportunity to share greater mental health awareness and...

Another thread prompted me to google vulnerability quotes. Most of them sounded like clichés. Brene Brown is in the self help biz. What a shame shame shame. LOL...LOL...~Sigh Just what every PTS individual needs is more useless clichés!!

Your light is all over this forum!!! And everyone else on this forum who has survived "Hotel Hell!" LOL

To quote Brene Brown.. ~Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy. ~The experiences that make us most vulnerable. Only when we are...

Trust and trauma. :eek: ~If you want the naked beauty of my vulnerability, you have to have the strength to share the understanding of, the private pain, that makes me feel so tender and fragile. For I am as strong, as I am, weak. If you want me to come home to you, be the safe harbor, in...

Vulnerability. Ohh what a word. I suspect my T would like to tape number 5 to my fridge,forehead front door and anywhere else I commonly look. :D

I felt good riddance after my grandfather died. At the time I didn't understand why. The rest of them? They're already dead in my mind. Through the years people have asked about my family/parents. Last week a new friend was sharing his mother was ill and it didn't look good. He asked if my...

You feel distress? Please don't. What matters is I stood up to a psychopath and triumphed. My brave 8yr old self was trying to out the sick bastards in my family. It may not sound like triumph...it certainly didn't FEEL like at the time. Are you venting my grandfather is a sick dickhead or...

It depends on your definition of venting and/or anger. LOL

State hospital- My grandparents took me. I remember walking in. They made me lay down on a cold hard table. I was afraid. Frozen in fear. Strapped on a table. A nurse. Two men. Doctors. They ask me questions. I answer no. The shocks were mild at first. I peed in my pants. I held my breath. I...

The word suicide is a massive trigger for me. I was 8yrs old. I chose to stay with my abusive family. A decision no child should ever have to make. I was offered foster care. CPS knew I was innocent. They screwed up by not taking me to the hospital. I was bleeding from my wrists,anus and vagina...

Hmm...lets go with my wine glasses feel sad. OK? LOL Denial CAN work in your favor.....;) I am up against a precarious balance. Suicide has never crossed my mind. And yes I used the word never. In some ways it is a blessing they tried to murder me. My fight has always been to live. :) I am...

I am talking about the unresolved anger they had in their hearts. Their anger caused my abuse. It truly had nothing to do with me. I might as well have been a chair. An inanimate object. LOL I didn't absorb their anger. I saw and see it for what it is. Theirs. Their problem. Perhaps I am a bit...

Helping toxic people can be a challenge. Toxic people can be both good and bad. Are you saying you found this person a lost cause?

@junglegirl. Exactly my inner beauty and resulting eternal happiness trumps everything they did to me. Despite their horrific efforts the blimey bastards couldn't drag me down to their level. ~Please note...Calling them blimey bastards is not anger. It IS the truth. The truth stated in a...

Once fight or flight kicks in you don't have time to feel angry. For me it was all about finding safety. Exploring and/or dealing with PTS as an adult I find anger being the same waste of time.