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Well, it gets involved because you're using terms like stupid/intelligent. And I'm explaining that having a high IQ has its own difficulties, and that these terms aren't fair to use. If you agree that they aren't fair, then I recommend finding different terms to use.

I would go the extra step and say that this is also a big feature in people with a high IQ as opposed to an average/lower IQ. I have a 170 verbal IQ which is 11 standard deviations above average, and it means that because of how fast my brain is and how hyperlexic I am, it often results in a...

I believe it is an attempt to separate people who have neurodevelopmental or congenital neurological divergence from those who do not. If you look at someone like me, it is extremely apparent that I am not the same as the majority of our human population. I am schizo-spectrum and ADHD and OCD...

I agree! I think @littleoc likely posted to get other people's opinions and perceptions to help narrow down his own, so I just offered up how I feel about it and tossed that into the ring. I don't have any expectation that anyone here needs to conform to my moral alignment.

At 26, you were fundamentally more developed as an adult human being than a 19 year old. How were you at age 19? Could you have been in a relationship with a 41 year old? Sure, but it would not be equal because there's an inherent power imbalance there. At age 26 you are old enough to know what...

My spidey-senses go off when people can't control themselves through mild criticism. Once I notice that, I'm very cautious.

Narcissism in NPD exists because of an exceptionally fragile ego. This makes it difficult to challenge a person with NPD, to disagree with them, to criticize them. They become so distressed over this that they wind up being "injured" (a narc injury) and then lash out. Whilst some people might be...

It depends on what the history is. If she met him at age 16 when he was 29 that's abusive, full stop. If she met him at age 19, I would raise my eyebrows. I know exactly one person who has a significant age gap with his spouse, where they met while he was 19, and that person is an outlier in...

This is an excellent thermometer. ^^^^ All of this.

I'm not the best person to discuss romantic entanglements as I am aromantic and polyamorous. I don't understand the concept of monogamy and never have - but if it were me, I would not be comfortable having sex and being friends with someone who is lying to their spouse about our relationship...

Well, as I mentioned, most people act in this way to get something from you. They lack an internal source of empathy for others, and lack that sensation of guilt and remorse, so they're not motivated to behave prosocially from an intrinsic place. So if you have something this type of person...

Likewise. One of my closest friends for a long time was a diagnosed ASPD/NPD who actually had a Federal court case because she disseminated bomb threats through AIM (as a teenager). I tend to get along with most of the cluster B's, and I thought I was ASPD for a looooooong time. I understand...

I volunteer on there and it's a great resource! Seconding this.

I remember 9/11, so I'm a millennial. I think our generation really tapped into the technocratic capitalist hellscape biz and that's why Gen Z is the way they are. They inherited a dying Earth, what can we expect from them, while the people killing it are still actively making things bad?

My opinion, treat the symptoms that are happening. If your dissociation is this disruptive, then going back to your core identity and attachment is not a bad idea. You said that your therapist said you've been "switching in sessions" - to me this is a red flag, especially if she hasn't actually...

I know loads of super highly intelligent, kind and compassionate D/deaf people. Forgive me for being blunt. Deaf people are perfectly capable of conducting themselves without abusing others. Your parents knew, they just didn't care about you in those moments.

For what it's worth, having a label of a dissociative disorder doesn't actually have to mean anything in your life if you're not ready/don't want it to. Your life hasn't changed from one sphere to the next just because of this label. What this label does, might be to offer you a new way of...

There's no way around it, you need to stop using cannabis. I have schizoid and PTSD, and for some reason cannabis causes me to have a complete and utter meltdown. I end up hospitalized every single time. Some people (particularly schizo-spectrum folkies like moi) can't deal with weed. If...

I dunno. If I found out my partner thought all I wanted them for was sex, I'd be seriously re-evaluating the relationship as well. Of course, This is from the perspective of someone who - loves their partner, cares for their partner, views their relationship as a tangible aspect of their lives...

This sounds like it might be an interesting experiment to try - just be careful with it as "more" is not always better in this sphere - too much and you can hurt yourself, but it might be worth exploring. It's possible that such serotonin would have interactions with our gut serotonin, which is...

It really does depend on the whole entire person. It definitely is a red flag, but I do think sometimes it can happen in a way that's not detrimental. I'm an over-sharer---ish. I talk about mental health stuff pretty openly. But I'm also very good at moderating my own emotions and taking care of...

My advice? Ghost her. She's playing mind games and pulling the guilt tripping card. That's not someone who can be an equal friend. I wouldn't even bother with a break-up text.

"How was your leave? How are you feeling about it all now? Are you prepared to keep going with our therapy or do you require any more time off? Is our usual pace of sessions too difficult for you or should we keep hammering away at it?"

Happy holidays/chag sameach!

It may very well be!