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@Echo - How can anyone live in the past and use it to live in the present. I have been going to a counselor and they told me that "we" have no right to blame someone for the past if you have forgiven them for it. I was assaulted from my wife this weekend (a bowl thrown and me) and I had forgiven...

Wow "echo" I think I have been carrying around some of the blame that my wife has thrown at me. She is upset with me because I found a lump in her breast 4 months earlier than the doctors did. I went back to the location where I thought I felt the lump and could not find it. Life went on and I...

(supporter here) - I am experiencing the same thing at this time. No matter what kind of interaction I have, it is always a negative response. Being a supporter is not being a pin-cushion to anger. Can someone please let me know if anger is part of the healing process. I am so new to this and I...

Thank You Serenity55, Slow and patience is a hard learning lesson for a supporter. I will make sure to remember those rules when trying to communicate with my wife. I feel numb when it comes to feeling loved by her. I know she is not herself and I cannot take it personal or it will ruin me also...

Supporters of those who are experiencing “new” difficulties in a marriage due to P.T.S.D., depression, anxiety and anger. I am looking for your experiences on how you may have overcame (any) situation, handle everyday conversations and how you got back into love & intimacy. I have been in a 4...

My prayers go out to you and your family. Healing is important.

I just read about apples in silver in Proverbs this morning, How ironic. I was able to speak to my mother in law for the first time alone since December. She kind of gave me an update about my wife and how she is currently feeling. My mother in law was concerned about me saying "I have...

She is in her early 40's and in menopause. Taking tamoxafin for post cancer treatments. Today she went to church....so at least she is calming down. For me, I just have to remain quiet even know she still pokes at me our a previous conversation. The whole in the wall has been fixed. The damage...

Update: This morning while I was doing some devotions my wife discovered that I threw away a ton of pill bottles that "we" had been collecting for the past 4 years (118 oxy pills and other surgery related pills). She went NUTS and threw a bowl of yogurt at me. She just missed my head and put a...

"mywifestrigger" My wife has not talked to me in 3 weeks until I broke the silence last night. It may be your wifes way of processing her feelings and avoid any confrontation that she may feel as threatening. Last night I totally blew up and unloaded to my wife about many unresolved issues...

(Echo) I just finished a book by Dr. James Dobson called "Love Must be Tough" it was all about tough love and I totally agree that there needs to some boundaries or there will be no consequences or room for change. The only thing that I cannot change are the divorce laws in my state. If I...

I share a strong view about God and marriage. I view my marriage as a covenant between God, husband and wife, two shall become one. God created marriage to reflect his relationship that he has with us. His love is unconditional and does not change. This is where it can look like "mywifestrigger"...

I am not angry at you (wife). I am saddened that you will not allow me to love you like a kind and loving husband would want to do. I am sad that we sleep in different rooms and you lock you door in order to feel protected. I am sad that I have "wants and needs" that are not being met and I...

I worry about the same scenario. My wife who may have PTSD has asked me to remain quiet while we seek advice about our marriage with our pastor. It has been 3 weeks living in the same house and we have talked to each other. Once in a while there is a small note with some instructions....but no...

@ISupportHer When it comes to the dissociative episodes, how to you get into any kind of a conversation with a person who wants to pull away and remain alone. My situation is kind of new (4 months of possible PTSD by my wife.) We live in the same house, had been sleeping in the same bed at...

I have 2 friends I can go to that are good listeners. I also find peace of mind by reading my Bible and having a relationship with God. For me, it helps to know that I cannot fix or control my wife with her issues and symptoms. It is hard battle and I have take it day by day. These forums really...

"mywifestrigger" I think you may be onto something. I feel that my wife is intentionally trying to destroy our marriage vs. getting help. She was such a loving, tender, selfless person. Since the cancer scare she told me that if she stays in this marriage...I have to deal with the "new" her. She...

I have been married for 21 years and since my wife has finished with breast cancer treatments she told me she no longer wants to be married to me. I have my divorce papers now and she has decided to delay the divorce process while we both seek help from our pastor. Our pastor sees no real...

Question: If people with PTSD are capable of love or loving others and they choose to love themselves instead. Is it a choice or decision to hurt. I am also referring to intimacy being withheld as a trigger response.

At this time my wife has not been diagnosed, nor treated for anything yet. She has symptoms of P.T.S.D. and she is in denial. For the past 3 months my sleep pattern is getting out of hand. I can sleep 4-6 hours before I wake up out of a dead sleep. I also noticed that I am now anxious and...

Since my last post on this thread, I have been journaling past and present events. It is not to throw it back into someone’s face but to reflect on how I can deal with situations without blasting back with anger or frustration. I am finding that my wife has a passive/aggressive behavior approach...

wow, thank you "mywifestrigger" for the information. I am really in the same situation as you mentioned. I have been praying and on my knees since December, I have surrounded myself with men that I can go to and be accountable with, who will lead me back to scripture every time. I agree it is a...

Good Morning, I am new to this site and I am in a similar situation with some of you. I am a husband to a wife who just finished and beat an aggressive stage of breast cancer. Since her final treatment had ended this past October our marriage has been turned upside down and after 21 years she...

This is my very first post. Thank You for this site and the personal information that is shared which can help others. I wanted to share with you that my wife of 21 years of marriage is a survivor of an aggressive stage of breast cancer. She did very well with the chemo and radiation therapy...