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This is something that many people here have really highlighted, and hearing it again and again really helps hit home... I know in my heart that I can't walk away from this therapy relationship even though everything inside me is shouting to do just that... Thank you for making this point so...

I get what you mean... there's alot of stigma attached and it's a diagnosis which even alot of therapists steer clear of... I was diagnosed with DDNOS (now OSDD) about 7 years ago... I denied it all that time... Amd it's only recently I've allowed myself to look into it with curiosity to find...

This is so incredibly thoughtful of you @Ecdysis - and really helpful. Thank you. It's a very straight to the point article simply written and touches on alot of important things to reflect on. I took this from it immediately (stood out to me): **"Finally, I believe one of the most common...

Thanks both @scout86 and @No More ... really appreciate the time everyone is taking to help me work through this... it's quite astounding the community here... I'll get back in more detail tomorrow ... just about to sleep as I'm exhausted... But I just wanted to make clear there has never...

Thanks @No More Good to hear from this perspective too I agree. It's not that this approach doesn't work for me. I see the value in it for sure. And totally respect it. It allows for less assumptions and isn't hinged on expected sypmtoms and patterns of thinking etc based on a group of people...

. I think you're right I think this also must be right because of the degree to which its upsetting me. So I do see this. Yes Yes. I'm just scared because I feel it's dangerous. But I know everyone's right i need to go back. Again you're on point. Definitely. Once we're through this latest...

Thanks @Movingforward10 ... I'm going to let it settle over the next few days and do exactly this... not gas lighting myself... you're right... this is something we all need to do... right now I feel hurt and so my back is up...I need to let that defense come down and then look at all this...

I do think what he wrote here is true and we've discussed it in session. I'm just not sure what it has to do with me questioning a misunderstanding about cancellation times. I think it's misplaced him talking about me giving therapy up and conclusions to my work. It literally has nothing to do...

Thanks @Movingforward10 For me it seems he's using the apparent compassion and care as a veil for his own frustration that, in his head, I've crossed a line with him in the email (he's irked - clear from his first 'off' email response) and that I haven't replied to that email. It puts me in...

He says he's a trauma expert. I think this is from his own experience of trauma and working in various settings with people who've experienced trauma. His training is in humanistic psychotherapy and he's clear he doesn't agree with diagnoses (gets visibly defensive in session if diagnosis is...

I didn't write an email response to T as I've felt so awful the last few days I thought it better to leave it and rest my head on the matter. T wrote to me this morning. What does anyone make of it? I'm pretty upset by it but then I'm feeling so bad in myself that this is maybe clouding things...

Thank you for your posts @Mina and @scout86 ... I've had a really bad couple of days so just been keeping my head down...I will reply again separate time to what you wrote.. For more something more pressing (below) came up which I'd like to post

Of myself or of him? yep recognise this I think that's what I was trying to do by email because... I think I'd find this very difficult. Saying or asking him to help me. I would just go very quiet and dissociate. But I hear what you're saying. That would be OK and is part of the process...

This is simple for me to remember if we get speaking about it and helpful because I agree. Thank you @Movingforward10

This is undoubtedly part of it... I can't speak for him...I think in his head he thinks it's mostly been resolved as we had a repair session and he did say all the right things and looked suitably remorseful... and said as much himself... so it was a very helpful session... icould see he was...

So I've dissociated ALOT in session with him present and have grown used to it. That kind of dissociation is fine by me. It's brought on by difficult topics etc and isn't related to our relationship. The type of dissociation I'm scared of is one which is triggered by my fear of him, which has...

Ok thanks for pulling me up on this! Ok. I'll consider this. Feels like in this exchange, he's expecting me to. Yep Yes that's how I've taken it. Which is why it's hard for me to take it. Esp when I explained I was having a back lash from the previous session. His response was insensitive I...

Ok thanks for your opinion... I'm defo getting the same gist from everyone else so I will be taking it all on board. Think I'll go back to what @Sideways suggested which is along the same lines. Thank you. I'm beginning to see that you're right in this... so much easier to walk away. But I...

Ooof. This packs a punch. You are right. But I fear if I dissociate so that same young part comes out, nothing is necessarily achieved out of that. Other than dissociation as a result of feeling extreme fear. But maybe that won't happen. Or maybe if i communicate my fears before hand (what...

Thanks for this @Sideways...I guess you're right about there being room for more mis communication with a longer email... so keeping it short is better. I always write too much and I guess I don't see how it can be misunderstood :( I think the only thing that I feel i shutoff communicate now...

Thinking of this as a reply to T: Dear X I'm sorry that what I've written has upset or irked you, that was never my intention. I actually wrote the emails all in a fairly neutral tone as I was questioning an admin / T&C misunderstanding. I felt this was fine to do by email (as it's not...

On the contrary. I'm relieved that a few people here can see where I'm coming from. I think it's interesting, it just goes to show the differences in interpretation of written communication across the board. this is my feeling too. But I know alot of peeps here would say it needs to go both...

Totally agree! I'm trying... My son (12) laughs about it with me and he's coming from a good place... this 100% oooooh .... I like this. Going to adopt it too! Well done you... it sounds healthy. I'm going to take a leaf out of your book!

Yes! I'm going to do this! Will let you know how I get on. Part of the issue for me is, in the moment, esp if I'm rushing, I don't account for the fact I need to make a concerted effort to remember e.g parking. And it feels like there is no way in hell i won't remember where I've parked -...

Sorry for your experience of this too. Though it sounds like you have some great strategies to help out which work for you. And yes absolutely don't worry about what others think of your strategies. In truth, trauma or not, most people have their own strategies to remember things. You have...