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So, my adult kid's dad, is a weed dealer, has roped our kid's into his illegal activities, has been very narc-aly abusive towards myself and now, after years of blatantly doing what he does in our, very small village, he's been raided and while my youngest daughter is taking it matter of factly...

Delicious, deep-fried-in-ghee battered baby bull shark that my son-in-lore caught AND cooked, creamy-tomato-y-pesto-y pasta with capers, rocket&red onion salad with fetta cheese. Red wine with frozen mixed berries in it.

Cubes of grannie smith apple, cubes of extra tasty cheddar cheese, champagne ham slices, pickled cucumbers, red onion, salad~lettuce, red cabbage, grated carrot

There is a lot of good youtube resources about healing from narcissistic abuse. Richard Gannon and Tonia Evans come to mind, also Lisa A. Ramano. All brilliant, insightful, empowering and validating for folks like us, who have been damaged from these kinds of relationships.

I totally get it. My Ma made herself the victim, too, when I stopped talking to her for a couple of years. I had a series of miscarriages after too much other stuff and I had no more to give and my mother requires lots of giving to. We now text occasionally and have had a couple of phone...

As a sufferer reading these posts, I can't help thinking about my own ghosting behaviour. Not so much, with partners, although I did it with my first bf, when I was a teen, more with friends. It's horrible, but, I don't know how to come back from there once I've gotten that scared/triggered with...

Move deeper into the country but closer to the coast. Grow fruit trees, vegie gardens, and plants for aesthetic appeal, and for bees, birds and other native critters, have a pottery, painting and maybe music studio (coz I am musically proficient) have chickens, ducks, a dam, creek and fish and...

A lot of things I can't voice, still. My brain, my psyche, is just what it is; full of limitations and strengths, and there is plenty of stuff I can't and don't have the ability to wrap my thoughts around, yet, let alone get out, in words. I want to respond, but, the limitations of my...

That's hard, what you are going through. The sense of him not understanding or trusting your judgement, I imagine it might make you feel a bit alone with what you are going through with your Ma. It sounds like he doesn't understands narcissistic abuse, and that's challenging for you, because...

Stir fried bok choy and choy sum with a little bought baked chicken, onion, garlic, ginger, oyster sauce, fish sauce, toasted sesame oil, chilli sauce, sesame seeds and a home grown fresh chilli.

One thing I've learnt from experience is that there has to be respectful equitable listening for a relationship to work, healthy. If there isn't, it just corrodes and corrodes. It doesn't sound like either of you are ready for children. Her being obssessed with having them isn't the same as...

My son being so happy with his new orange and black baseball bat.

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Fruit salad; mango, purple grapes, nectarine and lychees with greek yoghurt, date syrup and cinnamon sprinkled on top. Yum.

Mashed sour cream carrots, green beans with garlic butter and toasted pine nuts, peas, lamb chop with homemade onion-red wine-rosemary gravy (my own version of meat and 3 veg🙂)

I haven't really got any more words in me today, along these lines, I'm really struggling today, but, coincidently I was just "talking" about these two states, emotional backdrops, whatever you want to call it, in my journal, just now, so, feel free to "drop in" and read about where I am at with...

I met mine while parenting. His was friend's with mine. I used to take care of his. He got custody of his boys. Our boys were besties. I made the first move, though, or none of it would have happened. He was terribly burnt. I couldn't do the dating thing. I'm not a conventional type of person...

I love pigeon pose. We are so different in ways and so similar in other ways. Funny that.

I feel I am "getting there", where ever "there" is. So much has been stripped of me yet I am still here, different yet the same me. Uncertain of soooo much, yet, assured I will be able to get through whatever, coz my impending (whenever it is) death comforts me.

Yep. It's a product called LAKANTO sugar free Monkfruit sweetener icing sugar. It is only 1% monkfruit, the rest is erythritol.

Sure🙂. I used; 1 cups of almond flour 1/2 cup of coconut flour 3/4 cup of raw (I used organic) cocao 3/4 cup of coconut oil About 1/2 cup of monk fruit and erythritol icing sugar, coz it's all I had, but sweeten to taste 3 eggs Definitely needed the addiction of keto choc chips though. On...

I have always struggled with shame. It is very socially debilitating. My mother was very big on shaming me and it worked. Having Aspergers/Autism1 on top of c-ptsd just adds to the intensity of social excruciation. And it's even less treatable than the c-ptsd, at this stage. I would love to be...

Coffee with cream and some home made keto chocolate brownie. Next time I will add keto choc chips to my brownies, they really need them for full chocolate satisfaction.

This is a really interesting thread. My brains a little struggling, but, I really do grasp, I think, the core principles, of what you are putting forward here @RCReal. I think it applies to me. I, clearly, inherited "trauma genes" from my parents and they their parents, of the complex kind. My...

I too, made a lot of unhealthy "friend" choices, for many years. It took a lot of attracting self-absorbed, abusive, disordered personality types, for many, many years for me to "wake up" . I, also, eventually, realised that I deserved better than I was being treated, AND, I also realised that...