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What you mentioned above was basically me until I started working through my anger. I found that my depression lifted some and I didn't hate myself as much when I started to access my anger. I was also able to feel more connected to other people because I didn't blame myself for everything...

This sounds like my mother- dependent, narcissistic and no ability to have a two way conversation where she actually hears how the other person feels. It's very sad and hurtful to have a mother act like this. I have been on no contact with my mom for the past 2 years, she is just too toxic...

The advice that Ted gave was great. It was very very slow baby steps for me too. I have PTSD from childhood trauma and was numb through my whole childhood and only started feeling some emotions about 10 years ago when I started consistent therapy. About 2-3 years ago, I started to let more...

My therapist always says its her job to meet me where I am and deal with whatever comes up. The first time I got really angry with my therapist, she was actually glad that I was able to get angry and talk about it instead of stuffing it down. She did not tell me this when I was really angry of...

paper cut- Do you think that talking with the male therapist about the difficulty in discussing the sexual issues would help? Maybe he can provide some reassurance to you. I have a sexual abuse history and have always seen a female therapist, there is no way, no how I could have discussed my...

I am not sure what a therapist consultant advocate is, I did a web search and did not come up with anything. I would check their qualifications before handing over any money to them. I have found that meeting with a therapist before starting therapy can help see if they are a good match for...

I took Luvox for a few months many years ago. I was prescribed it by a psychiatrist, all the general doctors I have seen since wanted to know why I was prescribed it since it isn't prescribed much in america and when it is, it is for OCD. It worked so well, I felt like my mind was quiet for...

I take melatonin several nights a week, I'm a nurse who currently works night shift. I have used it for a few years, before I started it, I did a lot of research on dosing. The best evidence I found says to start at 0.3mg as higher doses are reported to be less effective and can cause a...

Hi Shelia- I have struggled with feeling like an outcast at various points in my life and actually most of my life, it's a lonely and empty place to be. One thing that I found helpful was to put myself out there more. Inviting other people to go out for coffee or tea, giving cards to them on...

Your ability to work and have friends has nothing to do with your self worth. Your trauma has such an impact on how you are feeling and your current circumstances. There may be some people who were traumatized and are "just fine" but most people that experience trauma can only heal after...

Anthony- Thanks for your feedback. As I mentioned, I had hoped the EMDR could help with the intrusive memories and disconnection I was still having from my traumas. I am not sure why you would suggest I am doing EMDR "just for the sake of it" or why anyone would do EMDR for that reason. Both...

Thanks everyone for your responses, I really appreciate it. This therapist was not a good match for me and I am not returning. I get frustrated just thinking about her not believing me when I say I am not frustrated at something and refusing to give any sort of timeline when I am putting so...

Faraway- Thanks for your reply. I do have some trust issues that come up at times but in this case, I think what I am asking for is reasonable. Yes maybe they do feel they need to take it slow however to not have a timeframe for when I am going to actually start EMDR processing does not sit...

Hi LightandDarkness- Thanks for the reply. We talked about coping mechanisms in the first and second session and she commented that I have many good skills that I use. I am sure that hitting the couch did nothing to prove to her that I can cope with stress though. I do sometimes hit things...

Hi Abstract- Her rationale was that she thought I was till upset about something that happened at a previous session and I was not. She would not let it go. I also mentioned that I had some conflict at work earlier in the week briefly but it was resolved and it was no more than normal. I have a...

Just to clarify, did you start the eye movement part (or tone or tapping or whatever method you therapist uses) after one session? If not, how long did it take to do the eye movements/tones/tapping? Thanks so much for answering!

Thank you Gizmo, I appreciate your response. Did you see your therapist a long time for traditional talk therapy before the subject of EMDR came up? Or was it literally 1 session and the EMDR was started? (I saw the EMDR therapist I mentioned 3 times before I quit)

I have a long term therapist but decided to take a break from her to go to a therapist who does EMDR. I felt like I had improved a lot and sort of plateaued, I still have intrusive memories and feel somewhat disconnected from others and wanted to try a different technique. I am really...

There are no therapy places to go in your small college town? There may not be but I thought I should ask since I went to college in a small town of 5,000 and there were multiple places to attend counseling and most of them charged a sliding scale fee. Not sure if you were going to a place that...

The short answer is yes, it does get better. I was diagnosed with PTSD many years ago and have made lots of progress over the years even though I still carry the same diagnosis- I was so far gone that I wasn't able to connect with the reality of how far gone I was, it took lots of time. I am...

My nightmares are generally not directly related to the trauma though they sometimes have similar characters. They are generally always related to the same theme though, not being able to escape a particular circumstance, feeling trapped, having no help. I used to have the same dream over and...

I really relate to your post, especially the part above I quoted from you. I recently had a horrible flashback a month ago and I haven't yet gotten back to where I was before it all happened, it's disappointing because I just think, "if that wouldn't have happened". I do notice that the bad...

I understand about not being able to get the help you need from your husband, my husband can only take so much as well so I get support elsewhere. Good luck at the appointment. You are strong for what you have survived but you don't have to be strong every single minute, its ok to ask for...

Shellbell- I'm sorry you are going through this. Your childhood has been horribly horribly traumatizing and it's not your fault it is hard for you to cope now. Look at everything you survived. It is a testament to your strength that you could survive the abuse you did and come out alive...

Hashi- I can so relate to this and it is something I am working out in therapy now. When I see kids that resemble me growing up, I sometimes get flashes of anger and thoughts of slapping them or hurting them. It is usually from a distance or from something I see on TV. I do also sometimes want...