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Thank you, all, for the replies. All very good. I kind of did some of this with motorcycles. Motorcycles = loud noise = cool kids = Jr. High kids who would tease me = predator I told myself back in April (when the bikes come out), that I would wave to every biker I saw (like they do to each...

Hi. It has been awhile since I have posted. I was pretty much offline over the summer. I noticed several times (per day) that noise triggers me. Not any noise - like the air conditioner running is fine, my kids speaking, the washing machine. But if there is noise from an unknown source...

You are so right, ragdoll. You made me smile! Of course, he has to be over-the-top. How else could he afford his expensive suits?

Nope. I wouldn't be happy doing what every "normal" person is doing. BORING.

I find myself compulsively checking the weather to see if it will rain on the weekend so that everyone else will be miserable and stuck inside so I can have some peace and quiet. Or if the USA is competing against some other country in some sports event, I'll root for the other team to win...

And with me, yes, festivals are a BIG trigger. Same thing: everyone else WILL BE HAVING FUN!!!!!!!!!!!!! Why aren't you having fun? You must be a loser. Same old old story.

Casey: thanks! My "thing" is "want[ing] to feel a connection with other human beings..." My old old story that replays in my mind is that "I'm different." "I don't belong."

Hi. All of you are so helpful to me. I have an issue with the weather forecast/overly-enthusiastic weather people on TV. I know the solution is to turn them off and not listen, and I'm getting better than I was. With me it goes like this: watch weather. Watch weather guy say how PICTURE...

Thanks scout. There is a Rose of Sharon bush that I planted right at the property line. And it does help. But the fear is there. They finally mowed yesterday afternoon, so I won't "have" to worry about them mowing for at least another week. And they didn't mow over the line.

Thanks, as always, scout! You are always so helpful to me! You are right about redefining things. It is hard for me just to accept that I'm anxious and triggered and just let it be that way. I want to fight it, control it, and conquer it. It destroys my attitude. I go home and I'm...

Thanks, Friday. I thought of that but have not followed through. I'm pretty old-school. Don't even have a smartphone.

Hi everyone. I like my job. I love my family. I like our house. I like most of the people in our neighborhood. I'm starting to tolerate the "evil" people next door. They aren't bad, just different from me. The old story of "I don't fit in" "I am different" "People don't like me"...

ATV + old pickup truck + guy = bully from my childhood who is now in a "cool guy" body

Thanks, Ayesha. You are right that I need to look into why this fear is ruling my life so much. Fear of unexpected noise. Fear of unknown people. Fear that I can't escape neighbors that I don't like because they aren't going anywhere and I'm stuck with them. I have been in therapy for 1.5...

We are getting new neighbors. Kitty-corner, not next door. I hate getting new neighbors. We live in a quiet neighborhood and I really hope we get nice people. There was a guy who looked at the house back in December. He had an old beat-up pickup truck with a big ATV in it. I went into...

Hi. I work in a school setting. I read Anthony's great article yesterday about not being isolated. So I decided not to isolate myself, and I went and talked to my colleagues for a bit. The colleague whose desk is next to mine developed the stomach flu last night and isn't in school today...

Thanks, Friday. I'm very territorial too! At least now, through work with my T, I'm able to realize WHY I'm being territorial.

Escape on weekends: yes, it's called horseback riding :) !!!!!!

I have long had this issue when winter (very cold here) turns into spring. I'm not feeling that bad this year, but my anxiety used to be HUGE HUGE HUGE in past years. We go from nice quiet winter when all the noise and icky people around us stay cooped up in their houses to spring, when people...

Thank you, friends! Justme: wow! that helped. Now to figure out what to do when I start to fly off the handle :)

Hi. I have been finding that I over-react to a lot of things lately. My autistic son takes 8 napkins again instead of 1 to wipe his face. His mom had just told him not to do that. I gave him what-for until I finally calmed down enough to tell him and show him how to take one napkin. The...

My problem has been with the neighbors overstepping, as well as the dog (it's not the dog's fault). I just feel like the people don't care and don't respect the line. I feel invaded when the dog (or they) overstep the line. We are very similar, scout.

Thanks Friday. You are so right. It isn't the dog's fault. I've been toying with the idea of a real fence for the longest time. I even got an estimate last year, but never followed through. What is holding me back? I still am trying to figure it out. It is a struggle. It would be so...

Have you talked to your principal or even your school superintendent? Most schools have jumped on the the "no bullying" wagon. I'm a teacher - I should know. Those girls could and SHOULD be getting in HUGE trouble. Dear Superintendent X: My name is X and I am a student at X school...

I know what you are going through. I was bullied in elementary school and still feel scared when people come from behind me. A couple weeks ago I was seated at the kitchen table and my 9 year old son stood behind me. I got really anxious, and all he wanted to do was give me a hug :( It...