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I'm quite interested in knowing further details about some of your stories. I'm interested in hearing from both "Supporters" and "Sufferers" point of view on this topic. I have found so much comfort and ability to deal with being in the present in my own "complicated" relationship by listening...

So, I have to go in to have a lump removed from my eye to have a biopsy done on it tomorrow. I asked K to take me, because I'm petrified. He told me Friday he'd think about it and let me know. I told myself I'd be okay with either answer. Clearly since I'm writing, I was lying to myself...

Hello, all! I'm looking for either supporter's views of their S/O's starting in therapy or sufferer's recollections of their experiences. I honestly can't remember what it was like when I started, and I don't know how it affected my relationship. So basically, my (ex?)S/O of the last 9 years...

As most of you know, we are in the middle of our annual break up. He's recently started therapy finally too, but says he's worried it isn't helping. But he deliberately is pushing me away harder than ever and is admittedly more angry. So it's been almost 2 months since this break. They...

Holy cow I'm so confused! I'm going through the worst isolation period with my partner that we've had in almost 9 years. It has never been this rough but as you may know, he started some intense therapy 2 months ago and his AF friend of 25 or so years moved in with him....I don't know if it's...

Does anyone else here feel like the posts and memes about cutting the stigma of mental illness, or PTSD post about 22 days, or other ones regarding the face of Depression just feel like lip service? It's really getting under my skin the last few weeks as I've tried to reach out to some friends...

So, we are going to finally catch up tiday and have brunch. I'm so excited and terrified. On one hand, I just want to enjoy each other's company, but I also want to see what's all going on and figure out what to expect. Even just sitting this out right now it's helping me calm down. The...

Okay, so I'm feeling like a crazy person. I went to my women's group last night. I started there last October when my s/o pushed me away and moved out last year. We reconciled after a couple weeks of a break, but he's still living in his house and me in mine. The facilitator is a retired...

Hi all! I've been so frustrated the last month. We're going though our annual badaversary period. (The predictable times suffers can go "off course" due to anniversary dates ir periods) Right now, for me, things are tediously slow, but getting better. I'm working so hard at not letting my own...

Hi guys! I'm looking for boundary setting tips. I'm run down and overworked. I'm tired of doing everything myself or being expected to give such a step by step explanation that I might as well just do it myself. This is across the board... from the S/O to the kids. I'm gong to lose my mind...

I am at a complete loss right now. So, we're in the middle of one of his avoidance periods, and today the bottom feels like it is falling out. We've been together 8 years on this roller coaster, and his son is basically my son. His "mother" didn't raise him, I did... I'm his mom. Things have...

I'm at max capacity right now. I seriously can't handle one more thing. My S/O's need to have our yearly "break up" is always difficult for me...makes sense. Also, I went to file for unemployment because the company I've been working for has me on a hopefully temp layoff. Well, because I only...

Hey all! Sorry for being overbearing with my anxiety the last few days. What I'm curious about is do other supporters (with or without PTSD themselves) also have trouble not falling into the distorted perspective of their "sufferer" when cycling? I think a lot of my anxiety comes from wondering...

So, my S/O and I both have PTSD. Generally I manage to keep mine fairly under control and function fairly "normal" in day to day life. Occasionally when faced with a confrontation or too much stress, I go into "fight mode" For my S/O, under the same circumstances, he goes into "flight mode"...

I hate that when I need help the most, I'm too tired, depressed, anxious, or lazy....or whatever to follow through with things. I can't even tell if I'm taking on too much, or too little. I can't wrap my head around anything logical at all, I think. I'm so tired. I'm mentally tired, emotionally...

Hello, all. I've spent the better part of the evening reviewing some of my past journals and posts, and I think I may need to walk away and not let him come home. It breaks my damn heart, but it's already so flipping broken that what is the difference. Upon reading the journal from last year at...

I'm spiraling down, and don't even know what I'm thinking anymore! I'm going to try to get it together so I can make sense here. Little background: We have been together for over 7.5 years. During this entire time, we've been raising our children together. "mine" are now 23, 21, and 19. "his"...

So, as many of you know, I'm a PTSD sufferer supporting a PTSD sufferer. We've been in a pretty rough patch since the end of August. We've been together almost 7 years, and these last few months we've been trudging through. Well....I'm at a point I may need to be done for my own sake. I would...

I'm completely exhausted. I'm wondering if we moved right past him being symptomatic into him being a selfish jerk. After this last "episode", I was trying to do something different to try to avoid creating a pattern of enabling his bad behavior. I apparently suck at this, because his behavior...

We all know how hard limbo can be. I know I'm fairly used to it. This round of isolation has been unusually difficult for me because of throwing his son into the mix. When his son "lived" with his mother, he never really noticed when his dad would isolate from the rest of us. Plus, he was only...

So, a lot of you know my s/o of 6.5 years is in isolation/"break" mode. But for some reason this time, it seems different. As usual we talk every day and see each other about every other day....mostly to try to maintain "status quo" for the kids. This is his "normal" time for a break...Every...

Hello....so as some of you may know, my s/o has decided to take his annual "break". This started on the 14th of August. So things are progressing slowly, as usual. Well, I'm starting to feel used. I have a feeling he feels guilty for pulling away, like normal...but there are different...

I'm seriously going to drive myself crazy. Tomorrow night will be two full weeks since he "broke up" with me again. Every damn time it's so hard to take him seriously. This week was the first week he's been home for it, and I did see him on Thursday. He's already "wavering", but I haven't really...

I'm wondering how many sufferers label their isolation periods as "break ups". I know that for my S/O he does it every time, and it drives me batty. There are times he's done it for a day, a couple days, weeks, and a month....at different times. The reality is when he is having an "episode", if...

Here we go again! After 6.5 years, he "really means it this time" and "I'm not changing my mind" and any other number of things he always says is said again. A week ago Sunday night, on his way to his week at reserves, he called me to tell me when he came home, he was moving out and breaking up...