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I always, always have a hairband on my wrist to play with, the one day I forgot it she gave me something to fidget with because I was so aggetated. My therapist also always gives me a small water bottle and has me drink some if she's trying to get me grounded again, especially after emdr sessions.

Hmmm...that's a tough one. The sooner you get through the EMDR process the better you are going to feel. I have managed to extend the emdr process for 6 months because I kept needing breaks. The only reason I opted for the breaks was because I could only handle a few sessions before it...

Yeah, that's true. I remember skipping around a lot when we were doing emdr for the rest of the abuse. The idea of saying the details is incredibly scary. It came up twice in previous emdr sessions, but the moment I tried to get the words out, I went into a flashback instead. I can see the...

Okay, I've gone through EMDR to process through other traumatic past events, but I just recently admitted to being sexually abused. My therapist wants to go through another round of EMDR, and I'm terrified for a variety of reasons. One being, how little detail can I get away with saying. Because...

Not sure if this is the same, but I tend to do this but not as quickly. Have several good days, and then a few bad days where I can't get out of bed and the anxiety is awful. My therapist and I discussed it. Basically on good days, I try to do it all. These emotional crashes force me to take a...

Actually, I've talked to my therapist about this. And yeah, those who are abused as children are more likely to develop ptsd as adults. Our parents are the ones to teach us coping skills, both by actively teaching and through demonstration. As children we are exposed to small stressor and...

I was really anxious before appointments too. It honestly lasted for the first six months. But I'm so glad I stuck with her. You don't have to tell her the hard stuff just yet if you don't want too. I know my therapist asked a million different questions in the beginning, and for many of this I...

Thanks everyone. Yesterday, was surprisingly fine. Today is a lot more difficult. Everyone I love is right there, but I can't be near them because they believe my abuser and not me. I'm trying to push my emotions aside because I don't want my brother to see how much I really do hurt and for him...

I'm trying to mentally prep myself for what is to come, because I know it's going to be triggering. Because of an emergency, I'm packing my bags and headed to my hometown to be with my brother for a few days. It's the same place where all the abuse occured, and if I hadn't left a couple years...

I do. But that might also be because I am a school teacher. We often discuss the tactics I use to help my students with emotional stuff (self-esteem, anxiety, bullying, etc), and turn it back towards myself and how I could provide self-care. So, yeah, it is an easy enough extension. I think of...

Everything joeylittle has said in his previous post. I promise, most teachers care much more about the emotional and moral development of their students than they do about the information being taught. Don't feel that you are a burden, if your teachers are asking questions, it's because they...

@BookerNoe I would ask your trauma specialist next session and ask her how it would work. If you are requesting a break from emdr so that you can use those sessions to build and practice coping skills, she might have you do that with her. My therapist is a trauma specialist and does emdr, so I...

Yes, I had this. I've gone through phases of having to take emdr breaks because life on the outside was impossible to function through with all the added triggers and intensity of flashbacks. So that might be option one, take a short emdr break and work on building coping skills or just get...

I am in a somewhat similar situation atm, but possibly further down the line. I spent years silent about how much I hated being touched and how violated I often felt. My husband, like yours, feels like sex is the only way to personally feel connected. My biggest advice, speak up. It's all...

I would definitely put it under emotional abuse. That's awful, and no you are not over-reacting. It's funny how we second guess ourselves or minimize what was done to us.

Sounds right for the psoas muscle, but I've only ever had it done in physical therapy which is very different. And in my case, it was explained exactly what would happen, where his hands would be, etc., before we ever started. And he checked in a lot to make sure I was okay. So while, your...

Oh my goodness yes. I've been with my therapist for 18 months, and we are JUST now getting to a point where I'm admitting to her that I was sexually abused. Luckily I had much bigger traumas to work on with her first. I say luckily, because the sexual abuse stuff is sooooo difficult. She knows...

I'm a teacher, so I might be able to help in this realm a tiny bit. Possibly not to the extent you need, but I will try. I know your situation is somewhat different, but I have a special needs child at home, which has caused a lot of bullying by peers and some teachers in the past. As a parent...

I'm not sure. I think I just didn't overall feel well--crampy, uncomfortable. I curled up with a pillow for the next few days. So maybe that's part of it for you? The procedure itself kinda sucked. It didn't hurt because I had just had a baby (so I skipped the pain part) but I remember being...

Do I feel like he is insensitive and selfish? Yes. Abusive? No, because it isn't his intent. My perception of things may be off by my past. Is it rape if that isn't his intent? I'm not sure I would define it that since it wasn't his intent. Maybe molestation is a better word? I don't...

My therapist has been talking about parts, she briefly discussed DID but stopped because I was fighting tears, mostly I refuse to acknowledge her comments on the topic. For the first time last session, she addressed me in the plural saying things like, "I need all of you..." and "You're...

My husband recently got an article from his own therapist to help explain the self-harm behaviors so he better understood me and why I do it. I'll link it here: "What I had to do to survive" Self-Injurers' Bodily Emotion Work by Margaret Leaf and Douglas P. Schrock Personally, it began as a...

Hmmm....I might be able to relate in a very different type of way. Do you think it could have a lot to do with transference (or in this instance, negative transference)? Therapy relationships tend to be an experience like no other, and it really puts you in a position where you allow yourself...

Welcome. We sound like we are a bit similar as far as where we are in life. I developed ptsd 2 years ago, am 30 years old, and have 3 children myself. Keep looking for a good therapist if you can, even if you have to travel a decent amount to get to one. The last 18 months of working with my...

@Freedomfighter I agree, and it is something my therapist and I are working on extensively at the moment. I have my own therapist. My husband is seeing his own therapist who we happened to use as a marriage counselor a few years back. So our marriage counselor/ husband's therapist is a...