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For me? I think "being in love" is a myth because when we think we are "in love", we are actually in the infatuation stage. The newness of a relationship where the other person makes us feel goose bumps and that butterfly feeling in the pit of our stomach when they enter a room or look in our...

Welcome. I am a supporter and this forum had been a vital resource for me. You will find so many people here that will jump in and offer you support. Sufferers and supporters alike. Believe me you can ask anything! Prayers for you and your wife!

I personally don't think it was wrong texting her about your grandmother. I believe there are moments in life such as emergency situations that change the situation. I would have done the same thing. I also don't believe you were wrong in saying yes to her request of driving her to her...

A lot of sufferers spend a lot of time on social media. They don't have to face real people in the physical form. My husband is on his phone all the time. He is on disability and has a lot of free time on his hands. He says he has no life. He would befriend people he doesnt know. Some men...

Yes it goes both ways but I know my sufferer has major issues with trust from ANYONE. I can't change that. I cant change him and the way he deals. It's something that PTSD has done to his brain. He cant control it either. He too acts secretive and in the past I used to get insecure about...

Yes yes and yes. Not just one time . . Not just 2 times but many many times. It's part of living and loving someone with PTSD. And you aren't hurting her, she will hurt with or without you. Have you read and educated yourself on the PTSD Stress Cup? You need to read it and understand it...

Is he in therapy? Are you in therapy? I thought I didn't need therapy because he is the one with PTSD, and not me. I'm a strong women. But I finally realized this was bigger than me and finally went. I wished I had done it 20 years ago. I have someone I can vent to, someone that knows all...

And that's where bounderies come in. You may never get the conversation. You may never get to talk certain things out, but you can set your personal boundries and stick by them and he'll learn not to cross them. That being said the same goes to supporters. We have to learn not to cross...

When my husband is in a PTSD episode, he too tells me that I deserve more, that he can't give me what I need and deserve, etc. This is self loathing. In those moments they truly hate themselves. They think they are only hurting us and it bothers them that they are hurting us. In moments like...

Sometimes you aren't going to get the answer no matter how hard you try and that's when you look deep inside and trust your gut!

Yep!!! Heard and seen that from my husband a time or two. Unfortunately, it's normal. They know they love you but they can't "feel" it. It's not You, they go numb on everyone. It's the way the body and mind copes when in survival mode. I know it's heart breaking but this to shall pass...

Sorry for all the screwed up typing. Fat fingers on a little phone and damn predictive text.

This thread has been so educational and eye opening. It's given me a new perspective on many things. Thank you @Freida for putting yourself out there with your honesty and view from the other side. The bottom line is that relationships have to have mutual respect, compromise and understanding...

Well said @Sweetpea76 . Exactly how I feel. I couldn't have said it better myself! It's so hard to understand when you truly don't understand. It's hard to sit back and watch and know there's nothing you can do when your mind is so overcome with ideas of what to do. Sometimes it gets...

I honestly don't believe he meant to "pull you into a relationship without telling you about his PTSD". I think for any of us PTSD or no PTSD we are opt to tell anyone these kind of personal issues. I think when they aren't suffering any episodes, they feel in control and don't see it as an...

@Freida suprisingly I feel the same way as you but on the opisite platform. I back off and give my hubby space because ya'll are constantly saing its vital for your survival and healing. I go against every pull, desire and conviction to firce him to talk to me when hes in that ghost period. I...

@Freida does it seem strange that Im actually relieved that you understand him more than me Lol? It's actually more comforting than you will ever know. It helps me to realize or affirm that it's not me, it's just how he deals. For sufferers we are told not to take it personally because it's...

@Freida THANK YOU!!!! I don't think you realize what an impact you have on on me as a supporter. You're willi guess to share and explain things the way your mind proceeded them helps me understand so much. Thank you for always being open, honest and willing to put yourself out there to help...

Let it slip by like it never happened. It's okay. I know we need or think we deserve an answers but sometimes as my therapist says, they truly don't have an my answers because they don't see the same situation as we did. So calm your nerves and thoughts and remember this has nothing to do...

@Freida as I said before he is a horrible communicator. The big episode was a long time coming. I see it clearly now but I was trying to convince myself it was all in my head lol. I am by nature a very positive, optimistic and giving person. He had a horrific childhood and I don't know most...

@Freida I have a question for you or and sufferer that could possibly help me understand because I truly want to. My suffererer had the worst PTSD episode 4 months ago. It was so bad that I prepared myself that it was the end of our 35 year marriage. It was then I realized that this was bigger...

Oh man, your words sounded like they are the exact words that have come out of my mouth and thoughts. I've been thete so many times and it still catches me off guard. . . You would think that I've gotten used to it and it wouldn't effect me but the sad part about it, it still does. When my...

You're not a heartless bad person!!! Look at it this way. . . Sometime the hardest thing and the right thing are the same thing. Be proud of yourself for being able to stand up for whats right for you!

I know he's your friend and you care about him but friends sometimes take advantage of friends. I realize he's helped you but you are allowing him to stay there rent free. He should have a little nest egg saved up but if he doesn't. . . Well that's not your fault. If he spends all his money...

Welcome. I'm a supporter. What you will find here is both supporter and sufferers point of view and it helps all of us. Great bunch of people here that will answer any question you have with love, grace and dignity. Remember knowledge is power!!