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So long story short, my marine vet is saying he needs to be alone and that what he wants to do which is go back in the military, is better to do without a girlfriend. He's saying he needs help because he's still angry at how much pain women has caused him. I asked him if I have done anything to...

Exactly:/ one of the main reasons that keep me tolerating it is because I'm still new to dating someone with PTSD and I don't want to trigger something.

Oh no definitely. It's why I didn't say anything when he did it. I do need to have a conversation about that though. It's really hard to tell when the right time is with him to have these type of boundary talks. If I don't word it right he'll flip. He looks into word choice a lot.

Yeah normally in relationships that would push me already to an argument. I have this habit of allowing him to get away with this stuff because of what he's been through. But I know it's not an excuse for it :/

I mean it makes me sad that he has to compare me with his past relationships. If it was anyone else, normally I would flip about someone going through my phone without permission. I'll probably bring it up if he does it again.

So these past 2 weeks with my marine vet has been amazing. All hes been is sweet to me. Last night when he went to the bathroom, I woke up and tried to go back to sleep. I hear him coming back to bed and felt him grab my phone from next to me. I continue to pretend I was sleeping and even moved...

Well he told me that he would rather keep my friends and him in 2 different worlds. He says he analyzes people too much and it makes him see the ugly. Before he met this friend some drunk guy grabbed me by the shoulder and my vet kicked the guy out himself. From then on throughout the night he...

Which I think won't be a problem, not planning to cheat.

So update for you guys! I talked with him about my boundaries, I told him if he starts yelling and/or cussing at me etc. that I will just walk away and leave for an hour. If we're in the car I won't talk for an hour. He seemed very understanding of it and even told me thank you for setting the...

Thank you so much! (: will definitely keep you guys posted!

Thank you, that helps a lot. I'm gonna see him in a couple days, and at the moment at least from what he said, he's feeling "normal" again. Hopefully I'll be able to have the boundaries talk with him.

Don't be sorry for being blunt. I'd prefer it over getting the sugar coat version. Appreciate the feedback! I know there's only so much I can do, and i can't help someone who doesn't want it.

Thank you for the feedback. I want to set strict boundaries but I don't know how to go about setting them.

Really thank you for the words. I really do appreciate it. I'll still stick it out for a little bit and set my boundaries, the next time he gets angry at me, I think I'm going to really analyze whether im helping or if the improvement isn't going anywhere. I'm going into work now! Thank you for...

He used to be in therapy but then he quit. He felt it was useless and he said that the medication would make it worse for him. Thank you for the advice and internet hugs.

Tearing up reading this right now. I've talked to my brother about this and he knows the type of person I am, he says I shouldn't be the person that tries to fix people. I wanna see this a little bit longer because I don't want to quit so soon and end up abandoning him and making him feel like...

Been seeing my marine vet for a few months, and official with the whole label for a month now. On his good days, he's very sweet, very appreciative for the things I do. The only thing I guess I messed up was that I went out with a few of my friends/coworkers after work which is what I usually...

My vet does the same thing about his "friends." He will only hang out with them if they ask to though, never him asking them to hang out.

I've explained to them that our relationship is a bit different because of it and they still find it hard to understand why I stay in the relationship. Majority of the time he's the sweetest guy I know, only time we've ever really had a problem seems to be whenever alcohol is involved at least...

Good to know I'm not alone. Within the short time he met a few of my friends he already created a long list of what he didn't like about them saying that he can read people easily and can tell whether they're a good person or not.

I was just wondering if and when your introduced him/her to your friends, if it was negative or positive. My boyfriend is a marine and has always been negative about having friends in general. He really doesn't think of anyone that close to him besides me, his family, and his fellow marines...

Hi! Just wanted to know what are your experiences when your SO with PTSD gets in that "I don't want you" kind of state. I've been seeing a former marine who has told me about his PTSD for a month now. He's fairly moved fast when it comes emotionally, he's told me that he loves me. And as...

No honestly thank you for the advice. Really do appreciate it!

Thank you for your advice! Merry Christmas as well to you. Earlier he and I were sitting in his truck. It's not the first time he's told me, but he says hes wasting my time because he looks forward to dying. He says he wants to die. He tells me I better hope I don't f*ck up. A few other cold...

Hi, I new user here. I came across this because I was doing research for PTSD, reason being is that I've recently started dating someone with PTSD who was also in the marines. I really like him and I feel this can go somewhere. I realize how hard it can be, that it is definitely different from...