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Thanks so much, it is true, the longer without contact the easier it is. I hope he is sorting himself out and is getting the help he needs-now we can both move on x

I have been in this same position-only it's taken me three years and over ten times of him telling me its over to realise that, no it doesn't end! If I could have told myself one thing at the beginning that I have learned during this time is to do what you're doing and concentrate on you and...

Dear all just an update on this as a lot has happened over the past month! The first weekend in June was a real turning point-I saw him the Saturday evening and a lot of alcohol was consumed respectively-although we got on ok and no problems arose from that. He woke up on Sunday wanting more...

It's funny you should say its one thing for them to have PTSD but another thing to let it all be about them, last night I had a tirade of obscenities sent by text and then he rang me to tell me there's 'nothing there' and I have 'no f-ing respect' Irionic seeing as I was working a night shift...

It seems indirect communication like emails and texts are easier for them to communicate with! I too had a long email essentially apologising and then this has since instigated contact again. He called me some ten times the day following the horrendous attack on a soldier in London as he was...

Thank you-I am inclined to agree with you peekieblue- just this past week he to me to leave him alone then has messaged me since firstly apologising then almost being empathetic towards me to then flaring up again saying he doesn't want to talk to anyone. I think his team are onto him in terms...

He has used drink as a coping mechanism for a very long time and will not entertain real help. The ongoing pressure of his home life has really brought this to the fore and I fear it's a matter of time before he implodes under the strain. He has been messaging me since, seemingly now he has...

Thank you, it has taken me almost three years to realise that this is not acceptable behaviours. He needs to help himself now I can do no more

Well sure enough on Friday just as I finished work I received an email just saying 'I never made you happy!!' I can glean from this he was drinking and at that point I almost messaged back, but I didn't. Considering he told me to leave him alone four days ago and he's messaged me since I can...

I understand what you're going through, the only emotion my now ex has shown me over the past five weeks is anger. Usually in message format be it text or email. We've been together off and on for three years and when we get close he finds fault in the slightest thing and gets angry and ends...

Today I was feeling much more confident in my way of thinking, that was until I got an email from him saying no hard feelings, I just wanted us to be happy and we shouldn't have done that (argued) to each other the other weekend, he is struggling to cope at home and take care. Considering...

Thank you x I think I will need to as I know he will be drinking this week at some point and despite my asking him not to, I'm sure I will be in the firing line at some stage. Your support is greatly appreciated: my friends don't even want to hear his name x

Thank you for your support Bilby-I am beginning to realise this, he has messaged me since saying I don't know the half of it and he had no intention of contacting me despite agreeing to meet today a few days ago, I am apparently just thinking of myself. I have asked that he not contact me any...

Just to update on this-I kept to my word and left him to it for a few days and sent a text earlier arranging to meet later as agreed on Sunday however I was told in no uncertain terms that it is goodbye and the grounds are that he has received a caution from the military police for smoking in...

Thank you discarded; this has helped me greatly. I know he will not change and this seemingly endless circle of making up and breaking up will see me lose more years hoping he will see sense. My friends in particular are at their wits end with this as they see me constantly affected by...

When he is himself he is the sweetest most sensitive man I know, he is thoughtful and though, not often can be romantic. However this does not happen very often and today for example I have heard nothing from him at all, I know he is having various medical tests including blood pressure which...

Thank you-I appreciate your honesty. You have confirmed what I have been suspecting for some time. I might add also that his remaining natural parent has developed a serious illness and naturally he is consumed with this and though I have tried to be a support to him I am seen as a hindrance and...

I have been in the relationship off and on for almost three years. I am still no further forward. He was open from the start explaining he had PTSD and what had attributed to it (combat/abuse/family issues) however I had no real understanding of what this might entail. We started off being...