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@Friday he absolutely loved it! He loved working the cartels and being on cutters. @Snowflakes that's the root of it. Something isn't adding up. And it's a strong gut feeling. I have been researching ptsd for a year and a half. I have two good friends whose dads have it and a friend of mine has...

My husband never explodes exactly...it's like he just says really mean things or really cold things. There isn't ever a lot of blowups and stuff like that. If I try to tell him something, ask about something or set a boundary then that's when he says stuff he says. But he doesn't blow up. Get...

Sometime Sometimes I wish other people would push a button or two on him. It is very isolating for no one else to have a clue except for a few who see the way he treats me now. And I feel like he knows it's just me and that not a lot of other people know so there isn't really any pressure to...

@BlueOrange I do believe he has ptsd. But I don't believe it is as bad as he says. I just asked him about getting up and smelling smoke...asked why it was on the report and he said "Well yeah I did one time". Not sure I believe that. He knows I'm upset over things that have happened in the last...

@lostforgottensoul I think that speaks volumes that are able and do apologize after a blow up when you feel you need to. My husband never apologizes. He just says it's me. I don't want anyone to think I voice to my husband I think he is exaggerating. I absolutely would not say that to him. But...

I've never accepted the pamphlet stuff and told him he can't hide behind and use illness as a crutch. I've tried to get him to go to therapy but he wont.

H While in coast guard about 22 years ago a boat was in fire. My husband was on the boat making the drug bust without any safety equipment. He was afraid it was going to explode he says. What he lied to the psyche doc about was he told her he gets up at night smelling smoke and checks the...

Oh trust me. Do not accept or take the mistreatment. I have told him such and call him on it. But, that being said we have 3 kids and are in no position to separate. He won't go to counseling with me.ive tried. I'm also not like anyone in his family. As far as the past pamphlet.. that is what...

Are there signs that can help someone tell if PTSD is being exaggerated? My husband has been diagnosed from his time in the Coast Guard 20 years ago. If you have PTSD can you be completely fine to your kids and others but completely detached and almost emotionally abusive to your wife?? I am...

Thanks for fantastic encouragement some of you gave and some of you not. I think some completely misunderstood what i meant about discussing feelings. I didn't mean anything to do with his experiences that caused his ptsd. So to those of you who were so ugly and are the reason I'll never get on...

Not yet. Gonna have to tho. Probably will try to get something going for me once school is out for the summer.

HE doesn't want to talk about it more than once a month. He isn't getting better...worse as far a dissociation. And he just kinda shrugs and says this is how I am now.

My husband is emotionally numb. He is better towards our boys than he is with me. In the last 6 months he rarely shows affection. He is in therapy for his PTSD and is on meds. When I try to talk to him about things (because I am becoming seriously burned out) he doesn't want to discuss anything...

I am going through the same thing with my husband of 17 years.

My husband feels badly for being emotionally detached but he is detached enough that he doesn't feel the need to really do anything about it. He just apologizes and that's it. He isn't anymore emotionally engaged with anyone else than he is with me and sometimes he does try to make conversation...

My husband of 17 years is diagnosed with PTSD from his service. In the last 6 months he has become completely emotionally detached from me. We went from best friends and lovers to NOTHING. I need to hear from some supporters on how to get through this. I am developing a lot of secondary symptoms...

Thank you guys for the encouragement! It really helps! @lostforgottensoul that was the most absurd thing to me that the therapist said. She told him how spouses generally move on because their emotional needs aren't met so they find someone who does. I was so disappointed that she didn't try to...

@lostforgottensoul may I ask how long you have been doing EMDR?

Ok, I'll check it out! Thanks! I must have gotten it confused because I was reading about a therapy that uses light therapy. It is similar to the light therapy they use on kids with learning disabilities to retrain their brains.

I appreciate the heads up @lostforgottensoul. If I am not mistaken EMDR uses light therapy??? I have looked at some therapists a couple of hours away that use that therapy. But my husband was like "I don't know about that". But it has been good for you?

@lostforgottensoul that is what is so hard for us supporters to watch. But that is exactly the same thing my husband has said. It is just go through the motions to get through the day and everything in the day as best as you can. Then when he gets home, he shuts off.

I would really like for him to and have brought it up to him. However, he doesn't want to talk about it more than once a month as he has to go to VA. I am still dropping suggestions here and there and I am hoping he will come around. I really feel like he needs more. He has only been to two...

He is in therapy with the VA. Unfortunately, where we live there are no close support groups with veterans. He thought about going to one about an hour and a half away but all of those vets are divorced. He would like to be able to talk to some who are married. Then other times he doesn't want...

@EveHarrington my husband is an Investigator. He is always under stress.

I have exhausted myself on the symptoms. I just wonder why and does it ever come back. I've read why it is thought to happen but not heard from anyone who has been through it. Sometimes it helps to hear someone's actual story. :)