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15 words that ought to earn you a solution from Anthony. Just had to say, well put there MOD. back to the thread about weird responses from a therapist. thanks

hey, first off, i mean no harm. Narcissistic is a harsh term that maybe does maybe doesn't describe the lack of give a f that has to be overwhelming anyone that carries through. but, being aware of the mess left behind is a consideration IF you are considerate. I agree with the points made by...

this T sounds like a pragmatist, not unlike myself. send me his numbers please :) his ho hum responses (as opposed to OMG you have to go inpatient) maybe keep everyone in the room less than emotionally charged? Maybe that's the work environment best suited to making life a nd death decisions...

right place to be, welcome. there is a lot of info hear, answers to be found. me? also approaching the finish of a long work history, also faking tolerance and ability to cope at work, i applaud you for making a fresh start, wether you made the decision or it was forced on you it takes...

eze lap diamond sharpening stones. 20 -30 bucks gets you a tool that with some experience and skill will keep all of your cutlery happily sharp as long as you own it. If you arent going to sharpen your blades until they really need it get two or three ranging from coarse to fine and save...

hot tub wired

asparagus. fish or fowl?

fauna terra or mare? and the IQ question- i recently read in the Atlantic that a sampling of high IQ people were asked to describe their demographic in one word and genius wasn’t a top answer, number one was “outsider”.

what be iq huh?

better than not healing. I am a pragmatist level 4, black belt. healing sucks but it beats the alternative

i was finally sent packing by my long time therapist. Get local better help or not, she said she cant do any more for me by telehealth. so i have no choice, get better local help or wait this out, and i dont like the odds of this passing on its own. I have seen an md, will see a cardiologist...

therapists are just people too. They can f*ck up just like we can. shit. Thought I had a good one but I scared her off I guess. Dammit, I am not that scary.

back is fine. sledge hammers get my elbows, tennis elbow? The secret is to slam your boot once, elbows no longer hurt

moved and used a 2" trash pump, loaded and unloaded it twice and used it to drain an 8 person hot tub which I then loaded and unloaded. I removed about 25' of fence which I also loaded and unloaded, broke up and moved a 10 x 10 2" thick cement pad (I used a tractor to haul that away) and dug in...

a day off, with pay, thanks boss. I needed a long weekend after all of the overtime. Good weather too.

5 grandkids eating stawberries with both pink fingery hands, plus friends (theirs) later today, pretty good thing to look forward to.

amazing how this place times out sometimes. Last night after being asleep only an hour and a half i was woke up and found myself in the throws of a full on panic attack. No nightmare, no easily identified increase in stress, no accounting for it. I remember being in a group maybe thirty years...

Old men have been crying for the future of mankind forever, its what we do. Selfishness in any form has always been ugly and a detriment, but for this old man it feels like new ways of putting yourself over others are being invented every day, with less fear of accountability. I know young civil...

lots of shame. self hatred even. in some ways the abuse from my parents was continued by me as i beat myself up for even trying and simultaneously for failing to gain their love and stop the scapegoating and physical then psychological abuse. Even now, 50 years since i was in their care, i beat...

springtime and all it offers. Strawberries are getting heavier and thicker, soon all I have to do is remember to bring a bowl with me on my morning walk and I will have cool juicy strawberries for breakfast. The best thing about having farmland is the farmers that lease it and the fruits of...

there is a strong push towards becoming a false self for children who find themselves in the role of family scapegoat. What options are there for kids like me that couldnt possibly satisfy the requirements of narcissistic parents? Staying true to the person we are just doesnt feel like a good...

I had to create two false selves to survive as a child. They served me well but were at their core manipulation of everyone in my life and I had some work to do when I realised this. A religion followed the death of my mother and my home became a hell on earth for me because I questioned then...

you are not alone. More later but for now, there is someone here that gets it and i will respond when i have the time. childhood trauna can affect your whole life and the adaptations we made when it was necessary can affect your whole being, all of it. I hope we can share support here

I am BIG on learning to fix stuff, and all about using design techniques in the stuff i build that makes fixing as easy as possible. My machines are at work in a factory and need to stay working, time is money! My grandfathers and father repaired everything that broke. Sometimes several times...

that was a weird thing, but it was acceptable and very common to get smacked on the butt every year, one whack per year of age followed by “a pinch to grow an inch”and you were good for another year. it was never intended to hurt anyone but it was supposed to be a little humiliating, like...