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I still think a traumatized toddler reacts in an autistic way including the ways you describe but the research isn't there so it's just theory

Welcome to the forum, this is a great resource. I've definitely found a lot of support, education, and understanding here. @arfie I have my theories that it's the same thing. When children are traumatized preverbal, by caregivers and people they should be able to trust, of course it causes...

It makes sense that you'd feel that way. Keep challenging those false beliefs:) Thank you!

I feel like that, I really struggle to talk about or even think about being hit and yelled at as a kid. If I do talk about it, I have a deep shame and disgust with myself like I deserved that treatment and the assumption that the other person will shame me as well. I almost feel like if the...

Have you had to use them traveling? I don't travel much, but that's so embarrassing freaking out in front of people

I've heard some people stare at eyebrows because it's close enough to the eyes that most people don't notice.

I'm a mom of a toddler and it's hard. Years of child abuse resulted in PTSD for me as well as some other challenges. Welcome to the forum, this is an amazing resource and community both!

I just wanted to share that I used a set of markers and a stack of 3" x 5" cards to make communication cards when I get triggered. (I completely shut down and can't talk, quite literally). It's been a long time coming and I can't believe I only just now made them. I can write or text just...

I'm sorry you're deal with all this. It can be really difficult. To echo @Friday 's sentiments, you aren't responsible for his triggers, he is. In addition, many PTSD triggers are random, unpredictable, etc. You can't read his mind on what he needs either. But likely, he doesn't know either...

Walking is so good for you

I don't think it's lying. You share what you're comfortable with and when, an outline not the details. Even someone that doesn't like hearing about trauma, should be okay with an outline if they love and care about you (I think anyways). But not as a first date you know this is a more serious...

Yes, my husband can tell now because I usually talk or react when I'm enjoying but when I'm triggered I go silent/freeze so he can usually tell now. I think I'm not sure, when I made this post almost a year ago we were looking at really digging into trauma therapy with EMDR, but we kinda got...

I think it depends on the relationship how much is shared, when, how, etc, but generally speakin or nothing is both unhealthy (extremes). I told my husband slowly as we were dating, he needed to know since it affects my life drastically. But to this day, my husband doesn't know a blow by blow...

Sorry I missed this until now. That sounds great. We tried the stoplight system but I literally can't talk when I'm triggered. It's fine like 99% of the time but damn that 1%. Still looking at going to couples therapy, so much going on we didn't get to it yet. We need a nonverbal communication...

Exactly, it's just another way to meet people!

I met my husband using a Christian dating app

Yes, during flashbacks I sometimes only "hear" various things said, or sounds, or I "see" various things/people/actions with sound or no sound. The mind is a strange thing. I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

I think if you can't resolve this with your boyfriend and get him to stand up for you and respect your boundaries then it's not worth continuing the relationship. If my husband's friends were bothering me and I told them to stop and they kept it up my husband would back me up not blame me for...

I feel for you, because my recovery periods are only around 2 weeks sometimes a month, so it's usually unnoticeable to other people and excusable by having work/family demands and "busy life". Have you discussed this with a therapist? What do you think causes such extreme burnout for you?

My dad had rage anger. It was scary, and his anger controlled me, because I tried so hard to just agree with him so he'd stop or to avoid his triggers. My mom actually also had some anger issues but not as bad and mostly reactive to him. So the result was lots of yelling, sometimes breaking or...

I'm sorry for everything you've been through. It is possible to find someone with your Christian values. My husband was a virgin when we met and we didn't even kiss on the lips until our wedding (his conviction, not really mine, but I respected him). I wasn't exactly a virgin, I did some things...

I don't think so. It made me who I am, strong, resilient, tough. I sometimes consider people with less trauma than me, like people that grew up with stable parents and I get jealous of them but then I see how they can't handle even a tiny hardship without falling apart. What I experienced broke...

I'm very sorry for what you went through that's horrible. You didn't do anything wrong. I know it feels like you did, but that's exactly why you need to push through and go to therapy despite everything you feel. You can get better, I promise. People who have been sexually abused as children...

When I first connected that all my mental struggles were rooted in trauma and also when I was diagnosed it was like a whirlwind. It's quite a journey. I hope you find support here on this forum and I'm sorry you have reason to be here.

I feel you. I don't know what day it is, everyday is just a blur and then it's been months and years like a blink.