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Glad for your words on this subject. I have tried one or two max EMDR sessions– then, terrified of what I'd find I guess, I turned tail and ran out of there. But I know there isn't a better place to face my fears than in the therapist's office. After psyching myself up time and again to just...

I agree with astrid_shadow. Talking through it with someone trustworthy-tough to find that person outside of therapy but that's okay-makes all the difference for me. *This forum's a great place, too if you don't mind the written versus spoken word... (-: Being alone makes the flashbacks more...

Been there and am doing that right now. Don't worry, you are in good company. Pete Walker, a cPTSD survivor himself, speaks about this in his book Survive and Thrive with a better articulated perspective than I've ever read. Building back ourselves and recovering from cPTSD will probably be a...

Yes, just figured out how to drop a quote in myself. ☺ The mats are a great idea, one I'll be sure to use once we spend more time, more often in one place. She's already got one at home specifically for that purpose, so a transition should be seamless.

You have a powerful grounding force in your sd; there's no reason to have to separate yourself from her if you feel the need for her assurance. It's her job and she clearly loves you and loves helping you. And, though it It'd be naive of me to say "Hey, maybe someday you can just "retire" her...

Good for you-an inspiration for me to work toward!

Yes, I very much have issues around my own safety. Before training my service dog to function as a combination grounding point for me to maintain my anxieties-or do my best to work through them and recover- I was lost much of the time. Though super safe and sweet to me, her unquestionable love...

Wow, I really appreciate your articulation; with some exceptions, I share many of the same circumstances as you. The fact you can express something as complex as living under arrangements like ours without losing sight of prioritizing family love means you're that much further ahead than you...

Drawing from the past, I can say I don't really react much at all inside. Often I'm too caught up in my own world to even hear or to listen. Outwardly, I've responded to my ex wife, for example by passing her repeated "I love you's" off with a lackluster "Love you, too." Interestibly, there's no...

Yes, indeed, welcome to this forum. From the perspective of a sufferer not significant other, I heartily support seeing help in defining boundaries and other by products of life with a ptsd survivor. Trust, being the gigantic issue that it is isn't easily earned from me. Many times I've found...

What a terrific response to this thread. As a left arm amputee, I've trained my dog to primarily respond to voice commands and my facial expressions to free my "good" arm for other things. Down, Release and Gentle are perhaps our biggest, depending on where we're working on a given day. After...

Yep, big time. I live full time in my RV down south during the winter and other folks - my neighbors - have impromptu gatherings most every day/evening. If/when I see some of them early in the day and they ask if I'll be there I almost always say "yes" because I don't want to be left out. But...

PS: Just think; you did it!!!! Congrats-your effort's inspired a blueprint for when my time comes, too! (May) You're nothing short of awesome!

That's a good policy-Trix aren't just for kids in my house, either.

My now-ex-wife used to always say that of course her cooking always tasted wonderful because she made it with love. Meals were-and should be-special in more than just physical nourishment, but other ways, too. Soul food, right? That said, could it be possible your husband has jealousy issues...

Yes, welcome to this site; I'm new, too and have found a wonderful abundance of information, inspiration and support. Though cptsd symptoms were the death knell for both my own marriages, I am glad to finally have learned cptsd was the cause, Like your husband, I was 46 before I could put a...

Me, too. What I might learn in emdr- in addition to what I already remember - scares the bejesus outta me. Good for you for setting the goal, and for waiting 'til you know the time is right.

It also wouldn't surprise me if your dog has become a surrogate for your inner child? A doggie-especially a trained service dog-can often offer both protection and unconditional love and be your confidante, too. I'm not afraid to say anything to her, including the things I'd once only dared...

I'm with you; the pollsters calling to get my "honest opinion " about last November's election-a major stressor for me - was relentless. Because I recently got a new smart phone, which is my lifeline given my chronic amnesia from multiple head injuries (cptsd, too?), it's my memory. From...

Thank you for sharing your ongoing situation. It-and all the supportive posts that followed have given me encouragement and inspiration to continue with my own healing. You and I- all of us, really - are in good company here, and I am so grateful for that reminder for, as it's said, The wolf...

The "stupid " part I sometimes feel from my own pot usage, that is. Over 'n out!

I know that a lot of people, here on this forum and out in the world in general recommend limiting pot consumption & using it as a band-aid to cover acute symptoms. I use it for such purposes-acuteness and also for mood stabilization daily. Depending on the day, I might, indeed be feeling...

You're right about the cancer example. Lately, I've been lucky to meet a few cancer survivors, other folks my own age (50-somethings), one of whom also had heart bypass surgery. Though, far as I know they aren't also dealing with long term ptsd, I get an amazing shot of inspiration from them...

One major symptom of my ptsd is that I have difficulty meeting people and maintaining social relationships. I'm not always coming from a good place inside and, quite frankly, often just want to run and hide from people. It's the shame I carry, I suppose. But my 8 year old Belgian Malinois...