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Thank god for that!

This is so so true. It really works and is great tool to bring yourself back from thoughts which cant really be made positive even with reason.

@Ambs he says he could have done worse and that he held back on you. I am worried about what he will do when he doesn't hold back anymore. Every time he hits you and gets away with it he feels more comfortable with the idea. (TW) I remember once standing in the kitchen and my ex was screaming...

There is a problem with the way we talk to victims of domestic violence. Ideally we would talk to the perpetrator and tell them to stop their behaviour and to let you go. But there is a reason we don't. That is because they are not going to change. What do you think his reaction would be like if...

Thank you Tiff, best wishes to you and your partner too.

The longer you stay with him the further away from yourself you will drift. There comes a point where there is no returning to the person you once were.

It is ok to fail. Failing is part of life and it gives us opportunities to learn and grow wiser. Life is hard, PTSD is hard. We are all doing our best to get through it. Even if you don't believe it is true you should give yourself the same compassion and understanding as you would give to others.

Thank you for taking a stand against this kind of behaviour. Its not something many of us could do. I was treated for anxiety and depression too but it didn't help much at all. Eventually finding a therapist that specialises in trauma and receiving EMDR treatment made a huge difference.

Self talk is more powerful than you think. I used to say similar things to myself too. But since stopping I do have more self esteem. My Grandma always says "Be kind to yourself". Its simple and effective.

As if your story isn't upsetting enough, but reading the comments from your doctor nearly made me vomit. IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT :hug: I hope you can get a new doctor. I am sorry that I cant offer much advice as your post is triggering and I'm unable to get past the ignorance of your doctor. What...

Yes it does! Its great that you have made some process in therapy. Although therapy helps it is really hard too. It is perfectly reasonable to want to stay in bed. Don't be too hard on yourself. I'm glad you have seen your doctor for blood tests. Its always a good idea to rule out any other...

Yes I think so. Are somatic reactions just physical symptoms of distress? I cant stand anything touching my neck or chest. It feels as if I am being choked whenever I am anxious or remembering my traumas. Then there is shaking, nausea, chest pain and a prickly hot sweat I sometimes get plus others.

Sadly he is using his emotional and mental health problems to manipulate you. The suicide attempt is a clear example of that. This is about more than PTSD. Yes he is suffering but one day you will understand that you cant heal this pain for him and that you must walk away to protect yourself. I...

I am really concerned about the level of violence and threats. You should leave immediately and get yourself somewhere safe. Go to a friend, shelter, or police. Do not tell him that you are going, do it when he is in the shower or away from the home. Make sure he doesn't see this post. Do not...

Thank you for the responses. I will make an appointment with my doctor in the morning.

@sun seeker When I was about 18 I came across something very disturbing. I was in a position to do something about it. Without revealing too much, it was a choice to either end suffering or walk away. I desperately wanted to end the suffering but was unable to bring myself to do it. Instead I...

I hope you are ok. I have nearly hurt someone in my sleep recently too. Someone told me that there is a medication available to help if that is something he would consider? Maybe a visit to his doctor would be helpful.

Dr Sun, Congratulations! You must be so proud of yourself and you are an inspiration! Seagreen

No I don't but my son does and it seems to be calming for him. He doesn't have PTSD but suffers from anxiety.

Hi Blackemerald1, thank you for your suggestions. I am sorry to know that you suffer from these too because they really are so distressing. I don't sleep much anymore either. Your tips will be helpful, especially reminding myself I am safe before sleep as it seems to be triggered by anxiety. My...

For a few years now I've been waking up screaming and running outside in the middle of the night. It stopped for while and has begun to return again. I've always had long, vivid nightmares but these are different. They only last a few seconds. I usually think there is someone in the house. Most...

What you described doesn't sound that unusual to me at all. I tend to get flighty during sex and spend the whole time trying to ground myself or dissociating. All senses are heightened and I find it is extremely irritating and difficult to cope with. This sounds a bit like what your guy...

I've had both really good and really bad experiences with law enforcement officers. There are some that really care about what they do for society and others that are corrupt and power hungry. A bit like politics I guess. I think cops can come across as control freaks because of the training...

Lukie the person that hurt your daughter should spend the rest of his life behind bars. I am mortified to know otherwise.

Thanks Recovery4me for your insight. I am slowly learning to form boundaries although its not easy but getting better at it. I'm not sure who I am yet, that will come in time I guess.