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When I had EMDR I felt like I had been hit by a bus and body ached all over.I agree with @Mytime in that affects different people in different ways.I would discuss your concerns with you therapist and see if they can come up with a plan to help you with your difficulties.

I know some people think this is a big no no and breaking boundaries but I actually told my psychologist that I love him and I didn't feel ashamed about it at all,it felt really natural to me.He makes me feel safe and secure and for the first time in my life I have managed to trust a man.We have...

Another person in the same boat here.Except I have got a male therapist and I am really attached to him.It sounds like you have a good relationship with your T and I would say talk to her about her about your concerns about your attachment and the end of therapy and hopefully she will be...

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She isn't in charge of you and a therapy session should be about what you want to talk about.I would write down everything that you want to talk about and show it to her and then hopefully she might get a better idea of what subjects you DO want to talk about.

The more I read this thread the more uneasy I feel about it and none of it is your fault.Your ex T should have recognised your attachment to her and should never have crossed those boundaries by asking you to be friends with her, now you are having difficulties with the dynamic of the...

I think you are right @Scarlet13 it is a lot easier to recognise these kinds of attributes in other people rather than ourselves. My T actually told me off the other day when I talked down my intelligence and called myself stupid. I think a lot of it is to do with a lack of self confidence...

You have not messed up but it does sound like you have insecurities about the relationship that you need to deal with. When you were in therapy did she know that you put her on a pedestal?

I know some people on here are going to say that they think that it is a perfectly ok for a therapist and their client to be friends and that you shouldn't be worrying about this relationship and that you are probably just over analysing the situation. However that isn't my view and I had this...

I wouldn't say I am jealous of him but I would say that I compare myself to him. My T did a completely different job before this one and his life sounded absolutely amazing ,he also has lots of attributes that I would love to have like how articulate and intelligent he is. I once accused him of...

I am always looking for someone to save me and this is one of the big reasons why I have attachment problems with my therapist.As I described to him I am constantly looking for this Superman character who will swoop in and rescue me, someone who is the perfect man but as he told me he can't be...

I had this a few weeks ago in that I find my birthday a very difficult anniversary to deal with because of numerous reasons.I would say try to take some time out for yourself and do some activities which find relaxing like listening to music,doing some mindfulness techniques or watch a film that...

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@Moo How would you feel if he called it childhood trauma instead of abuse ? My father used to hit me beyond discipline and my mother is a naracissit who often puts me down with her words and my T hardly ever calls it abuse instead he will describe my parents as the ones with the problems who...

My T asks me this at the start of each session and at the end of session and over time I have learnt to become honest and open at the start of the session and say "actually I am not that great" and then go on to him why. I find it harder at the end of the session because I feel we are time...

I am the same as you @UnicornSightings in that therapy gives me a chance to practice the skills that I need in relationships in a safe environment with a safe person who I trust and now I have started to use those skills now in the outside world.

We are both very open and honest with each other and there have been times where I have told him where I didn't think he was listening to me and he has taken it on board.Also I have got this real thing about the tone of his voice and if that is wrong I will tell him. On the whole I give him...

To me as a person who lives in the UK and has her therapy on the NHS I find this thread really interesting and different from my experience . I see my psychologist in a hospital which was built quite recently and is quite modern ,the actual therapy room we go in quite big and in the middle there...

I really think you need to have a discussion with him about your expectations,wanting him to be perfect and about him forgetting details.We are all human beings and we all make mistakes, forget things and even professional people do this from time to time. I think you could be right that maybe...

I think that it is a lovely idea and very thoughtful and if other people are having the tea as well then I don't see the problem. At Christmas time I made some cakes for my psychologist and the office where he works and he was pleased and told me it was really thoughtful . I do think that giving...

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We just had snow over the last few days and now we have got rain

It used to be once a week but now I am coming to the end of therapy it is getting cut down to 2 weeks and then every 3 weeks

I have a great relationship with my psychologist but like you I still have times where I think that he can't stand me , that he is bored with me and even the smallest change in the tone of his voice will set me off ,I am a shy person and find it hard to open up but over a period of time I have...

I believe that the key to a good therapeutic relationship is being open and honest with each other and being felt that both of you are listening to each other. You should be able to bring up any problems that you have with your therapist without any fear. What I normally do is write down what is...