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Would you mind elaborating on this for me, please? I get the need for space, but usually my need is much shorter than with someone with PTSD. I'm just curious as to what runs through your mind when your need for space happens. Also, what is the point to which you know you don't need space...

@NaeNae75 I think you read a little bit too much into what I wrote, because I used my own example of how I deal with things and what is working for me and my Vet. I never said any of this is easy or "rainbows and sunshine." Actually, quite the opposite. What I hoped I said was that signing...

I have spoken with two women who are the wives of men who have combat PTSD. When I have complained to them about a similar experience like yours, they both pretty much said that this is normal behavior. Supporters have to have thick skin and not take things so personally. It's a lonely world...

Duly noted! :) And yes, this is just an initial appointment. It's up to him and the EMDR therapist to figure it all out. I'm just the person who made the phone call.

Thank you for that information. I will forward that to him and let him decide. As far as I know, he doesn't have flashbacks.

Because he asked me to do it for him.

So, I asked him just now, based upon what I had read here, if he really wanted to go ahead with the EMDR. He said, "I'm asking for this treatment and I'm ready to get this thing going." He does the work that is required in therapy at the Vet Center. He shows up like clock-work (as long as...

He's very passive aggressive, doesn't like confrontation--is very avoidant. Gently, I run things by him. We discuss these kinds of things, and I'm usually the one who is telling him the pro's and con's of things he wants to do. Sometimes he listens, sometimes he does his own thing, and I'm...

It's not the therapy that is effecting him, it's what's happening in-between the therapy that is badly effecting him. Like I said, he has a very important legal decision to make regarding his child, he needs to talk it over with his therapist. There is no urgency, because he is passive...

Hell, we can't even get marijuana legalized here. :/

I think it's safe to say after reading all of your comments that everyone is different when it comes to their trauma and therapy. What may work for one person, may not work for another. Same goes for trauma. Same goes for therapists. My boyfriend is self-medicating. It's a huge concern to...

I was told that when it comes to the VA or Vet Center, they are there to treat combat trauma only. And that anything outside of the scope of being in the military, they will not treat. This comes from a woman who has dealt with the VA for years and is her husband's caregiver. I would like...

No, I did not make the appointment without consulting my boyfriend. This was a discussed matter between the two of us. I would never do anything without his permission. How do you know if someone is trained properly or not? Per her website, she is trained an certified in EMDR and she is a...

This was an idea that was discussed between the both of us because he felt that there are some things that he didn't feel comfortable in discussing with his VA/Vet Center therapist. He has been in this type of therapy before and said he was open to trying something new. Had he kept his...

My boyfriend is a veteran (Iraq-combat), but I believe he has much more going, on such as C-PTSD. He has been seeing his therapist since January and it seems as though the wheels are slowly coming off the cart and his life is slowly spiraling downward. My question is: Am I wrong for...

Where did you read that and what exactly does dissociation mean?

Thank you for that...I knew that this is what I should do in my own circumstances, but it's hard to hold off the communication, when we are left feeling insecure. But you are right, whenever I lay off, I hear more from my Vet. Duly noted...thank you again.

Thank you for saying that. I'm trying to lead by example. The ONLY person who understand what I am going through, is my mother, because she is right there in the thick of it with us. I take care of her, so she doesn't have to live in a nursing home. Oh! And let me point out here that it...

No kidding. Seriously? I met another woman from a local support group and SHE has ptsd, too.

I'm so sorry. I had PTSD from a domestic incident that rocked my world, but fortunately, I was able to get past it at some point. It took me years not to have my voice quiver and my hands shake, whenever I spoke about it. Actually, it still happens, I just don't really talk about it anymore...

Yes, yes and yes! Exactly how I feel. I'm also a hopeless romantic and maybe this is why none of the other relationships I've been in have lasted. I also believe in fighting for something I believe in. I believe that this is what love does. It sticks around, it fights, it lasts through the...

I find that anything that makes my Vet feel like he has to conform to society, like the labeling us boyfriend/girlfriend freaks him out. But, he is fine with the thought that we are a couple. I also have found that anything that has to do with being obligated to anything, also freaks him out...

No, no...sorry, sometimes I don't explain myself well enough..."the unloveable" is what I refer to as the people who aren't worth the hassle in other people's eyes. It seems like in today's society, nobody is willing to put in the effort it takes to really love someone. We live in a...

Wow, my boyfriend does the same thing. We've been together 1.5 years and he has moved out four times. He tells me he can't and doesn't want to be my boyfriend, yet, when we break-up, we get back together within weeks. It has been an emotional rollercoaster for me. I wish he had come with...