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This will be hard to explain because he is so complicated with so many issues. I knew our age difference him being 15 yrs older than me could have its difficulties but tonight's discussion makes me wonder if I should just try to emotionally hold back my feelings for him and try to think of him...

Holidays are just worse for my boyfriend Vet. I think because of what happened in Paris it has made him more depressed and worried because he says that he 'knows' we are next and won't 'last another year'. It's so hard to hear these types of irrational statements and not respond. I guess I...

I have written on here several times. I guess some of you can relate to this.I know some of this could be his Alcoholism or some could be his ptsd. But with my Vet our relationship has changed in the last 8 mos or more I think because we have had some conflicting discussions not really arguments...

I get so frustrated when my Vet gets depressed and it seems like nothing I say or do can make it better. I have posted on here several times before. I usually come here instead of the Al-Anon board because I think all of you probably understand the 'whole' of him better because of the PTSD. He...

OK My Vet and I have had a few what I call breakups (he says they weren't really) over the past 1 1/2 yrs. So each time I go around my apt and put up all the reminders of him. He made a country album in the 80's--in my closet, Bath and Body works Lotions in the cabinet, pictures in the drawers...

I have posted here several times before. My relationship is complex with my Vet but I thought I could talk after my Al-Anon meeting to someone about a recent issue but something she said was very upsetting. In about 20 min. it is hard to explain a situation to someone. There is a lot going on in...

My Vet is older so he has many issues besides ptsd including a lot of depression now. He says not to take it personally when he doesn't feel like any affection. I try not too but it is so hard. Am I doing the wrong thing by going up and hugging him anyway or kissing him Hello? He is too nice a...

My Vet was in Vietnam and although not in combat he saw enough of the horrors and was exposed to Agent Orange. He is also a recovering Alcoholic so he has had many issues that he has and is still dealing with. I really don't want to think he is a racist but the things he will say can sound...

Hi!! I have posted several times but have not officially introduced myself. After my divorce 1 1/2 yrs ago I met my Vet by accident as I wasn't looking to date anyone. He was always upfront and honest with me about his past marriages, ptsd and Alcoholism. He was in Vietnam so is 16 yrs older...

Since we had a disagreement tonight and will not talk for several days what do you do to pass the time? I think because we had a few discussions that were too emotional for him we stopped talking at all on the phone a few months ago. He worries too much it will happen again. He hates any kind...

I made such a mistake. I know I did. My Vet I am dating is 16 yrs older than me. I am 55. So that with the ptsd has it's own challenges. But I knew after I got to know him that the relationship would be worth it. There has been several time that my emotions have gotten carried away and he can't...

I am dating a Vietnam vet that is 16 yrs older than me. Yes, the age difference can have it's challenges but overall he is worth it. He has depression along with his ptsd so his moods go up and down. Since I had a few hours that were better than usual this afternoon I decided I needed to write...

I was married for 30 years. He for several years emotionally neglected and I think I would consider it also emotional abuse. I had severe depression and fatigue and one time could barely get out of the bed and he would never check on me. He could have sent one of our children. We were separated...

I am new and learning more about ptsd. Some of you may have read my several recent posts but if not my guy is a Vietnam vet. I consider myself a very patient person but how much is he using his past as an excuse for his behavior and things he gets by saying to me. I am emotional and I know he...

Of course it depends on your situation, etc. But I found with my Vet it has helped tremendously for me to explain or re-explain some things in a letter I mail to him. But he was in Vietnam and much older than most of you and forgetful. But maybe ptsd does that to many vets. I am new to this...

I am new here but I just wanted to thank those that have replied and those I know that have read my posts and may just be thinking about me and can empathize with my situation. It is just so comforting to know I have others I can turn to that can understand and are going through some of these...

Although I haven't received many replies it has helped for me to vent out my thoughts. Sundays especially are tough for me. I know many of you may have read what I wrote and I know you are online so that helps just to know you are there. Blessings to you and prayers for what you are going...

I will try and explain this as briefly as possible. I have been dating someone for over a year that served in Vietnam that is 16 yrs older than me. The age difference didn't seem to be a problem. We both have been divorced and he is overall good with communication although he was living almost...