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I’ve been doing brainspotting with my T on and off for about six months. We don’t do emdr yet as I was too dissociative for it. I do dissociate with brain spotting too and staring at a spot has always been what my brain does when I check out. But it shifts things. It brings a lot up for me. It...

Thank you all for your input. It has made me consider why I would report. I have a friend in my state who is a therapist and he said it’s possible to fill out an anonymous report, and that information would be visible to people who search online for the therapist. So I was thinking of going down...

She is a licensed mental health counselor in my state. She’s a Christian as well. But I didn’t see her in the church. I guess what’s holding me back is that she didn’t mean to hurt me. She’s very warm and caring. But hasn’t done enough of her own work. And, I ignored the red flags. And, it’s...

I have written on here over the years regarding various difficulties in therapy, especially around the amount of time my therapist would cancel or go on vacations or take leaves. She had a near death experience last year and sought therapy herself, and in doing so found someone who is trained...

Thank you for this perspective. This is helpful.

I have been with my therapist almost 10 years now and we’ve done a lot of really good work. She felt I was ready for emdr so I had one session with someone new for that. That therapist is working with my main T. EMDR T recommended I complete the MID assessment. My score on that prompted them to...

My T said there are varied opinions about the use of ART for complex trauma and while some believe it’s best others believe it’s not. She said she will tell her to do emdr and not art for now. I don’t necessarily feel like she was practicing on me as she’s been doing emdr for so long and art is...

This is a pretty old post that has resurfaced so I’m here to give an update. I’m grateful for the thoughtful responses people gave me on here. She came back from her leave and immediately went away again for a vacation and I lost it in her office. It became a pretty big rupture mostly over text...

My T sent me to someone for EMDR to work in conjunction with her. I went for my first EMDR session, and the therapist talked about how she is being trained in ART and will use that script as she believes it’s more effective and quicker. So we dove right in with no groundwork except for...

I mean.. yeah it’s “nutty” (thanks for that) . I’ve been trying to heal my disorganized attachment. My T takes a ton of time off all year. And when I initially wrote this post she had a death or her father in law who had been dying for a year. And I had just lost my grandpa who hadn’t been dying...

Thank you. We had our first session since she got back last week and had a really honest conversation about what I need and how I’m feeling about her frequent time off. I have a really good support system. Family, friends, work. I haven’t been leaning on them enough because I’m so avoidant. And...

I am on week three of not seeing her (one week my vacation) butting up against a two week vacation for her. This has been a very hard month with a lot of challenging things in my life (a fallout with my parents, two of my three kids struggling with ocd, a job transition for my husband, a massive...

I think that’s what I’m stuck on. I don’t know how. Because logically I know she’s not. But internally I’m a mess and parts of me definitely want to just terminate with her.

Yes this is all exactly it. we basically think I have a part that feels abandoned and so she reassures me that she’s not abandoning me. (Emotional neglect/abuse in my past) but now she’s starting to get a little defensive about it and say she won’t feel guilty for taking time off. This time we...

I totally get this! I absolutely overthink it just like you. But now I basically “heart” the message if it’s not a question. And if it is, I answer with a couple of lines. And if I feel like she opened up a can of worms, I email.

Oh it has come up. And we work through it. And then it happens again. I don’t regress in session much except for this. And I don’t think she can help me because I frankly can’t hear her or trust her or look at her in that moment. :(

This time I did say to her that it’s a lot of time away. She said it is not, especially for the summer. I have no context except that my previous T I saw for two years and she didn’t miss one session. We have had this conversation a lot of times. I get better. And then I get worse. Last time...

I’ve posted before about therapist attachment issues. In regular life I have an avoidant attachment style. With my T it’s completely disorganized. I trust her. I believe she deserves time off. She goes out of her way for me and I feel very cared about in the relationship. I feel secure with her...

I’m so sorry for your loss. I definitely didn’t feel my therapist was milking anything. It was an elderly FIL who had been sick for a long time. And she does take many vacations a year. (As in, from april-July she will have been gone for 5 weeks total). She does not think this is a lot. Some...

Thanks so much for these perspectives. My irl people are mostly saying what she did was wrong. But I do trust her and do want her to heal and grieve and that’s important for our work. I don’t want to be angry with her and I agree it’s transference. I want to work on that with her without letting...

Thank you. This is a different perspective for me. It was an elderly father in law. So not spouse or child. I am a teacher. And I know when I lose a parent I will have almost no time off. I get 3 bereaved days a year. I know people take longer leave for spouses and children. In my mind they’re...

I’ve run up against an issue with my therapist of 8 years. She has been incredible and I think I’ve come really far. But I am very disorganized in my attachment with her and I don’t do well when she cancels last minute. I’m an adult and understand situations warrant it. But she cancels more than...

Thanks for the input. I’m glad to hear you think he’s reliable. The film looks really promising.

Has anyone seen anything about this film? (it previews next week). Thoughts on it or Gabor Maté)? I want to make sure he is a reliable resource before I donate to watch the premiere.

I don’t know what scenario is likely. But I just want to say I’m sorry this happened and you absolutely should be able to trust your therapist not to abandon you. I can’t imagine what could happen in the life of a therapist to cause this kind of disappearance. I do hope you get answers. And if I...