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I really admire the clearheaded way you are facing this painful situation. There's a strong similarity between falling under the spell of PTSD and falling under the influence of a cult. www.freedomofmind.com may have some value.

I'd be extremely skeptical of this cheap cure - it sounds too good to be true, so it probably is. (Although, I guess that depends on what disease it is - but if his doctor can't cure it, the chances of anything else working are very very small.) I think that your mother is trying to protect...

Yep. I am filled rage and bitter sadness that we have this in common, that you have a reason to share this with me. And I'm filled with gratitude that you do share this with me. One thing that we are both very good at is identifying the bits of reality that we don't like, and adjusting our...

See if you can get him into therapy. If he goes to individual therapy, the therapist will be on his side, and help him to go after what he really wants. So, if it's the PTSD that's sending him out the door, then he becomes likely to stay. If not, then he leaves in a way that minimizes...

You're not alone. Those of us with a DID diagnosis are here, and (like you) we're not monsters. I understand the fear of this particular diagnosis, it took me months to come to terms with it. It's been a great comfort to me, seeing you talk about the fear of the diagnosis; telling you all the...

Safety first! Keep yourself safe & discuss risks with your therapist.

I feel uncomfortable that you've been forced to make this journey without a therapist. Have your circumstances changed? Can you afford one now?

Crying is a signal that means "I need help." Sometimes, we get taught that it's dangerous to send that signal, and we end up feeling unable to cry. I think that unlocking the tears in a safe place is likely to be good for you. It's probably worth talking to your therapist about today's events...

Even if he did communicate with you, you still have a right to feel hurt. Feelings should be treated with respect. Being ignored hurts. The question about what to do in relation to this hurt is a tricky one sometimes, but if you don't take care of yourself, you won't be able to keep being good...

Abusive parents often train their children into believing that having negative feelings about the parent will lead to punishment. This can get internalized, leading to the urges you describe. If you don't act on those urges, they will tend to fade as your confidence that you don't have to act on...

Romantic feelings are often very difficult for sufferers. You might find this recent thread in the 'supporter relationships' area interesting / useful. New Relationship -ptsd

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Well done, coming here and talking about it. That can be really difficult and scary. People think that PTSD is like a cut, but it's more like a bacterial infection. Trauma is like a cut. It opens you up, and it hurts, and it can be bad for you. Some cuts get infected: bacteria get inside you...

I retreated and disappeared more than pushing her away. I never needed to push her away. She was sitting next to me as I started to write this, and I took some notes about how she handles me. (We've been living together for years, so she's not confident that this advice is 100% relevant early...

@ladee those are some good suggestions. Many of them are things that I'm doing. When it comes specifically to disclosure, admitting my feelings has helped me clarify my thoughts. I'm not ready to disclose those yet, will see what happens next.

My experiences with disclosure seem to be better than the experiences others are having. Disclosure has been really important for me - I've spent the last year being able to talk openly with everybody I know, and that's made healing a lot easier. I want that to be available to others. When it...

My nightmares and daymares tend to get worse when my life gets better. It's like a part of me says "Things are better? Great! Time to take out the garbage!"

I use 'flashback' for any intrusive memory that causes distress or impairment. So all of your examples are flashbacks in my thinking. I tend not to have 'Hollywood flashbacks' where I completely lose awareness of the current moment, and I experience a movie of my past. I do experience...

That sounds like a really tough and painful situation. I really don't like that you keep getting hurt with the way things are. The hope that I can see is that you seem to be finding ways to express yourself, and to be less alone.

I find EMDR really tough. All the parts of me connect up and I lose the ability to make them shut up, I have to listen to them instead. EMDR makes it impossible to avoid the stuff that you've been hiding from yourself, or running away from. It turns out that I (and you) had a good reason to...

I'm distressed to learn that I seem to have had a much better time of things than so many people who express themselves so well on the forums. My first theory is that I tend to move in highly-educated circles, and that I take great pains to be really nice in person. To the extent that I...

*affectionate warmth* I support the decision that you made. Speaking up doesn't always backfire, and it seems to me that you followed a smart process in making the decision.

Have you broken up and gotten back together? Once, with my ex-wife. Have you broken up again after the first time? About a year later. What was it that caused you to break up in the first place? It was a mutually abusive relationship. Did things change after the break up? Good or bad...

One of the things my wife was really good at, was giving me a chance to miss her. I was accustomed to pushing women away as they kept on contacting me. When three weeks had gone by and I hadn't heard from her, I started wanting to be the one to break the silence. A week after that, I actually...

(I should note that the research was finding statistics relating to anaesthetics, nothing to do with mental health.) Thanks all for the kind thoughts and words :)