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@ghotiff I have instances very similar but not in the same magnitude as this. I'm sure we can all remember numerous occasions where grace would have been welcomed and instead we were served a heaping helping of scorn. I had injuries that were ignored....and if they couldn't be ignored (broken...

They sexually harassed that poor kid. I don't even know if my seven year old boy knows what sexual abuse is. It has to be horrifying to find out in that manner.

Yes. I understand. I, as an adult, was mad at my mother on how she treated the child me. This allowed the child me to have a moment to really be mad. The adult me was angry with all the senseless suffering after that. I also said out loud, "I was right." And I was right! I was fighting for my...

I struggle with the parenting aspect quite a lot. I think I'm more sensitive to my kids' daily emotional needs, where my hubs tends to think more broadly in the overall picture. I've been reading several books about emotional neglect and how to raise my kids without those kinds of burdens. I...

Sounds like integration. As I understand it, it's when trauma memories are integrated with normal ones.

I started a thread way back in 2006. There are some great poems there if you want to take a look. I'm not much of a poet...but there have been many on this forum. Link Removed

Can I say something funny? I'm blushing over here.... The text came on my screen long before the images. My mind briefly went to...what is huge?

Gaah. Secondary wounding. It's painful as can be. The healing journey from that goes backwards before going forward. I wasn't misdiagnosed, but just not treated well after the traumas. The anger that wells up in me about all the senseless suffering because of it is maddening. I feel for you. I...

I'm reading a book called Running on Empty. It's about how emotionally neglectful care givers influence to the child now negatively affects the adult. It was an eye opening book. I realized that I found my emotions in the way. Most people are not like that. Most people feel then think then act...

You know, with me, it's the length of time it takes for me to get used that person. It can take a long time. I am also a INTP, sometimes a INTJ. I think I'm more judging when I'm healthier. Anyway, I'm pretty good with acquaintances, but when it comes to friends, I have three. One lives on the...

They are beautiful. Enjoy!

Your spider analogy was perfect. Too bad she didn't get it. I would give her some time and yourself some time to settle. Maybe next time preface it with that you just want to talk and don't need a guard dog?

Could you apprentice with another caterer? Or partner up with someone. These are skills you can work with. Often the marketing is done by someone else. With food especially, the main source of marketing is through word of mouth. I have a Facebook page. Sometimes that's all that is needed to get...

It's an empty pit, that feeling. I've been accused of having it together. My jaw was on the floor. Really? I didn't know what to say. When I was diagnosed with delayed onset ptsd, it was like the rug got yanked from under me and I fell into a different place. I was scared, frozen. I felt no...

No, I don't know this book, but it's on my list now. Have you thought about writing? Making cards? Are you able to see what looks good instantly? If you are good with found objects, interior design or organizer might be good. Floral designer? Here's the thing: many of the stressors you mention...

Me too!! My hubs so does not get this. If my stomach is growling in bed he says, go eat. And I say, just wait a few minutes. It'll go away.

There is so much going on here....I don't think I have a short answer. One that will offer something before April. Certain creative outlets may be a better option for you. Those tend to be flexible in schedule and you tend to set the deadline. I'm leaning this way because that is what I am but...

I wanted my parents to take me back to the orphanage. My heart hurts when I think about this memory. I told my dad this. He told me that that was ridiculous. Why would you want to do that? And I couldn't answer. I was just so sad and defeated and I felt like there was more hope there. Then I...

I did it! I joined a Hot Yoga class. 100 degrees F. I sweated like crazy for an hour. I might have to prepare better next time. I'm pretty sure I was dehydrated a couple of times and I thought my supper was going to come up, but then it started to get calmer. They kept the room so dark it was...

I'm with @sun seeker seeker. Torture of any sort. You would not believe how many kids shows have scenes like this! Cars 2 has a scene that I can't watch. There are others that I've pushed from my mind...Rescuers Down Under. And there are so many about holding a child or younger animal hostage...

Welcome. It takes a little time to get a bearing of your surroundings and able to keep moving forward. I have 4 kids under 12, so I understand the PTSD parent thing. It's tough. I'm trying to repair the damage currently with my 12 year old. If, I may, advise you to keep your heart and mind open...

@shimmerz has a good idea. The brain takes time for another habit to form enough myelination for that pathway to be the preferred pathway than the one you are doing reflexively. Scientifically, it takes 3 weeks of conscious effort before you can simply forego the cognitive aspect and go straight...

I'm in the same boat. I rarely have an appetite even if my stomach is growling. For some reason, I don't register that as "hunger pain". It's just annoying. But it also doesn't equate to eating more food. There's a disconnect there, isn't there? The other issue is that when I do eat, I don't eat...

Struggling a bit. Therapist appointment can't come soon enough....

I'm almost positive it's guilt ridden advice. Second chance for her to feel better about herself. Don't let your mother's opinion make you second guess your parenting style. Those of us that grew up in emotionally neglect households don't really know what real parenting is. We were only shown...