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I have no scaring. I'm here due to long term childhood sexual abuse. The similarity in feelings that struck me is the minimization and invalidation from others. It is so hard to accept and deal with what life has thrown at us, but so much harder when the supposed "support" trivializes our...

I remember the first time I consciously put this into action. A typically friendly colleague started ignoring me (my calls and emails). I didn't know why and started to search for what I might have done wrong, then I realized that I didn't know why this change happened and I could choose to...

I had a "friend" who used to say "I am not responsible for your emotions....you are responsible for your own emotions" It took me years to understand and accept the meaning in this. I couldn't accept it at first because my abusers were responsible for damaging me (my emotions). If they weren't...

I didn't read your whole post (I'm sensitive) but I'm so impressed that you could share your story. I haven't shared mine with anyone and I'm not sure I ever will be able to.

I am good at fixing things and building functional items from "junk".

I think part of it might come from how much you don't want to be like that, and then fear that you might be a tiny bit like that. Apparently with ocd you ruminate on your worst fear, i.e. What you find most abhorrent. The difficulty is that everyone has a little bit of every negative and...

This is the problem for me. My T doesn't like labels but is that because I'm not "bad" enough and should suck it up better...or does she just not like labels. I'm currently unable to work etc and I keep going through loops of "am I just being lazy" or "am I struggling/suffering".

Really good question. My biggest frustration is my inability to do "normal" things and my need for constant breaks from doing normal things. My T however is encouraging me to be okay with my limitations and is challenging me on my inner critic that judges that I'm not doing enough. (I do all...

What really helped me was learning to regularly do self soothing activities. Do you know what soothes you? Do you do those activities regularly throughout your day? I need to do them when I'm feeling "good" and it stops me slipping into the "bad".

Can I be the person who fixes broken things as repairing things helps me. Pity I can't repair people (including myself).

Thinking of you. Not sure if I have anything useful to say other than I care

Welcome :) There is lots of great support here. I'm glad you found us.

Thank you for this thread, so many parallels for me.

I'm tired of living with the bad. I'm tired of all the things it limits me doing or enjoying. While I believe I can be happy and live a good life, it will always be limited.

Keep as is

Welcome :) I hear you loud and clear on this one.

T: I'll always be here for you Me: You can't guarentee that, and I don't have the $234,000 to commit to you (based on $150 per week for 30 years, assuming I die at 70ish).

My thoughts are with you

You are not alone, I could write pages on this topic. I would take a friend to your GP and discuss your desire for the pill and no examinations and ask for the options. I would need a friend to control that appointment for me and to guarentee no examinations on that day. I suspect there won't...

Maybe consider where the edges of abandonment are. Eg if your closest friend doesn't return you call for x amount of time, what is that time which makes it feel abandonment. Eg your closest friend moving, what distance makes it abandonment, eg two suburbs or interstate etc?

33 which was a bit of a surprise. Some answers were "never" an others I thought... doesn't everyone do that? Regarding... 25. Some people find evidence that they have done things that they do not remember doing. I have wanted to know for some time now how much of this is disassociation, and...

My mother would not ask for things directly but instead make quite subtle hints, which we would all miss and then get in trouble for. As a result, for a while I would read into everyone's actions. Now, I've at the opposite end of this and my friends know that if they want something from me...

There is at least one other who has been on here due to death of a child, if you don't find the responses you are looking for on this thread maybe start a thread with that as the title. Welcome :)

There are a few threads on the more general topic of adult versus child trauma. I do think they are very different and need to be treated in therapy as very different. Comparing traumas as "worse" or "better" however tends to be counterproductive. There are just too many individual facets that...

Maybe understanding that miscarriages are very common and generally speaking you only tell people of your pregnancy if you would also want to tell them of a miscarriage. This might explain why her telling her support group is okay, but you telling your mate was not. Pregnancy hormones, body...