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I am the EXACT same way. I'm sure my T spoke of many of the symptoms but I too needed to hear the word "codependency". I swear the moment I read the word followed by the explanation of symptoms I felt a shift. I'm not sure why I needed it to happen this way but who cares! I feel like I just...

Well.... I decided I would pop on over to supporter self management today rather than supporter relationships or something like that since I'm trying to shift my focus to myself. What an eye opener that was! Today I learned I am codependent. No question about it. Reading Nicolette's thread...

Ugh... I feel very exposed right now. I feel stupid for enabling him in an effort to hang on to my family. The cost of this is so high. Not just for me but for so many others. I'm only allowing those feelings to sit for a minute. A small pity party is in order then a rebirth. I was once a...

Ouch Eleanor. The truth does in fact hurt. I need to hear these things. When I read your post I cried. Obviously because it is what I already know but am too afraid to face. I've been in my own therapy for 10 years.... I recently decided I need to change therapists because after that long...

Thank you for your responses. I thought that was an obvious boundary to set and I shouldn't feel bad about speaking up about it. I have found myself since he left saying things like "maybe I should have just said nothing" or "maybe he wasn't drunk" but I know the truth. The truth is that he...

Hi everyone. After a month separation my sufferer who has combat PTSD and PTSD from childhood sexual abuse came home to my daughter and I. Things were not bad and I felt like I was doing a much better job than I had ever done with dealing with PTSD. When he came home we discussed the ways I...

Hi Susiq. My guy has also has an alcohol addiction. I've recently joined al-anon in order to help myself deal with the situation because I have made the decision to stand by him and do everything I can to make our relationship work. Like you I believe there is a man underneath this illness that...

I was ready to be SOOOO angry and let it all out and then I read this. This made me smile a little... I hate that you are going through what your going through and of course I'm going through my own excruciating situation but there was something so refreshing about this line. It made me feel...

Thanks for the comments and support everyone :-) I'm just gonna take it day by day. As long as the baby and I are doing well that's all I can ask for. I have to accept that this is a roller coaster. I have to say so far I am enjoying the silence for once. A month ago I would have said it...

Thank you Amethist. I am going to try to do it that way and see how it goes. He can "babysit" and I will go on and be the family that my daughter deserves. I don't feel that I owe him any more than that at this point. I'm not trying to hurt him or abandon him but you are exactly right, he is...

It's been a month since my boyfriend left my daughter and I. It has taken until Wednesday night for us to be able to have a conversation about his PTSD and our family. My mom had sat down with him earlier that day to go over information about PTSD because he wasn't educated about his own...

Hi FuzzyBear. Welcome to the forum :-) I am a supporter who also joined the forum very recently. You will find lots of information here but more importantly lots of good people to talk to. It has helped me tremendously already.

Hi Chelchie, Welcome to the forum :-) I'm fairly new here too and going through the exact same thing. You will find plenty of help here and lots of good people to talk to. Spring has LOTS of info and encouraging words so take her up on her offer to talk!! It has helped me tremendously...

I deserve to be given the same love and compassion I give to others. I deserve to spend each day living in the now, with patience and peace. I deserve to spend time with my little girl where I can empty my mind of nonsense and REALLY be with her.

I have found all of the responses are helpful. It has been difficult for me to talk to my spouse about PTSD and although every person is not the same, it helps me to hear your perspective of many of these situations. Due to our lack of communication I'm often left to create elaborate reasons...

Thanks for your response prime-no. I would like to clarify what I mean by does pride get in the way. My spouce has multiple times left when we have blowouts. He doesn't think things through when this happens and makes decision when he is in a rage. He makes the decision to end the...

When you leave your spouce/relationships abruptly, what is really going on in your mind? What are your rationizations at that time for making such drastic decisions? Do you battle with yourself like good vs evil? If you start to change your mind does pride keep you from making it right? I...

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Hello and welcome. I'm new here too. So far it's been a blessing being here. You will find lots and lots of information and wonderful people. I have :-)

We will keep communication open because of her and for that I am thankful. Honestly I believe if we didn't have her he would have cut me off completely after this last push. I believe I have the strength to leave it alone but I have believed that before and gone right back to my old patterns...

Thanks Discarded and Safenow! He came and went without incident. I was calm, kind and controlled. He was also calm but I could feel he was nervous. He stayed and spent time with the baby a little less than an hour but I'm grateful for that. Your right I made no mention that I have any fear...

Ugh. I feel like a giant idiot. Every word I said was slow motion. Knowing full well it was a mistake and I was driving him further into rage. I will give it time. Thanks for the support.

My sufferer has this problem from time to time. I can offer one bit of advice. It's important that you are honest about why your sex drive may suffer. I would take it personally because I didn't understand what the problem was. Once he was honest I took the burden off of myself and could...

A few days ago I posted that my boyfriend (father to my 6 month old baby) had left us. After many many crazed attempts at getting him to realize he was making a huge mistake and he needed to finally get help for his PTSD I made the huge mistake of using my daughter as a tool to try to get him...

Holy cow. I'm reading my life in your stories. It brings relief. I too struggle with letting go. More importantly I have struggled mostly with not listening to what my sufferer has been saying. I have been so focused on showing him there is help in a desperate attempt to make it better I have...