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I stopped believing in god shortly after becoming a nurse. Too much f*cking evil. Can't really think about it enough to detail, but cops and firefighters who've worked arson or neglect scenes. Or do paramedic as well and emts and doctors....you know the kind of evil I talk of.

For me, what made the difference was engaging with that part when it was not in crisis and offering it comfort. In my case, it was simple things that it would accept, such as warm clothes, being wrapped in a blanket, and certain foods being availible. I also keep a notebook that that part draws...

This is helpful to me. I am just now starting with them, and they seem rigid. I will keep in mind that they can be supremely unhelpful, and if it starts to be more trouble than its worth, I can walk away. Knowing what happened to OP will help me not take things personally.

I find it is helpful to periodically have sessions that are just about skills and support. I do this when my ability to function slips or the flashbacks become too intrusive. But yeah, the only way out is through. I also keep an actual checklist of reminders of nice things to do, all of about...

I think that the behaviors people with BPD can show when they are disregulated are similar, or look similar, to the behaviors manipulative people can chose to use. Like, my son has severe anxiety. He can rock back and forth to calm himself. A stubbornly undereducated teacher kept insisting he...

Yeah. I'm a nurse, a pediatric one. But I don't work anymore. I have dreams about washung bodies and trying to zip up the body bags. Baby and toddler bags are white. The zippers won't go up, and they open their eyes and say things like "this is your fault. You did this this and this wrong....."

Sounds wonderful. Have you chosen your new last name yet? My understanding is that Jackson and Brown are the two most common names in the US, and so even if you're family know your new namw, it will be difficult for them to find you. As for you dad feeling sad, consider this. If you had been...

Well, when I get like this, I try to stick to one simple goal at a time. Get dressed. Good. Eat. Good. Get fresh air for five min. Good job! Go to therapy. Triple yay!. I tried to keep in close contact with my therapist and doctor, not think to much about the future, and just do one simple thing...

Do you know how to ground yourself? Can you stop and ground every 30 min or an hour so you don't slip into dissociation? If you do this regularily, you will begin to ground automatically, and you will learn the subtle cues that you are getting flooded, and at risk for dissociating

I think what bothered me was that no mention was made of the situation in the thread. It was just sort of out of nowhere. When people have their own complex beliefs, I find it innoffensive, and just part of who they are. Everyone is different, and it's nice when people can get comfort somewhere

This freaked me out too. I tried to roll with it and ignore it as some insensitive person trying to be helpful......but yeah, I'm now working out how to block that poster.

My T and I talk about attachment a lot. He says it is a big part of the work for ptsd and dissociative disorders. Im pretty uncomfortable being attached to anyone, and have had to work hard to make my marriage work. Luckily when my kids were born my illness was less active and so we have...

Yeah my husband at some point said, you know you didn't have a happy, normal childhood, right? And I has gobsmacked. My current T will say things like, you have been through a lot. If this were happening now, you and your sibs would be taken into care. He says it more as a validating thing...

Thanks for this. I tend to thinking that if sufferers are assholes, that's just sort of where they are. God knows I get there sometimes. I have the utmost respect for service members. Ptsd is just what it is. Differetly roads to the the same shitty place. Appreciate your support

Yeah, I would take him out on a leash

Have you considered setting up a security camera at your door? These systems have come down in price significantly in recent years and use blue tooth to record, I believe. If you can't move, you might want some solid evidence rolling at all times. At the very least, have your cell phone on...

Twice a week, an hour each time. I think that's the ISTD guideline. We had to threaten the insurance (an American hmo) to get that. I also see a psychiatrist at least every 3 months but he's availible by email if, say, we've just changed a drug and I have questions or problems. Currently...

I carry a little kit in a plastic zip bag with a tin of altoids mints, some ginger candy, an egg of silly putty or playdough, a silk scarf doused in Lemon essential oil, a fid it toy called a tangle (availible on amazon), and an in depth card. The index card says " look at your hands. You are an...

I'm not in LE but I'm a nurse whose medically retired from ptsd. Nurses and cops generally have good relations, so I'll stick my nose in here. One of the therapists I liked, but ended up not going to, specialized in treating "first responders" meaning LE, EMS, ER nurses and docs. So that phrase...

I spelled it wrong. It's urge surfing like on a surf board oops. Laura

I second the idea of finding a female doctor and explaining you are working toward it but are not there yet. If not sympathetic, go see another doctor. My husband still goes with me and holds my hand during exams. You may not need a pap smear and internal exam to get on bcp. You are correct that...

You just have to take it moment by moment. Keep as busy as possible. Stay out of the house, if you can manage to get out. Do some tricky cleaning task, like taking everything out of the kitchen cupboards, check the dates wipe the shelves, and put it all back. Look up "urge surffing" on the...

Your children automatically answer all land line phones , and never hand you the phone, no mater who it is. They always say "she's not availible, please give me your name and number and she'll call back". My older son once remarked, " mom, Jesus could be calling to tell you the lion was going to...

Keep as is please.

I followed direction, but the study was not listed. Could you perhaps provide a direct link? I'd like to help but not if it's going to frustrate me to no end