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Spent the day crying today - really crying. I think it's grief. My sufferer is getting worse and I think I have to step back now and let him hit his bottom. Don't know how much is the PTSD and how much is his avoidant attachment issues (combined with my anxious attachment issues :() but...

My sufferer is the same - he looks like the king of the world at our mutual activity, but he is shut-off from only me. My therapist says it's because I'm the closest and he doesn't want me to see him weak (not that it is) and it's just extra stress. He doesn't want to worry me and in my case...

These articles have helped me immensely as a supporter. I am not allowed to post links on here but here is what you Google to find them: Tian Dayton’s ACOA PTSD was a Godsend to understanding what is happening since I did not grow-up in an abusive, addictive household. Google: "tian dayton...

Homewood has great programs. I don't know about this particular one but their eating disorder and their addiction programs are outstanding, from what I hear. They don't just look at the sufferer but help the family - the family learn. My Al-anon group has many family members that extol the...

My sold sufferer thinks when I don't say anything I am hostile and no matter what I say I'm hostile and attacking him. Eggshells are so hard especially when we are taught to look after our own needs and create boundaries first. My sufferer asked me for space last week, I ignored him at our...

I'm sorry to hear this and have no advice except a big hug.

So an update...I did go...I ignored him. Three days later he's angry I ignored him, really angry. The first time I've seen him like that. He was mean. Not sure really what to do with that. I guess if he didn't care he wouldn't be mad but I'm not taking that. Hard to know what to say to...

Thank you all for the support. I think you're right, I'll stay away for awhile and see what happens.

He is afraid, and there's me telling him I need to let him go. I've also told him what I think is going on with him which we all know isn't the right thing to do. I really want to be that person who makes him feel safe and yet I'm my own worst enemy. He is a good person who deserves a good...

Long story short the love of my life shut down after I told him I loved him - he has cPTSD after a lifetime of abuse from his family and past relationships. He showed physical signs of freeze mode. He said he does not feel the way he did about me. He thinks I'm controlling - I am not. It's...

A giant hug!

A couple of times recently my sufferer acts and sounds like a 12 year old. He comes out with, "are you mad, are you mad, are you mad?" He has had a lifetime of abuse. Has anyone else experienced this? What is it and if so, what do you do? He has shut down with me for 5 months and I know he...

My T sent this for you - but I am unable to add the link. Healing through your body….radio interview with Peter Levine

I have no recollection. Three Moms - birth, foster care for 6 months and my adopted family. Ainsworth discusses attachment theory, her research is based on babies. Heller Poole is a modern day expert. Your reaction time seems intense and scary. There are some Ted Talks on neurobiology, mind...

I was adopted at the 6 month marker after being in foster care. My therapist is doing some somatic work with me and EMDR about some other stuff, and my body reverberates when working through some things...you are supposed to let your body shake or do whatever it wants. It is trying to heal...

I was with a sex addict for 4 years. We bought our first house together and 2 months later I found out. He had one affair our whole relationship, was addicted to cyber, to porn, met other women, likely more and I was in complete shock. What got me through? I read everything by Patrick Carnes...

My (ex)BF suffers from Adult Child of Alcoholic PTSD - his behaviour is textbook, from what I know. I'm trying to make a decision to give up or give our relationship time/patience. We had a great relationship. He is a really great person and treated me well. He was triggered (by an argument...