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I do understand, that if he was somebody else, I probably would have taken this much nore serious. I am making exuses because we been together for many years, and he has never done stuff like this before. He told me lacked intimacy, and thats way he thought he did it.

I find him a bit eccentric and I tend to despise him a little bit for his way of behaving and that he does not always takes care of his looks.

I have been together with the same man for 7 years, and we have a 4-year old together. A couple of years ago, I began to address problems related to my childhood: Being raised by a mother who I think of as slightly narcissistic and tyrannically today. There was emotional, and also mild...

I know its slippery. My point is, this man has shown me what it feels to be loved, even though we dont have a relationship, and even though some of it might also just be in my head. I am thinking about wether my husband will be able to love me and if I will be able to love him, or if it will be...

I was afraid someone would answer this. He says he can change somethings, and other things he cant. And I am afraid he cant even change what he says he want to change. The reason why I think I am dearing look at the badsides of our relationship, is that I fallen totally for my boss in a period...

I am so confused. Since Ive started therapy one and a half year ago and started working with my trauma and relationships, I have been, in the back of my mind, afraid that I chose a partner that cannot give me what I desire of empathy and love. Like my mother could not give me. I know I have...

Hi. I am glad my thread could inspire you. I must idmit, that the reason I dont post much in here, is because I am high functional, and I dont even got a diagnosis. I am in therapy because of childhood trauma though, so I can relate to alot of the symptoms of complex ptsd (which does not even...

Thank u for your answer. I have been seeong this therapist for little more than a year, but only like once a month. Last session we were more «friendly» than before, talking to eachother like to equal individuals. Earlier I guess I have looked on him like an authority figure. It made me wonder...

Thank u! I agree..I think I need to ask my therapist the first question, because i am afraid to be a burden, to be unwanted. And I will look at the questions from time to time, see if anything changed. Great tip!

~ Do you think its ok I am still seeing you? Or do you think I am complaining and weak? ~ Do you fear I am a bad mother because of my childhood? ~ Do you see my shame? ~ Do you think there is something important I am not telling you? ~ Do you believe in me? Anything you want to ask your...

I think you are right...

I dont think I will be able to bring this up in therapy, I am afraid. I guess I dont want him to think less of me, and its not something I am proud of either..

Yeah, I should probably bring it up, but I am afraid that he either find me repulsive/creepy and get worried about me trying to get to close to him. I dont know, do you talk to your therapist about your relationship with the therapist? Is that vrealy normal? I just dont know if he is the kind...

Yes, I guess you got a point..But how exactly do one work with building healthy relationships in therapy? I never really thought of my relationships as unhealthy before therapy - but I slowly came to realize that I am not the most "open" person in the world, and I have realize I am afraid to...

I usually wear what I would put on at work. But as you, always pants and I prefer not to show much skin in general. I always think about how I want to present myself - I dont want it to seem like I have been dressing up.

This is a bit embaressing, but since I`ve started therapy, I also kinda stalk my therapist online. I am afraid I am a little too obsessed of him. I often go into his homepage to see if he has written anything new (and he never does), and to read the same sentences over and over again - what he...

In my area it seems to be a lot of options for those who has experienced sexual trauma in childhood. There are support-groups, centres, and a lot of offers - even free therapy. Sexual abuse is horrible, and I understand that the focus is important and I am glad there are so many ways to seek...

So....the one thing you miss from the therapists you have been with is empathy? This is a bit funny, but I went to my therapist a few months some years ago. He helped me get over a short but hard period of time in my life, but he never really reacted on the things I told him about my childhood...

I am sorry, I am not sure what you mean about this? (English is not my native language)

Yes, then you know how I feel. I feel good about being able to function in work. I know that many here with ptsd cant work, but it is hard with these "flashbacks". I work 30 hours a week, cant work less because of the money. I hope to find a job soon, where I can use my education, but that is...

I`ve had a couple of really hard days at work. I work in the telemarketing business - its temporarily, but I thought I would try it. It`s ok actually, but lately my results been bad. I go to work and I hate myself. I then get negative response from customers. Then I hate myself a little bit...

Makes sense :)

Thank you for your answer. I have been thinking about why it was so difficult talking about my trauma again - I thought that I had been talking about everything that was important last year. Maybe because I am in better contact with my feelings now, and maybe because I touched some new aspects I...

When it is painful (after) therapy where you have been talking about your childhood/trauma, still after a 6 month break without talking about it, does that mean I should talk some more about it? Or will it be painful everytime I talk about my trauma in therapy?

Maybe my inner child would tell me to keep her safe, because I can. Ask me to hold her and say it is totally understandable, that she is so confused. She would also tell me she always had hope - like I do now. That`s why I am fighting - and always have. She would tell me that her father loved...