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It's been a while since I posted here. I took a break to focus on me. The past few months have been very difficult. My husband still has not made any contact with me. It's been 5 months. I attempted to contact him in early Dec. I did it thru Facebook so I could see if he read it. The message was...

Now I know...he left me for another woman. She even met his parents when they were here. They really must not like me since they seem to be encouraging this. I feel like I have been knocked over and stomped on by people I thought loved me. DARN DEPLOYMENT!!! This never would have happened if he...

Why is this so hard???? :(

Well I am starting to think that I haven't put all the pieces together. He talked to our daughter yesterday and told her he would be getting a place near her. But the way he worded it made it look like I wouldn't let her see him until he had his own place. I made sure to clarify it to her. I...

I understand what you are going through because I am going through it too. Having a positive outlook has helped some but the pit in my stomach keeps returning. It's like I can't breathe and just physically hurt. I miss my husband so much, but he has chosen to leave me for someone else. I am...

I am posting here because I really want the sufferer's point of view, especially those with combat ptsd. To give a brief history of my situation...my husband is currently on his 3rd deployment. He left in April. Things were fine until the end of July/early August. He became distant, started...

vmshields, as I read your post I couldn't help but wonder if those are the thoughts my husband has. He is on his 3rd deployment. Things seemed fine and we talked almost every day in the beginning. What I didn't know was that he was planning to come home on leave and file for divorce. I was...

Easier said than done. From his behavior he doesn't seem to be hurting at all. Actually it looks like he is happy living the single life. I am the farthest thing from his mind and the pain he has caused, and continues to cause, is causing me immeasurable pain. After almost 17 years of marriage I...

I just finished going thru a box of old photos that never got put in an album. It was tough to fight back the tears. Especially when I found the ones of his first deployment homecoming. I won't get to be there for his homecoming this time. I watched him get on the bus to go, but won't get a...

Macca, my daughter and I are both in therapy. I feel that it has been helping me. I think it will make more of an impact on her after he returns from this deployment. I fear that her expectations of him are going to be shattered and she will not know how to handle her emotions. I agree that...

I am sick over everything happening in my life right now. Yesterday I got a copy of the temporary orders I am supposed to sign. Of course I have problems with it so here's another reason for him to say we are going thru a "nasty" divorce. It is unbelievable some of the items included. I don't...

I am angry that that you are thousands of miles away and are still calling all the shots. I put my career on hold to follow you and support your career and you thank me by walking out on me knowing that I do not have a job and am 100% dependent on you. I am left with the responsibility of a...

Thanks for the words of encouragement. I am working hard to stay focused and remain positive. I do have times when I am sad and let everything replay in my head. It is just all so hard to accept. I think it would be easier if I had some sort of closure. I really have no idea what his reasons for...

nursenurse....your words ring true to my situation as well. It has been 2 months since my husband pulled the rug out from under me. Time is helping, but I still find myself questioning his motives and how long he had been considering walking out on me. It is hard to accept that I will probably...

Ayesha...my daughter is 16. I agree that he should not be putting her in the middle like that and I am very upset about it. She worships the ground he walks on so no matter how good, or bad, our relationship is she will always favor him. I am saddened by this because I have been the primary...

As hard as it is to read those words I have to agree with you. I never imagined I would be in a situation like this. My daughter and I barely talk right now. She is also showing a lack of respect for me. She doesn't listen, help around the house, keep her grades up, and just does what she wants...

What else do you think his behaviors could be?

Thanks nursenurse...I really needed to hear those words. I do know that I am a good person and do not deserve what is happening to me. It raises the question, why do bad things happen to good people? Going thru this will make me stronger, give me character, and reaffirm the person I know I...

AlabamaChick...it does sound like you understand. The latest in my situation is that my daughter told my husband that she wants to live with him when he gets back. He told her he would talk to his lawyer to see what he could do. It's like it goes from bad to worse in a matter of days. My...

StrongHeart, I got a lawyer the day I was served. In TX you only have until the 1st Monday after 20 days to respond with a counter. That was back the beginning of September...he still has not responded. My lawyer doesn't understand why his would say not to talk to me. She said that possibly he...

As I read all of the comments I can only be thankful that my husband never lashed out at me physically. It always seemed to be emotional, and still is. Don't get me wrong he had many verbal outbursts in public that made me want to crawl under a rock. I have to admit that sometimes I was...

Court, were you able to get the answers you need? I am from NC and know that there is a year separation before a divorce can be finalized. I believe you can go to JAG and have a legal separation drawn up. If you still have not heard from the chain of command you can talk to the Chaplain. I am in...

It infuriates me that the military keeps glossing over the problems of its soldiers and expecting the family to deal with it. My husband is currently deployed and came home on mid tour about 6 weeks ago to file for divorce. I had no clue because we had been talking almost every day and there was...

Well, my situation hasn't gotten any better. In some ways I think it is worse. He still has made no attempt to contact me. He did have a Facebook chat with our daughter a few days ago. He asked her how I was holding up and was I sulking. He also asked her if I hade been hitting her or pushing...

Thanks Ice_Fire...you are correct about me not being so calm in real life. I am trying to keep it together for my daughter, she is 16. She saw me fall apart in the beginning and is aware of the financial burden he has put on us. I don't feel that it is right to hide any of this from her. He is...