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Dear all, You were all very kind and helpfull to me when I came here for advice. I'm writing a short message to you all, to let you know that me and my ex-boyfriend are back together. We are taking things slowly, but his feeling is coming back and he is happy he is not feeling that numb...

yeah so with a lot of stress, emotional numbing is one of the 'effects' to deal with all the stress?

I've witnessed emotional numbing with my ex-boyfriend. I didn't know he had ptsd, but suddenly he told me his feelings were gone and he didn't know the reason. I still wanted to be with him and figure it out together. (therapy?) Not many weeks later I found out he had ptsd and it all make sense...

So, if I understand correctly: when the ptsd cup is full, that's when, for example, the emotional numbing kicks in?

I understand what you guys are saying, I didn't express myself correct. Ptsd is never gone, he has to live with it and learn what his triggers are/can be. He need to listen more to his body, because he was always busy and never took a step back. Our honeymoon phase was already over after 4...

Yeah I reached out to a therapist only she couldn't really help me at this point. Was very disappointing...If we were in a relationship, I definitely want to go to a therapist, because I see it isn't easy. I'm reading books about ptsd, to try to understand it more and more :) I know that the man...

He is still distance with texting, no kind or loving words..or asking how i am doing :) So I'm not getting my hopes up high, but I'm just staying in his life on the sideline...and who knows. I have given myself a couple of weeks to see if something is improving...

It's very confusing I know he still cares about me and the love is somewhere deep inside...Let's hope it will come back again :) I know deep down inside it's because of the money, but...it's also with a friend he is now seeing a couple times a week. I know there's nothing between them, but it...

I know money wise it's smart, but it hurts. I don't think he needs a lot of space anymore. the first 2/3 weeks he needed that, but he is texting me and he asked me to meet next week to hang out. I will wait for him to contact me, so i'm giving him space, but there is contact ;) I notice...

Thank you for your kind words :) Yesterday I talked to my therapist, but I didn't find it very helpful. She really can't help me much because I'm not letting go so she can't help me with that now. She told me that EMDR therapy can already change things within 6/7 sessions. So, I have decided to...

I understand what you are all trying to say. ? It's hard to hear of course. Letting the one you love and care for so much go, is not something that is easy to do. ? But call me a fool or whatever, but I really see potential in him getting 'better'. His ptsd will never disappear and he needs to...

He makes me happy

Thank you all. I know the message is: focus on yourself and talk with a counselor. Im having an appointment this week so i hope she can give me advice and it will help me move on a bit. But...it is hard to let him go and give up on him, because he is staying in contact with me and wants me to...

Thank you for your kind words ? I know PTSD is different with every person, so its so confusing when I hear: distance is the key...and the next thing I notice is he texting me. It's not about emotions or how I am doing...so safe subjects, but still. He is "reaching out". Today we saw each other...

True, he said he wanted space so he was clear. But when he said it, i didn't know it was because he was suffering from ptsd. But I gave/give him space. I'm waiting for him to contact me, which is basically almost every day. So that's what's confusing me a bit ;) But i'm the one who ask if he...

He said before that he was a broken man (little did I know..) and that if it didn't work out with me, it wouldn't work out with anybody. He was very capable of giving love and we were happy, still very attractive to each other after one year. But I think the ' losing things' (moms partner, work)...

Dear all, I want to thank you all for the responses and for trying to help me. It's a lot of information and I have to read it a couple of times to let it all in. My head is just all over the place and there is a difference in what my head and my heart says. I'm new in all of this, never...

It is hard, because the last 10 months we were together he was loving, would do anything for me and we were happy. We were open to each other, could talk about everything...and this has changed because of losing somebody and losing his work. He said a couple of weeks ago that he doesn't know if...

Thank you for your response. I haven't talked about our relationship for 4 weeks now. I often wait for him to contact me, and i'm the one who is asking if we can hang out or have a walk. It's up to him if he wants that and when. So i'm not pressuring him at all anymore...BUT...he always said...

First of all: thanks for you responds. I made some adjustments in your comment :) Yes he has. This happened 7 years ago. For 3/4 years he tried to get her back via lawsuits. I don't want to get too much details out, but they abduct her back to her country and he got a ban to ever visit that...

Hi all, I want to share my story with you guys and I hope I can get some strength and advice. I'm sorry in advance for my long story ;) I've been together for 1 year with my (now ex)-boyfriend. A couple of years ago he suffered from a big trauma with involved losing his wife. She collapsed in...