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For me having this board has helped me more I think than my T. Knowing that if something goes wrong, that I have somewhere to reach out, somewhere supportive and helpful. This allows me to try new approaches, to risk a little more as there is a safety net full of people who "get it".

It sounds like a tactic. The intended message may have been "no one would love you, I'm the only one who would love you". Horrible.

Skeletal pain. It's the joints of my upper spine.

A quote from Lewis carol "I can't go back to yesterday because I was a different person then" The point of this quote is...you are not your past...and you are working towards a new you that you can be proud of. This stuff is hard work :hug:

I agree with all the above. Maybe reducing (or not increasing) the quantity of post its is more important than the phrasing....but I can't help myself. Is "absolutely all children are born innocent, including me". Just thoughts.

I read once that positive affirmations can have a negative effect if they are too contradictory to your core belief. Eg a person with a huge weight issue affirms that "I am skinny". What happens is the brain and subconscious, when it hears that affirmation, contradicts it and argues why it's...

Welcome to the forum It's such a great place to find people who actually understand.

Unfortunately I don't think loving sex is available to you currently and I would think that abstinence would be necessary for a while for it to become available to you. Do you say the above because you are craving connection and sex fills that need? Personally I find that understanding my...

Could it be that this type of pain is more comfortable/familiar than your current pain. Maybe it's not that you want to hurt "more" just hurt in a different way that overrides your current hurt and a pain that you feel more control/familiarity in. If so, maybe we can help you sit through your...

It was in response to these comments. I believe that Eve (like many of us) were shunned for being emotional, but this was harmful, unfair and because of "them" not us. People (not all but many) chose denial over helping, denial of the trauma, denial that the trauma is significant, and denial...

I am currently convinced that people push others to "be happy" because they don't have the emotional resilience to allow others to be unhappy. This is a limitation of them.

I currently have a lot of pain in my upper back, not hideous pain just constant interfering discomfort. A lot has happened recently in my life and I really believe this is a body memory that I want to process....but I don't know how to. My abuse (CSA) was never physically violent (that I...

The letter is not PTSD based in my opinion. But....Whether you send the letter is more about what you want to achieve by the letter, and if it will achieve it. If you want him to change his behavior, do you think the letter will work. If you want to be heard, do you think he'll hear you. If...

I've labeled those events as emotional flashbacks. I don't know if that's correct, but it helps me recognize them and get through them easier.

I have learned that when I feel lazy, it's not laziness but being overwhelmed. If I go to bed and allow myself to be "lazy" it passes and I come out of it with energy and motivation. It took me a long time to give myself permission to be "lazy"....can you give yourself permission to do "nothing"?

@Hope4Now no need to start a new thread, you are welcome to respond here.

This reminded me of a project I did once. I cut out eyes from magazines and once I had a stack of them I pasted them on a "I like" sheet or "I don't like" sheet. Some were neutral, but I made myself decide between only two options. This was very telling for me and I wouldn't recommend eyes as a...

The facts make it so, not your current or past label of it. Your T should know this. If you can't raise your concern on this topic, that is a red flag about your T.

You could try writing down an event, not necessarily the details but like a heading description. Then web search "list of emotions for kids" which will give lots of great charts etc. then see if you can pick any emotions from that list to put under your heading. Pick any and all that seem to...

YouTube. Xbox. If they aren't playing xbox they are watching YouTube videos of others playing xbox. Steam. (Xbox for a pc) Anything just a bit too old for them. I think this is a big difference for us. We here were forced to grow up too fast, they are desperate to.

If a therapist told me to toughen up, I'd wonder why they need me to. It's a flaw in others that they need people to hide their feelings. Maybe that's not clear, I'll try again. Person A has emotions, person B says to toughen up. This is because person B can't handle their emotional response...

I need to purge a lot of accumulated items. They are not junk, but I've moved on from them and need to let them go. I'm hoping posting it here will help me be accountable. I get anxiety from throwing things out, but I need to.

To me friendly is the shop knowing my name, saying good morning and a friendly sparkle in their eyes. Personal is asking how my day is going, commenting on what I'm wearing or doing for the day. But, everyone is different. To keep people friendly but not personal I smile, look attentive but I...

The problem with alcohol and lack of memory is that one doesn't know what happened or what was said. For example, what if the girl says no and that's the end of their memory, but what if the boy then asks again and the girl says yes. While a boy should never (in my personal opinion) have sex...

Yes! The damage from my first T has been completely undone, except for maybe that I'm scared to push too much with my current T as I know i can go "bad". I have threads here from that time, I don't want to go back and look at them, it was a horrible time.