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@spmitchell3 I am both a sufferer and a supporter. I'd have to say I have about as many years as both and it's been a long road of self-discovery and healing for both of us. I've also been a supporter for many of my friends and family, though obviously in a different relational aspect. :) If...

@spmitchell3 I JUST made a post about something similar that I'm seeing here so I thought I would give you my thoughts on the matter. You have questions about whether this behavior (saying she doesn't love you but wants you around, doesn't show excitement about things, etc) is a result of her...

@Amanda_j and @Glara I see this question a fair bit both on here and in life when dealing with people who has some sort of issue, be it physical or emotional or mental or what-have-you and have some advice that I've learned the hard way. Very rarely is anything "either/or". There is NO reason...

These are all brief for now as my morning coffee has yet to jump start my brain. @Junebug Good morning and wow that's a lot to think about. I think I'm going to have to digest that for a bit before I can respond to it but wanted you to know that I appreciate your words and the time/effort it...

@spmitchell3 I think that it's a very good thing, you realizing you have your own issues and are actively working on them. Good for you! You need to put your emotional health before everything else if you want to be healthy enough to deal with other people. You need to find what makes YOU happy...

@spmitchell3 I commend you on wanting to be the first man to stand by her. A couple of things stand out to me, some positive, some negative but I thought I would mention them just in case you were unaware of the possible ramifications. While I applaud your thoroughness in wanting people to...

@spmitchell3 Those all sound like wonderful statements, to me, with a HUGE caveat. If your partner is currently in the throes of depression due to her PTSD those MIGHT help stabilize her. A suffering person, I have found, sometimes really wants to be left alone but doesn't want to be alone...

One would have to define "works for me". Not processing doesn't preclude personal growth but it may restrict it and partly determine the path one takes in life. Personally I believe a person can not heal without processing. Repression may submerge things allowing someone to be functional...

@steveeiss Personally, being very self-analytical, before making decisions I would look at myself and try to figure out why I responded that way I did. Was it a response to her actions? To her group of friends? To past experiences to which you are associating her? Perhaps some introspection...

I completely agree. Words are just that: words. They have only the power you give to them. As for something as amorphic as "love", that's a matter of perceptions. One persons demonstration of love may not be perceived as such by the person receiving it. I believe it's very important, when you're...

I have to completely agree with this concept. I have found the the most satisfactory relationship I have been in (and still am) is the kind where I fill as many of my partners needs as I can while my partner fills as many of mine in return. But this is not an exchange, nor a payment, nor an...

shadesofgreen, Good for you! Good for you for seeing that this isn't worthy of you and moving on. There really is no "getting even". The best thing you can do for YOU, in my opinion, is to learn from it and move on. You're better than you think and you'll prove it in the end. Peace and love, VoR

spmitchell3, You are not alone. None of us have experiences exactly alike but we all have shared feelings of confusion, depression, anger, hopelessness and helplessness. Those suffering from PTSD aren't the only ones and sometimes we focus so much on "making things right" and dealing with "if...

adriftatsea, It's great to see that your beginning to focus on yourself and keep your SELF emotionally fed and healthy. It must be really difficult to be there and support someone when your self isn't getting what it needs. There's only so much you can do for him, such as be there when he needs...