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I'm not only talking about poor conduct among new members, but regular memebers as well. I can't speak for everyone, but I read the Community Constitution upon creating an account, and here almost a month later cannot recall the contents or find the link without asking. Sure, some people might...

Can you say more or give more context about not being able to feel anger for yourself? I find it difficult to believe you've never felt anger for yourself, making me wonder if it is context dependent?

Fantastic! Is there a way to make this Community Constitution more visible or otherwise accessible at each log in or before posting? I see the copyright link before each post, but wasn't able to find the Community Constitution on my own without asking. Perhaps without an easier link, the...

@anthony @Friday @Sideways Perhaps clarifying and elaborating on some forum “social norms” and adding them to the copyright “read before you post” section would be beneficial for new members and established members alike. We all come from a variety of backgrounds, social groups, upbringings...

Three bloody, mangled, dead woodpeckers.

I think you're being too hard on yourself. What I saw was a person joining new a social group and deciding to use an icebreaker... something very common, even encouraged in some spaces, when introducing oneself to others or a new group. The icebreaker being hit with the levels of...

Similar to what VB said. Might be helpful to remind yourself of your strengths and keep them in mind. Thinking in terms of affirmations doesn't do anything for me, but these two things seem to be similar.

Like an Freddyt says, stress from the time of a trauma might come back around. Was there a time where you felt like you couldn't speak or you were unable to speak when you wanted to use your voice? There could also be literal times of physical injury to the throat. Just mentioned the unable to...

Sunlight

Best I can describe, it is moments of time where a person is an observer in their own life. Even though this person is present, and can move around, there's an 'unreal' quality to it. Not because it's magical or special, but because being perceived as a person seems too threatening in context to...

Gave it more thought and I'd like to elaborate on original post. While taking on a more adult role than child role as a child, I got to be in community and harmonize with those around me. A sense of duty and obligation were clear and rewarding. When I could see that these behaviors helped keep...

In a past life, I have been an over-apologizer. Saying 'sorry' in situations where it is not necessary to make myself smaller, and less threatening to those around me. I think the logic is along the lines of "If I am small and non-threatening, if I am mindful to take up little space, I will be...

Sometimes I wake up and groan thinking, "Okay, time to put on my clothes, go out into the world, and be a person." "Time to be people now... " Is having to 'tough up' in order to exist in society a burden for other people here too? Do you feel the desire to not have a self or have needs? And...

I have a background with working for a law office. It does not matter to me if you shared your sexual assaulter's name or not. I can almost guarantee you that I don't know them, that the people on this website don't know them, and even if we did, no one would care or take action to cause harm...

When the chaos and calmness are so co-related in the brain, you unintentionally seek out chaos mistaking it for calmness.

Lucky Lusine

Hi @RiverDog Welcome to the forum! Sorry to see original post was misread as passive-aggressive. From what I've gathered, the insular culture on the forum seems to be earnest and straightforward. I don't know what the culture of your friends of family might look like, but it seems to be...

That sounds like a difficult way to go through life. Have you confided your suspicions about the lifelong consequences to anyone close or important to you? Or mentioned your insights and concerns to primary care doctor? Childbirth in general strikes me as traumatic. While I don't know much...

Yes, another term for 'bullying' is peer abuse. Do you have any constructive outlets, or ways to channel and transform your anger?

I don't understand some of this, possibly because you seem to be writing in code? I do understand getting out of a bad situation often is more difficult than packing up and leaving. Hotels and motels are incredibly expensive right now. Not ideal to live at. Some question to ask: Do you have a...