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Thank you @ladee ,I can see positives and negatives with both types of therapist. I wouldn't say my new one is cold or uncaring he just has a different approach than the last one.

Yes unfortunately with the NHS you only get a certain number of sessions,I was lucky I suppose because my therapist pushed for me to have more sessions and we were together for over a year. At the moment I am struggling with all these different emotions and I think if I had another therapist who...

Also I will say even though I do not know anything about the new T I have managed to form a therapeutic relationship and I like him.He comes across a kind person who wants to keep me safe.

@barefoot Thank you for your reply and I didn't think your reply was a ramble at all and I found it very interesting and could so easily relate to what you are saying. I live in the Uk and I saw my last therapist on the NHS.My new therapist works for a charity which deals with CSA so on both...

I always thought that I needed to feel attached to my therapist in order for therapy to work but I found that it also cause me a lot of heartache and pain because I couldn't deal with the abandonment issues. Thank you @Sietz for you view.It is always intresting to get other people's view.

I have had 6 sessions with a counsellor who specialises in sexual abuse and so far I have found it difficult but I also know I need to do this in order to move on. My new therapist is completely different to my last therapist in that I know nothing about him at all apart from his first name...

When I had EMDR it felt like I had been hit by a lorry/truck and my whole body ached afterwards and I had the nausea as well. Maybe you should discuss with your therapist how you felt afterwards as you shouldn't be dreading your next session.

I just wanted you to know that you are not alone in feeling this way.I am constantly questioning myself about what happened to me as a child and I often think I am some fraud. I don't think you have to have loads of flashbacks,for me it is a gut thing and a body reaction more that anything...

We may not know you in real life but we like you as person on here and that has absolutely nothing to do with sex. You are such a bright,intelligent and articulate person but you have also been hurt and that can distort how you see yourself. I have core beliefs which are different to yours but...

@EveHarrington I read a lot of your posts on here and I just wanted to say how much I admire you as a person.Yes you can be very straight forward and direct but that is what I like about you and part of me wishes I could be more like you.There is a lot more about you than just sex and if you...

When a person gives their story as a reply it doesn't mean that they are in exactly the same position as you they are just saying how transference has affected them. There are different types of transference which come out in therapy and none of them make you a freak and I am sorry you feel that...

@Sietz. I have exactly the same problem and I completely hate myself as a person. I can have compassion for others but I find it very difficult to have any compassion for my self. I think that people who go through trauma are brainwashed and conditioned to believe we are these are evil /bad...

I had transference issues with my last T.All my life I had been looking for this superman character to love , protect me and keep me safe and for me I felt that with my T.I also had this deep need to care about him as well. In my eyes he was this perfect man who I put on a pedestal ,I adored him...

If music or music videos are a trigger for you then it probably best to avoid them until you feel safe again or until you are able to talk through your problems with someone qualified. I haven't been able to listen to music for the last 10 months because it is a major trigger for me. Welcome to...

To me this doesn't sound like a very healthy therapeutic relationship and you should seriously consider seeing a different therapist. With regards to the erotic transference I had this as well with my last therapist and he knew but not once did he take advantage of the situation. A good...

I have always felt different and like I do not fit on anywhere. I often call myself a freak and a weirdo.

1)It is not the lie that has annoyed me but the fact that you have insulted my intelligence. 2)Trust no one and that way you do not get hurt. 3)I really do not want to go shopping with you 4)How are you meant to deal with this sh*t. 5)Nobody understands me.

To me it sounds like your way of dealing with what happened to you. We all deal with trauma in a different ways.Some of us internalise our feelings whilst others externalise how they are feeling.

I think every single therapeutic relationship could be seen as a emotional affair after all you are disclosing personal information about yourself to another person that you wouldn't tell anyone else in the world. I was really close to my last therapist but you know what he kept professional...

Thank you @Rumors for your reply and your analogy of tickling. In my head I know it was a biological response but as you say when you think about it then it makes you feel physically sick. I think also it was the shock of the question being asked to me and the fact that the word YES came out of...

Thank you so much both of you for ypur replies and thank you for being so honest as well. Yes I got told that our bodies need to feel the pleasure in order to reproduce.It is such a difficult concept to get your head around as leads to a lot of shame and disgust. Thank you for letting me know...

I have just started working with a sexual abuse counsellor and yesterday he asked me as massive question " Did I feel any pleasure during my abuse" ? He said it was a important that I answer the question because I am feeling so much shame and disgust at the moment . I gave him a very honest...

@theshadowoftheliving I have not got any advice really but I wanted you to know that I have the exact same fear.I will wake up in the middle of the night in a panic that all my teeth have fallen out and have to check to make sure they are still there. My friend told me the other day that she...

This is a great thread and question. I put myself through this because I need to find out who I really am as a person. I need to understand what happened to me when I was 5 years old and how it has a impacted on every single part of my life and how it has shaped me. I need to do this to...

I had no touch at all with my last therapist as he worked in the NHS and in my experience it is a big no no for a therapist and client to touch in this sector. I had strong attachment issues with him and I would have liked to have touched his hand however if he would have offered me a hug I...