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I had to read this again to get caught up. Personally, I wouldn't go back. It's basically been 6 months and now he gets to pop back in your life just like that? It's your decision, but I wouldn't go to a BBQ. I'd *maybe* get a cup of coffee and see what he has to say. A BBQ is too social of an...

It's good you are seeing a counselor to help you through this. You need to stand your ground and be yourself, so if he gets angry at you for disagreeing on something, that's not a good sign. It's also not a good sign that that is happening so early in your relationship. I think he laid his cards...

Hi @Margo56, that is a red flag to me that you say that. You are basically saying you would change who YOU are in order to be with this man. Be you and be real...don't change yourself in order to be someone you think a man may want. That's not being honest in a relationship. It appears to me...

@CharlotteB ... I agree with @Sweetpea76 . She offers a ton of great advice as a supporter. I went through what you did and there was nothing I could do, and you as well. My guy just vanished and I haven't heard from him since December. If your sufferer needs space, he needs to have the decency...

Thank you all so very much. :) @FridayJones that picture post is hilarious.

...and possibly a temporary DID. Or just a guy who juiced up abroad and relapsed after trying to reingage to civilian life.

Holy crap man, DID. I just read up on that. WOW...I don't even know what to say...but that is seriously what could be happening.

Probably right and if those are getting mixed with whatever else he's on, guess that can be a kooky med cocktail.

Since I discovered this website, I have become very interested in PTSD. For those that may or may not know how I arrived here, it was through a military BF I had at the time who has combat PTSD. I'll try to explain what I mean regarding my posted question. I have moved on and healed from him...

OMG @Glara , I also had to delete mine off of FB. He would parade around on there as if he was Mr. Fabulous. It broke my heart seeing that stuff all whilst being shut out. I guess he noticed I took him off, because he then deactivated his. He used to tell me that he only stayed on FB for me. I...

@Glara WOW...my story is somewhat similar. I've known mine for 20 years and like you guys, we dated once before and he's always been in my life as a friend. 20 years ago, I was way too young to want anything serious and not long after that, he was joining the Navy. I wanted no part in being a...

@Glara ... I think that's sort of typical behavior from what I've learned on here, read, and was told by therapists. My ex did the same thing...literally fell of the face of the earth. One day texting sweetie this and that to the next day a very militaristic text that was so odd to read. Then...

Yup, @FridayJones . He told me he got diagnosed after his tour in Iraq about 8 years ago. He was taking all sorts of meds when we first started dating, but then I noticed as time went on, he was down to one. He told me I made him so relaxed and comfortable. Anyway, this last flare up he thought...

My ex casually mentioned it when we first started dating, but told me it was under control. Well, so he *thought*. Major panic and triggers towards the end of last year. He completely vanished on me and never talked to me at all about it. If he just would have explained things, I would have...

No doubt. I hate that I lost my love and best friend to this. There's nothing I can do anymore and it's very painful knowing that I tried and tried and got zero response. I know he's living a very sheltered life right now and has likely shut more out than myself.

Sorry this happened to you. I've been there, but on a much greater scale. One thing I'll say is that it's quite possible that maybe he just wasn't that into you. It was your first meeting in person, so maybe his feelings changed after all the online talking. It's really easy to build someone up...

Ok, from what you describe it does sound like he has PTSD and from his line of military work, I wouldn't doubt it. But if he's never been diagnosed and doesn't get help, he'll never get better. My former military ptsd guy didn't like to talk about what he had seen/done. He would tell me that I...

I agree with Solara that you shouldn't jump to conclusions yet that he has PTSD. Although, I can understand where you are and trying to figure this guy out. After 3 1/2 years and you're still trying to "figure him out" isn't really healthy. He told you right out of the gate that he's not ready...

My guy returned from deployment in late November. I've been shut out since 12/5. He never broke up with me...just had a freak out (for lack of a better explanation) over the phone with me and completely disappeared. Wouldn't answer anything...just poof...gone. I've known this man for almost 20...

I think you'll see on here that most the supporters don't do anything to their sufferers. I was only nice and trying to be understanding to my guy transitioning back home, but it was all on him. The way he talked to me I had never experienced and I think he chose to push me out because he didn't...

Thanks. I hope things work out for the best for you and your vet. It's not fair that he keeps breaking up with you when things get rough. Could it also be that he's afraid you may end things with him, so he tries and beats you to it first? Things are going a lot better for me and I saw a great...

By the way, sorry for kinda hijacking the thread and going off onto my own story. Guess I just wanted to share. I was hurt really bad. Anyway, I can't locate that thread I was mentioning that REALLY helped me a lot in understanding more about combat ptsd. I wish you the best. It's tough for...

Welcome to the forum. I came here too with a somewhat similar, but different story. My ex also suffers from combat related PTSD. He was always very communicative, fun, and sweet to describe him briefly. He came back from his last deployment a jerk. Towards the tail end of his deployment he...

I'm with @Sweetpea76 on this one. Perhaps some of his disappearing acts are because he's with another woman. He's also calling her a friend. Friends don't make out with each other unless they're "friends with benefits." Personally, if I was in your shoes, I'd leave. If your man wants to live...

When he was *mine*, he also really enjoyed soaking in the tub. When he was deployed, I always sent him bath salts in his care packages. He also used to tell me that *I* relaxed him and that his parents noticed how relaxed he was around me. Interesting, given now I'm shut out. Cooking relaxes him...