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Here's how I conducted the search: Did a google search for CBT (which works for me) plus trauma or PTSD. I made a list of all the service providers who listed experience in CBT and advertised experience with PTSD. I also went onto P. Today's search and selected "CBT" and "PTSD". I created a...

I'm probably not going to give up on finding a therapist since I'd like to talk about this stuff to someone, but right now probably isn't the best time since I'm focusing on looking for work. I was hoping I could find someone decent quick, but that has not happened, so my only option is doing...

I understand that, I just get bugged out when it seems like people are closing ranks and say that my experiences of something are wrong. Because they aren't wrong. I've had some really bad experiences with therapists in the past. And I'm currently having a lot of difficulty finding the right...

You aren't, and other people haven't. I shouldn't take it so personally when people want to blame the victim, it's a common defense mechanism, especially when there isn't much anyone can do about all the bad stuff in the world. When I say I was abused by highly intelligent sociopathic freaks...

Yeah, except that you said it was me who was the problem. C'mon, you can just scroll up and read it. I think I'm done with this place for a while.

Sure. Due to my abuse I was a very compliant person, had a very poor grasp on thinking for myself, etc. So this therapist led me by the nose. She'd puff up my ego with all sorts of fantastic, blanket statements about how amazing and wonderful I was. She'd tell me my family wasn't abusive, that...

I'm definitely in this place. So you're wrong. I was in this place 2 years ago when a therapist took advantage of my problems. Just because you lucked out on a good experience doesn't make it evidence of a healthy system.

I wouldn't mind working on the emotional issues, but I'm not sure how many people can relate to the emotion of Lovecraftian horror. You know? I've induced temporary madness in people just by sharing a little bit of what I've experienced. How I'm still standing and functioning I have no idea...

Sure. If a person wants to harm themselves, that's their right, and if they lack the desire to change that, then that's also their right and choice. A person outside the individual can't do much about that other than provide treatment. This makes me realize there's an entirely different side of...

Sure. Say a doctor is concerned that you're smoking and says it's bad for your health and you should stop. He's not doing it because of a "relationship", but because it's his job as a medical professional to say that. That's what I'm saying. I'm not talking about "opening up" in some mewling...

Ideal therapist ... here's my personal vision for it. Throw out the "therapeutic relationship" aspect of it. This is a red herring that provides no help or benefit to people because it requires a two-sided delusion that goes beyond the usual roles people play in life, because the therapist...

If this is what the therapist's job is, then maybe the job of therapy needs to change. I'm sorry, but what I've experienced here is completely nonsensical, and in some instances downright dangerous for people. And it makes sense why I've heard so many stories from people about incompetent...

OK, so I've talked to nearly 20 therapists and met a handful of them. I detailed them my life story, and they were basically, "uhuh, ok." Most of them said they couldn't help, and the other ones who offered to take me on as a client basically ignored everything I told them. Now that I'm...

Sorry you have to deal with a public defender. I interned at the Public Defender's office in law school. The only cases that mattered to them were the ones that would get their names in the papers. I made the mistake of actually working hard and winning a positive disposition for one of our...

Thanks for all this good stuff. I'll find a therapist at some point. So far I've invested about 40,000 hours into this project, and I'm coming to terms with it on my own. The issue I'm having is I haven't found a therapist who's willing to work as hard as I am. Naturally since this is my own...

I tried one more therapist before I decide to take a hiatus on this enterprise. This guy gave me a discounted rate and said he was familiar with abuse issues. Sounded alright. I go into the session and he seems totally drugged up on something crazy, like, eyes rolling in the back of his head...

This has to do with my experience of calling up a lot of therapists. Most of them said they couldn't help. That's them.

You're listening to me trying to convince myself that the situation was better than it was. The therapist gave this exercise to write out my "negative thinking" in applying for jobs, but he gave me no guidelines or preparation for it, and based on our intake, he should've known it would...

I've been doing the heavy work on my own for years now. I have hundreds of pages of journal entries, I've read books galore, and I've grown and changed a lot as a person during that period. So no, it has nothing to do with my unwillingness to "do the work". That's one of those stock phrases in...

I've been reflecting on my experience with this therapist, and I realized a few things that may or may not be helpful to people here: * One big mistake I made is that I took this therapist's resume at face value. I did not verify the details of his personal statements and his work experience...

My plan? Enjoy my life as much as possible. I've been working on this for years now on my own. I don't do well with crap help; if there's a therapist who works as well and as thoroughly as I do, I'll hire 'em. But there are a lot of lazy, incompetent, corrupt people in this world (not saying...

I would absolutely love to change my circumstances, this has been my life's work. It'd just be nice if there were some decently qualified therapists out there. I wanted a therapist who could help so badly I was doing that thing where I overlook bullcrap again, which is how I get abused. Once I...

I'm not really listings things here... in this one "exercise" I'm doing, listing negative thoughts about job postings, I had to confront being sexually harassed at my first job, my history of sexual abuse, and the fact that I was thrown to the wolves growing up, making me feel absolutely god...

That's what I'm going to do. It's a shame how hard it is to find a decent therapist.