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Such great advice right here. Exactly what my T told me.

Hello parents! I need your help. I have a little girl (aged 6) and boy (aged 9). We just moved to a new neighborhood and they are making friends. I am finding myself becoming triggered and hypervigilent. I am especially worried about my girl. She is still really young and isnt as "with it" as...

So, my sense of self has gotten better. I can struggle with questioning myself, but I have more skills built around this, so other thought processes are there in my brain now in addition to the questioning, such as, "Its ok to make mistakes," And, "This is normal to feel this way." If your gut...

Hi @Bird33, I see you struggling with the same pattern as I saw you struggling with last year. I think a goal for in therapy can be to focus on trying to see the relationship for what it is. You will not just be able to suddenly see her as abusive, but together with your therapist, you can open...

Hi, I have been reading this whole post for the past few years. First of all, I can relate to your trauma past. I was molested as a child and was absolutely a target because of my unavailable, narcissistic mother. The molester was a babysitter. I can remember clinging to my mother, clawing at...

This is good advice- I hadn't thought of that way, the correlation between stress and perfectionism. My T and I talked about my needing things that cost a lot of money to be perfect. I am always going to be shocked by spending money. I am also going to feel insecure about cheap or used stuff...

No, the panic is more for spending money. I can feel overwhelmed and a bit panicked in big stores like IKEA, but I was actually exaggerating this a bit just to poke fun at IKEA and its large size . It is so dense and big that there is a claustrophobic feeling that can happen, but it is not a...

Ok, I havent bought the couch yet. The one at Room and Board is winning so far as it is atleast with in the budget of what we would be willing to spend on a couch. This is exactly what I want. I may just brave IKEA. They have really good frames, but when I am inside, the panic rises, rather...

Thanks everyone for your couch weigh in. I wish I could stumble upon the perfect used couch that just has that great spirit. I agree with @Lionheart777 that an old well made couch is a good thing, I just havent found one. Well, no. I have bought lots of terrible furniture. I bought a lot of...

Hi everyone, Kind of a random post here, but can anyone reccomend a couch? Do you have a couch that you love and do you know the brand? So, this does relate to PTSD. I just moved into a new home and bought a couch and now that its here I don't really like it. It is more on the formal side and...

I usually have two lines that encapsulate my trauma and I have used them with friends/family who know I have PTSD. One line is that I have been raped, choked, beaten several times before the age of 11. The other line is that I grew up in a dysfunctional family and had bad luck. One is...

I tell my T I miss her a lot and her response is to psychoanalyze that. I tell her I love her and that is the attachment talking. I think it is fine to have an emotional attachment and to voice that to your T. I just try not to idealize the relationship and I try to balance my feelings with my...

Thanks for sharing that story. That sounds very rough. I feel terrible that I wanted to give my children the goodness of a pet and now they have this sadness. I want a nice home and am hoping at some point soon I can have a nice home with a pet.

This is my issue. I realized I cannot handle a pet right now, yet miss the benefits of one.

That's how I felt about this kitten. I am exhausted with sleep issues and we just moved. I just bought all of this new furniture and the kitten was climbing over everything and clawing it up. I dont know if in the past I didn't care as much about my furniture, but I was just cringing so much...

I didn't feel attacked. I agree with you that these behaviors are normal. I think she could have been socialized better, but even then cats can be a little wild. What is BYB?

I totally expected replies of this nature! Nothing wrong with biting and scratching! She was doing this excessively, and aggressively. She was part siamese and I read they can be mischievous. There isnt anything wrong with that, but I couldn't handle it along with two young children and major...

So, I can get pretty bad. Where suicide seems like a relief and then I feel sad at the thought of my own death. Here are the things that work for me: 1. Put one foot in front of the other. When I feel like what you said here, I lower the bar way low with goals. I take it one body movement at a...

I couldn't agree more with this. I didn't really have a discussion. It was after we paid the adoption fee that they told me she had been a very young stray with siblings and brought over from Texas. Then she was fostered and brought to the shelter. They treated her for a whole list of things...

I like those responses. Thanks, that helps a lot. My first cat is tied to my abuse and was abused! I just got overwhelmed with kids plus new kitten! There is a depressive cloud right now over every one. I think PTSD definately effects my feelings on all of this. I feel a lot of shame and guilt...

Thanks, that helps a lot. (Not the first part, kind of triggering.) I miss my cats and wish things were different.

So, my family moved into a nice new house. The whole time I kept thinking, "We should get a pet cat " I have owned a cat my whole life and am good with them. I think both my cats (my childhood cat and cat in my 20's) were instrumental in my managing PTSD even though I didn't really know I had...

So the injections are into my nose and forehead. I think it would feel worse if I was ingesting them. The suicide was triggering at my school and then it all rolled together. Then I have not seen my T for 2 weeks. I had just been telling her how strong I am and how I am wanting to try EMDR and...

Ok, so it's a lot to get through all of this, but I am really struggling and having suicidal thoughts. Here's why: 1. I have to take stearoid shots in my face due to having reconstructive plastic surgery because I had skin cancer removed from my nose. These shots cause depression. 2. I have a...

It was just so weird. My mind was a swirling mess that my first thought when she asked that was how on earth do I even answer that? My head was bloody, bandaged, a section of my forehead had been placed on my nose, I didn't know how to stop shivering. It is hard to answer that question in the...