Hello All!
I'm a supporter and have finally found myself creating a post after many reads. The love of my life suffers from untreated Combat PTSD. We've been together for over a year and half, and 10 months out of 12 they are the happiest that anyone could ask for. He tells me he is so in love with me, that I'm the best thing that has ever happened to him, that he wants to marry me. We live few hours from each other and met at work. With out hectic jobs and it can be hard to be with each other all of the time, but my job is flexible and for the most part, I can work from anywhere.
A few months ago, everything was perfect. He would talk about our future, planning a wedding, trips with friends and even talk about how perfect our relationship was (besides living distant). I know that in the month of December, he shuts down and pushes me away (experienced this last year). I fight for us and within a month he was back to himself. Same thing happened this go around but after about 3 weeks, he starts the contact and agrees to talk. We talk, he admits that he has a problem and that I am not to blame but for some reason I get the blame. Everything is great again for a few days while I am with him and then like the flip of a switch, the attitude changes, he leaves and stays at a friends and sends me a message that is totally opposite of what he just expressed days before. "I don't want to talk about it anymore or fight anymore for it. I just don't feel the same and don't want the future I see I am headed for. I don't like trips, etc. I want to be left alone. Take what you want. I've started over before."
I can't grasp what happened all of a sudden and now this change. I didn't pressure anything and tried not to plan anything unless he asked. I love him more than anything in this world and have no idea what to do or what changed from one day to the next. I know he loves me just as much as I love him and I know I have to let him go and if it's meant to be, it will. This hurts more than anything to lose the love of my life in an instant.
Advice on what to do, please!!
I'm a supporter and have finally found myself creating a post after many reads. The love of my life suffers from untreated Combat PTSD. We've been together for over a year and half, and 10 months out of 12 they are the happiest that anyone could ask for. He tells me he is so in love with me, that I'm the best thing that has ever happened to him, that he wants to marry me. We live few hours from each other and met at work. With out hectic jobs and it can be hard to be with each other all of the time, but my job is flexible and for the most part, I can work from anywhere.
A few months ago, everything was perfect. He would talk about our future, planning a wedding, trips with friends and even talk about how perfect our relationship was (besides living distant). I know that in the month of December, he shuts down and pushes me away (experienced this last year). I fight for us and within a month he was back to himself. Same thing happened this go around but after about 3 weeks, he starts the contact and agrees to talk. We talk, he admits that he has a problem and that I am not to blame but for some reason I get the blame. Everything is great again for a few days while I am with him and then like the flip of a switch, the attitude changes, he leaves and stays at a friends and sends me a message that is totally opposite of what he just expressed days before. "I don't want to talk about it anymore or fight anymore for it. I just don't feel the same and don't want the future I see I am headed for. I don't like trips, etc. I want to be left alone. Take what you want. I've started over before."
I can't grasp what happened all of a sudden and now this change. I didn't pressure anything and tried not to plan anything unless he asked. I love him more than anything in this world and have no idea what to do or what changed from one day to the next. I know he loves me just as much as I love him and I know I have to let him go and if it's meant to be, it will. This hurts more than anything to lose the love of my life in an instant.
Advice on what to do, please!!
