Is It Ok To Get Angry At Other People?

[Survivor2Thriver]

@junglegirl. Exactly my inner beauty and resulting eternal happiness trumps everything they did to me. Despite their horrific efforts the blimey bastards couldn't drag me down to their level. ~Please note...Calling them blimey bastards is not anger. It IS the truth. The truth stated in a humorous manner. LOL Venting of sorts. ;) I triumphed above their madness. I survived their mental illiness(s). I have a natural immunity against stupidity. LOL That alone is a damn good day! :joyful: Seriously what do I have to be sad about?

Having PTS is unfortunate. But you know what? I am going to find the positive. I already have in many ways. I choose to view and deal with my every :eek: flashback as a means to use my voice for awareness and helping others. This whole therapy thing is wrong. Wrong wrong wrong. I am not the one who needs therapy. Period.

Right now as we speak..millions of children are living in horrific conditions. They are terrified and many are being traumatized into silence. The even worse news is once they grow up and find the courage to speak out...it's still not going to make any difference. And society wonders why the cycle of abuse continues??!! Dear God. ~Rolls eyes

 

[Survivor2Thriver]

Some people are so dense that they cannot take a hint. Recently, I told someone disruptive and desiring to engage in an argument with me to move on because I don't consider her worthy of my precious time.

Helping toxic people can be a challenge. Toxic people can be both good and bad.

Are you saying you found this person a lost cause?

 

[Survivor2Thriver]

If you are speaking about sadness and anger that is a transference from your parents, then yes, of course you are not obliged to take that on. That is their stuff to own.

I am talking about the unresolved anger they had in their hearts. Their anger caused my abuse. It truly had nothing to do with me. I might as well have been a chair. An inanimate object. LOL I didn't absorb their anger. I saw and see it for what it is. Theirs. Their problem. Perhaps I am a bit far reaching but feeling sadness is an extension of their illness. Nothankyou. I don't want to feel sad. I want to make a difference.

 

[Philippa]

I am talking about the unresolved anger they had in their hearts. Their anger caused my abuse. It truly had nothing to do with me. I might as well have been a chair. An inanimate object. LOL I didn't absorb their anger. I saw and see it for what it is. Theirs. Their problem. Perhaps I am a bit far reaching but feeling sadness is an extension of their illness. Nothankyou. I don't want to feel sad. I want to make a difference.

Ok. But am I right in understanding that what you are saying is you never feel sadness because you associate it with their illness and the abuse they took out on you?

A person can make a difference in the world and still feel sad at times.

 

[Survivor2Thriver]

Hmm...lets go with my wine glasses feel sad. OK? LOL Denial CAN work in your favor.....;)

I am up against a precarious balance. Suicide has never crossed my mind. And yes I used the word never.

In some ways it is a blessing they tried to murder me. My fight has always been to live. :) I am convinced that is what keeps me going.:p

 

[Philippa]

Ok...I was confused by your response at first, and had to re-read it a few times before I really got what you were saying here.

So you feel sad (though you don't like that you do), but never suicidal? Is that right?

I do love the way adversity can end up being what drives us most in life and how it can form our character into someone very determined, which you clearly are. :)

 

[Survivor2Thriver]

The word suicide is a massive trigger for me. I was 8yrs old. I chose to stay with my abusive family. A decision no child should ever have to make. I was offered foster care. CPS knew I was innocent. They screwed up by not taking me to the hospital. I was bleeding from my wrists,anus and vagina. Instead they attempted to scare me. I remember her words. "Let's see what she does. She will tell us if she has to go back to them. I was more terrified of foster care than my family. Why? My grandpa thoroughly enjoyed telling me it would be easier to kill me in foster care. If I was in their care and anything happened to me...their "party" was over. They couldn't kill me. He laughed and said "make it easier for us" and "I would never see it coming." Sick bastard. My God forsaken choices were live in fear "not see it coming" or keep my mouth shut and endure further abuse. He also said he would kill my friends family for fun. If I told... he didn't have anything to lose. At least I was alive and had a better chance staying alive. I made the correct decision. My grandpa had friends in the right places.

They didn't believe my friend either. No justice for her either. Her family tried for years. What a sad world we live in.

He knew he wasn't out of the woods yet. He had to "prove" I was the crazy one. He then took me to a state hospital to cure my "suicidal tendencies." And/or blame me for what he and my sister did to my friend. WTF ever. He and my sister slit my wrists! I was the one who got her out of the basement. I was strapped down on a table with my rapist grandpa in the room while they preformed EST.


You can't really adapt in such a barbaric situation. My only defense was holding my breath and I got in trouble for that!

My focus for awareness might end up aimed at mental health professionals and the police dept. :)

 

[Meadowsweet]

Recently, I told someone disruptive and desiring to engage in an argument with me to move on because I don't consider her worthy of my precious time.

If someone said directly to me, "you are not worthy of my precious time", I consider that as an angry and derogatory statement that is said to hurt, demoralise, put down another.

To say, "I won't engage in an argument with you" is setting your boundary and is necessary in order to do that.

That, to me, is the difference between setting boundaries and taking your anger out on others..

 

[junglegirl]

You are distorting what I said to suit your needs. Do not judge me. Your behavior towards me is hateful you need to be more introspective. I will ignore any further posts because I don't care.

 

[anthony]

@junglegirl you're actually being quite passive aggressive. You can deny it if you choose, that is your choice, but you are doing it across a lot of threads, especially where people post things you disagree with. Staff are noticing. If you disagree, have your opinion, then leave it at that. You cannot argue your opinion, you state it and leave it at that. Or you choose to say nothing. What you post and how you say it, IS your choice and you ARE responsible for your words.

 

[Hashi]

This thread has got very long and I haven't read the last few pages so I'm not responding to those.

@Meadowsweet, I'm wondering what you're hoping for or aiming at with this topic.

I'm not sure of the purpose of the thread. Could you clarify what you'd like to get out of it?

 

[Philippa]

T If I was in their care and anything happened to me...their "party" was over. They couldn't kill me. He laughed and said "make it easier for us" and "I would never see it coming." Sick bastard.

I'm so so sorry survivor2thriver. You should never have had to be around such sick dickheads. I feel distress from reading this. I feel like reaching out and calmly stroking your hair in a comforting way. So sorry. :([DOUBLEPOST=1398565827,1398565703][/DOUBLEPOST]

You are distorting what I said to suit your needs. Do not judge me. Your behavior towards me is hateful you need to be more introspective. I will ignore any further posts because I don't care.

There's nothing hateful about what meadowsweet is saying, and you are being kinda bossy telling her what she needs. Ignoring someone because you don't like what they are saying is kinda passive aggressive.