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My dear @Linzee , you are not alone. I am the same woman, loving guy with PTSD, choosing him over and over. Loving unconditionally. You're extraordinary woman :hug:. There is so little we can do for them. No matter what we do or say, irrational monster will always find a way...

My guy never said you should find somebody else, but he is often sayin "I feel like I'm hurting you"; "I don't want more, I am OK with what we are"; "you don't feel when I am not OK with our communication" "It's never going to be good"; "I feel like you have higher expectations and I'm...

Sorry, autocorrect mashup: Specifically asking about relationships which starts after PTSD was diagnosed.

Hi guys, are there any happy ending stories with your PTSD partners? (Like to get married, have a family) Specificall they asking about relationships which starts after PTSD was diagnosed. Have you been able to have something like traditional family life, to be strong support for them and to be...

@Seeking So glad to hear good and positive news! Today I came to ask about happing endings (are there some in PTSD relationships???). Thank you, but the most of all wish you many happy days like this together!

I did this two days ago. Went to my friends house and just let myself cry and talk about him.

@Mon15 try to read this thread, may help to explain things about what happend: I Suddenly Lost Love For My Boyfriend For No Reason?

@heyheyhey I learned to look for small gestures and signs :) It's hard for all of us to get out from our comfort zone. No need for excuse. You fight your fights everyday. We learn how to understand and support you everyday. With PTSD from childhood abandonment, emotional intimacy must be a...

@heyheyhey I wanted to say that on one side there are web pages/books with message: show people (with PTSD) you love them... But on other side reading about emotions and feeling from sufferers on this forum, there is different message: to show me you love me, it's too much pressure... and I...

For my guy, it seems that more like telling him how I love and like him, what works is building the trust, have a patience and just be there for him. There are so many guides for supporters telling to show love and affection for sufferers. But mostly I've read opposite/negative reactions from...

@StormySea, thank you for asking this question. Still learning how to listen and interpret actions of my dear, but he is not able to explain everything, so this forum is a big help for us/for me. Thank all of you guys for your answers and explanations.

@boodle @Justmehere thank you for your insight. I'll give him space and time, like he "asked".

@Justmehere I've just realized he did exactly what I asked him Thursday: "Please, if you feel bad, call me. I'm here."

He texts me in the morning: "Good morning. (My name), something went wrong. I couldn't sleep. Please believe me, it's got nothing with our latest conversation - that conversation was more the consequence than a cause of this. It started a few days ago. I think I'm not going to contact you for...

@Friday @Justmehere @tlc Thank you.

@Friday what can I do now? I read about communication, about partners talking about triggers, but I feel so awful now about what I asked him.

@Justmehere Thank you, lot of questions/points, I need think about. Should I apologise for my question?

Thank you a lot @Enaila I didn't realise that my question could be also a trigger.

@tlc I told him I understand if you say no ( question about triggers). Was he saying I don't love you so why You want to understand me?

I asked my guy if we can talk about his triggers. First he agreed to talk about them, but then he asked why and continued with more offensive questions like what I want from him, about my expectations. He said that he is ok with status of our relationship and don't want more (I never asked for...

@boodle :hug: be strong, you're not alone!

@tlc This is his third year in therapy, he was struggling with PTSD and abandonment issue, without therapy from childhood (more than 30 years). Being in sanatorium is voluntary choice, but it helps him a lot, he makes such a progress from condition he had. But I've got no idea, when he would...

@Glara Wish you get well soon! What impressed me the most, was you saying It's my choice decide what to believe. Those are such strong words, thank you! It's great to read that your guy supports you, even in his actual condition.

We use to see each other everyday in work (till October, now he's waiting for new contract) and at least once a week after work. Four days in week, after work, he stays in "sanatorium" , there are group therapies, strict program, no phone or internet connection and people with similar problems...

@tlc My guy is avoiding to meet me in person, whole December, but he is writing every day. When I said I miss him and want to meet him, he ignored that. He even wrote that I' ve got a terrible taste if I like somebody like him. After few messages he said that maybe this was his way to beg me for...