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Oh, I think you'll find you're in good company. Short of your medical problems and coming out of the closet (I'm not gay, so I do not have that experience, but I have had a non-traditional sex life that I've gone to great lengths to hide from most people) I've had basically the same issues and...

Yes, I know exactly what you're talking about. All of it. The compassion for yourself, the third person memories, and the urge to go ahead and put your story out there. It must all be normal. Most of my memories are just feelings now, the details have been lost, but the ones that I remember in...

I taught elementary school out of college and I didn't even last a year. I could not handle it. I didn't spend a moment not worrying about my kids and imagining all sort of horrible stuff and having nightmares about them. I saw problems in some of their lives and I HAD to fix them, but I...

My own experience with this is that I sort of came across it on my own like Richter Scale mentioned. I didn't learn it I just did it and I didn't know what it was until much later. But I can't do it in the context of therapy. My marriage counselor used to try to get me to "find and comfort my...

I'm feeling nauseated and incredibly sad over something I heard earlier. I'm feeling slightly ashamed of the current cleanliness level of my home. I'm feeling proud because my toddler is so cool, and I'm feeling annoyed because he is always getting into something (my purse right now). And I'm...

I had never taken an antidepressant, either. I started Wellbutrin 6 weeks ago. It's actually worked wonders. I kept a symptom/ side effect diary for the first 3 weeks and seemed to level out at that point (so I stopped writing about it). I'll find it and give you a brief run down. I was...

I just read the other thread and, y'know, what everybody told you there still applies. Let this thing go and work on yourself. You don't want a guy who doesn't want you, anyway. Like I said- online dating is full of bs. This time it happened to be you dishing it out... But that really just...

Wait, what, this? I'm so lost.

This sounds like an incredibly unhealthy relationship with an incredibly immature guy. I can guess you came here hoping to hear that the things he is doing are due to his illness and that if you give him enough support or time or space or whatever that you can have a real relationship with him...

Yeah I think I know what you're talking about. A lot of the things that I have done, or let other people do, over the years never made sense to me except recently in light of the concept of what my therapist called co-dependence and a freeze reaction or what I've come to understand here and...

This is such a wonderful thread! Just wanted to say that. Not much I could add right now that isn't already here.

I'd show you a picture of my heels now, but nobody wants to see that. I've been told that my paternal grandfather did the same thing. He died before I was born so I didn't know him. I have no idea if it counts as a form of self harm. I used to think I had never hurt myself intentionally, but I...

Yep, that's been me for the past few years now. I was the same constantly going, going, going, but I became depressed while pregnant with my son, and then just fell apart after he was born and couldn't keep anything together. I believe that stemmed more from resurfacing childhood and early...

The internet is difficult. While I'm glad I found this site and it's really helped me form some insight into my own experiences, I feel a constant tug away from it. I guess it's distrust and insecurity. I don't want to put my innermost thoughts and my dirty little- and not so little- secrets out...

I had a similar revelation recently. It felt kind of like I had been holding my breath for 16 years and then finally was able to let it out. Your studying analogy is very fitting. Don't worry it is a good thing. Look at this whoah period like recovery time from a hard workout or something.

I have a friend like this. She just can't process mental illness. It's completely bizarre because her father is schizophrenic and has been diagnosed with combat-related ptsd. I think her recurring anger toward him won't let her give him the "excuse" of mental illness. It's like she blocks the...

Oh, I know what you're getting at. We decided to stop him when he first started doing it quite a while back, but it actually is something I've gone back and forth in my head about. Getting his aggressions out v. hitting an anthropomorphized object. I'm not comfortable with him hitting this doll...

This is an interesting point. My son is the same age as the 2 year old in the OP (2 in August) and he could easily behave the same way as this little girl, only I have no tolerance for bullying or anything that looks like a possible precurser and won't even allow him to slap his baby doll. So I...

I definitely hope this isn't all families, especially not the one I've created :nailbiting:. But it was certainly mine. My sister called me "the whipping child" growing up (later identified as "scapegoat" by therapists). I guess she thought it was amusing. It was not. It happened a long time...

I'm just going to skip completely over trying to define IQ or EQ. I don't know. I'm not an expert and I haven't cared enough about either to form strong opinions. And I'm not sure what we're considering a high IQ to be so maybe my opinion doesn't even count. I've been tested and I can say that I...

I was saying something similar to my husband the other day. Not only hearing such horrible stuff day in and day out (and I know this is extremely insensitive of me, but then turning around hearing such trivial stuff and taking it just as seriously must be so difficult), but my therapist has told...

Wow, driving, another thing I had given no thought to. I've been in 2 major accidents, both with my mom. The first time she was drunk, the second time the other driver was. No fatalities, they weren't that bad. Just totaled vehicles and a couple of hospital trips. Bruising and pain for me the...

Something else similar, and I know this applies to so many people here, please don't take offense; I do not trust soldiers. I live in a military town and I cringe inside when they are around. This stems directly from my own past. And it's equally ridiculous. I've known far more wonderful...

I'm not sure how to answer. I don't trust them in the same way that I don't trust bosses or landlords or teachers or librarians or even the folks at the tax commissioner's office. I feel like they're constantly out to get me. I don't make eye contact with them out in public and try everything in...

So much of this. My husband and I have always talked about how differently we would do things, etc, etc. But we were not at all prepared for the impact that having a small, helpless, beautiful, perfect child around would have on us. We can't help but look at him and think "I was just like that"...