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In itself it cant mean that - because if someone is asleep - they cannot be aware what is happening. If on the other hand you have learned that that is what happened for definate, then you could be processing that knowledge - so its not the actual event you are dreaming about - because its...

hi thanks, life now - isnt great, and hasnt been for a long long time. prior to the accident (many years), i was abused by a child a few years older than me (i was 7). My therapist thinks the abuse and the crash have led to problems with "power dynamics", which im hoping to discuss with her...

thanks for the reply. Yeah i visit the site and just stare at the spot where it happened, i feel a lot of things - but i cant say i feel distressed, sad yes- but its almost like i wish it could happen again - really no idea why

A dream can just be a dream - i think its viewed as a dream cant be taken literally - which is why they are so usually strange and surreal. The same dream with 2 different people can mean totally different things. So i would so no it doesnt "mean" it - it could mean many things, or it can mean...

no absolutely not sexual assault, unhealthy yes and a problem - but would be totally unfair and in fact criminal to label him as someone who assaulted you. best to be honest and if you dont want to then say no - he cant read your mind and would not want to be having sex with someone who sees...

i honestly dont know if its even possible to "remember" anything as a baby, i dont think proper memories start to form until later, we just arent developed enough

i know how you feel, like a constant need to prove yourself - even to yourself at times, as if everyone will not believe you by default. I often think the same, what if im remembering wrong and my T is just taking me at face value. No idea what to do with it, but i know how you feel

i know what you mean, i too recently told my T for the first time - i felt conflicted as like you the perpatrator was a similar age to me. For years i wondered if it was just experimentation too - but it didnt FEEL like experimentation and its plagued me ever since. My T too thanked me for...

One thing to add, ive seen private therapists and those in the NHS - and while im sure there are very good senior therapists, ive since found out a lot of people who we believe to be therapists - are actually mental health nurses. They may be very experienced and im sure do a good job but they...

i fell your pain, i too know the suffering of the nhs getting their act together. They will do anything to avoid providing the right mental health care - even when it is them who recommended it! Years ago i was looking for funding to get the level of care they said i needed but couldnt provide...

i think that self blame is very common, the thing that stopped me from talking about it was i felt responsible - because my perpatrator was another child - i did nothing, i just let it happen and felt - well if i did all that, i must be to blame too. Therapists understand, they hear it every...

things really did change around that time, a couple of months prior to it i had a breakdown when i was 16, things had been bad for a long time. The accident in many ways saved me, because i was physically in danger for a long time, every other thought got overtaken with trying to get physically...

Well recently i have been seeing a new therapist. Ive opened up and started talking about some past abuse, and years later a car accident which nearly killed me. The issue is, now years later from the accident, i cant help visiting the site - i feel a huge draw to it. When im there i feel sad...

its a very difficult thing to do, ive been in and out of therapy for over 20 years and only last week managed to tell my T! even then i didnt go into every detail of it, and she did ask what happened exactly - looking for detail, and i said no i dont want to say that, and that was fine. they...

i think for me after i actually did start to be sexually active, i hated the experience, so i went hyper to try and make it feel "good" if that makes sense. it never did feel good and years later i just want nothing to do with it at all, the thought of sex makes me feel ill

thanks everyone. ive found the term "abuse" hard to accept, because the perpetrator was only a couple of years older and still a child himself - but it does seem to explain my twisted view of sex ever since i think. im just not sure what to do about it however....

hi all As a child of around 7, another older child was sexual with me, my T classified this as abuse. Following the event for many years i would say i was hypersexual, i was totally obsessed with sex for many many years. Even though i hated it, and when i became sexually active - i would...

thanks a lot for your reply. In a lot of ways i do feel for him too, but thats kind of conflicting because i hate what happened and that he did what he did, so i dont want to let my pity for him take away from the impact its had on my whole life and i dont really know what to do about that...

Thanks for the reply. Well my therapist listened to me, and had been for some time, it took some time to bring this up. Ive always tried over the years but just never could do it. She could tell it was difficult and i found it very hard, and from her point of view and from what ive later found...

Hi all Well recently here and with my T ive started to open up about an incident from my childhood. For those who havent seen my previous posts: When i was around 7 or 8, a boy friend of mine who was about 10 started being sexual with me. Now at the time i assume for him it was a kind of...

i think thats a fairly normal thing for a child to do, and probably quite normal for a parent to react like that to not make a big deal of it - which it shouldnt be

Unfortunatly no, the nhs and private fields are quite different, i was paying private while i was waiting for nhs to come through, i wish i could afford to keep paying but im afraid i cant any more, ive spent all i had on private

Hi all Well yesterday i met with who will become my new T. Currently i have been seeing a private therapist while i was waiting for NHS therapy to come through. Finally it did after a 6 month wait, the new one is a psychiatrist and she seems nice and think ill get on good with her. She will...

its sometimes not recommended to see a therapist too often, that may be the problem. While it feels like additional support, it can actually be doing you more harm than good, the fact you respond so badly to a cut in therapy would support that. Just bring it up with the therapist, and they...

a therapist tried EMDR with me years ago, i found it a bit confusing - i didnt really understand the process and it ended up feeling a bit farcical, maybe it wasnt done correctly but it wouldnt be something id be interested in trying again